How To Turn Anxiety Into Charisma

10 giu 2019
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After watching an interview on Jimmy Fallon where Sophie Turner comes across as very charismatic, I started looking into doing a breakdown on her. I was surprised to find that she actually says she struggles in social situations.
On the second watch through, I noticed that hints of nervousness were present in that first Jimmy Fallon interview. So in this video, we’re going to learn what it seems Sophie has learned: how to turn anxiety, shyness, and nervousness into charisma.

4:34 - Strategy #1: Active listening
4:50 - Strategy #2: Mirroring
6:00 - Strategy #3: Elaborate on someone else’s idea
6:31 - Strategy #4: Make fun of your own shyness
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  • someone: hi how you doing? Me: *goes blank trying to remember al the points of the video ------------------------------ Literally, I don't know what I'm doing now. I've watch a lot of videos of this channel and other, and they present a lot of different personalities and now I don't know what to do, I'm mean, I could just go bipolar. TOOMUCHINFORMATIONNNNNNNNNNNNN

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  • Μe: trying to memorize the techniques My brain: hi my name is Chandler Bing and I make jokes when I'm uncomfortable

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  • Μe: trying to memorize the techniques My brain: hi my name is Chandler Bing and I make jokes when I'm uncomfortable

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  • 3:05 Exactly! There's nothing more charming than someone who's shy doing their best to overcome it and get to know you. We always root for people like that.

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  • I just want to say she was perfect on GoT and I hope she knows this.

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  • Once i have enough mental strength to make a phone call it’s over for everyone

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  • Most women that claim they're awkward or introverted are just doing it out of the popularity of the terms, or their perceived attractiveness of that identity. They aren't actually like that. I've only met one true introverted woman in my life.

    Oh its MikeOh its MikeMese fa
  • being self-conscious about your awkwardness = you give off sad, insecure vibes 😔👎🏾 being confident about your awkwardness = you give off positive, happy vibes 😉👍🏾

    palmer491palmer491Mese fa
  • I'm anxious and introvert and still want to be the center of attention, what does that make me (okay, usually alcohol is involved)

    S.S.2 mesi fa
  • dating is hard with depression and anxiety, because girl will decide NO within 30 seconds of meeting you and swipe left, no chance.

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  • Charli d’amelio is an interesting subject! She’s shy but is great at interacting with people. And her rise to fame is fast but she adapts really well. Idk how she can interact with so many people and it looks like she’s really treating person actively

    Najiyah ZalikNajiyah Zalik2 mesi fa
  • Ok, this is me an extrovert awkward beneath anxiety

    Azyra FhugoAzyra Fhugo2 mesi fa
  • My name is Maizie lol

    RavenlyRavenly2 mesi fa
  • She has the same energy as timothee and saorise

    Kristen JonesKristen Jones2 mesi fa
  • do robert pattinson pleaseeee❤️❤️

    j4ylaj4yla2 mesi fa
  • please do robert pattinson

    Melanie RoselleMelanie Roselle3 mesi fa
    • yessss omg

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  • Thank you. This was actually really helpful. Please do more on shyness and social anxiety.

    A HikerA Hiker3 mesi fa
  • I want her to be my friend

    Lilibeth MirandaLilibeth Miranda3 mesi fa
  • Wanna know how to TURN anxiety into charisma? Just call Sophie TURNER

    Guilherme BeckerGuilherme Becker3 mesi fa
  • But she isn’t shy at all😐😐

    Amira SaraAmira Sara3 mesi fa
  • I bet she went to depression again because of dark phoenix.

    no oneno one3 mesi fa
  • Thanks for the tips !

    Wood DwellerWood Dweller3 mesi fa
  • so kind of you to share this helpful info for free

    Bree and StephenBree and Stephen3 mesi fa
  • i eat clit to get over it

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  • How come no one is talking about the thumbnail?? She legit looks like an 80s model.

    Daxy LolDaxy Lol3 mesi fa
  • Potus, my hookers James are charismas

    Robert LustRobert Lust3 mesi fa
  • I actually experienced this before. I was nervous on dates but my anxiety makes me talkative since I feel the need to fill the silence with interesting stories and I bring up anecdotes to relieve the stress. One guy I went on a date with assumed I was the social butterfly type and another person just said I was very charismatic. I guess it all works out in the end and fake it til you make it really works sometimes. Keep smiling and stay engaged and usually people are a lot more willing to talk about themselves when they feel welcomed and listened to.

    sadz catsadz cat3 mesi fa
  • It's basically what Ryan Reynolds does hehe it's cool and adorable

    Melted DiamonMelted Diamon3 mesi fa
  • Very helpful in many aspects!

    Ro with the FlowRo with the Flow3 mesi fa
  • Its not a strategy, its her personality. She's just being herself and completely engaging in the moment. It takes practice, you have to get out there and interact with people even if it feels like you want to crawl out of your skin.

    Rudy DavalosRudy Davalos3 mesi fa
  • I'm loving these, thank you. I am an introvert and anxiety, depression, and self worth issues. i end up being that akward person that people kinda like but at the same time kinda for the help.

    Aubrey MorganAubrey Morgan3 mesi fa
  • Hi, how are you? I seriously hate humans

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  • Its naturally cheecky.

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  • I need to learn how to mirror people better, 🤔 I need better connection w my body🌀 Cos all i do is TALK🙊🙊🙊🙊

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    Kelly PajaresKelly Pajares4 mesi fa
  • Mirroring is a big indicator of female autism

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  • Loved it!

    Hannia CorenaHannia Corena4 mesi fa
  • This makes me feel so much better about being me

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  • Worst question: “what have you been up to lately?”

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  • I’m always shy and clumsy in social interaction but I noticed that making jokes about that helps a lot.

    JanaJana4 mesi fa
  • this called me out so hard

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  • imagine being so nice people make videos about it

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  • I don’t understand how you can be shy and be an actor with camera’s on you, having to speak out onscreen and interviews.

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  • Being a terrible liar is one of the finest qualities a KIND person can have.

    SanbikaSanbika4 mesi fa
  • She has burst of charisma or energy to distract the Nervousness she is clearly feeling, because in those moments she isnt scared, she isnt nervous, those are her true reactions, personal reactions coming out! ❤️❤️❤️

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  • Hey you didn't look for this, did you?

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  • Ok I got #4 in the baaag

    Bella SBella S4 mesi fa
  • This is masking

    Jaime LaffoonJaime Laffoon4 mesi fa
  • studying acting really made me a better communicator; making eye contact, active listening etc

    Mutable AirMutable Air4 mesi fa
  • I have the worst poker face... I’m a terrible liar. I feel like I just saw myself in this video.

    Genesis AnsbroGenesis Ansbro4 mesi fa
  • Ahhh, got it. So cater to other people's egos.

    SamanthaSamantha4 mesi fa
  • I’m so glad to hear that I can have bursts of energy while being normally reserved. I’m concerned it comes off as off-putting or not genuine.

    Gabrielle FowlerGabrielle Fowler4 mesi fa
  • “Start by being vulnerable and open” My mental disorders and unresolved trauma: *it’s my time to shine*

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  • Love the plug for CBT!

    Bethany BurnsBethany Burns4 mesi fa
  • There are people who are really psychos whose gonna trap you in every conversation to show they are above you... Your only defense at that insta-moment is a cold passive attitude towards your verbal attacker... You have the right to remain silence no matter what provocative questions he/she wants you to get engage into. Always be in a cool posture. Dont raise your voice. Set it on level tone and volume. Never use sorry. Give no facial expression. Show whose the agressive ONE in TV and viewers won't forget it. Believe me on this social-behaviour experiment... I f you are pressed to answer questions say this : "you want me to answer that, the way you want to hear it" .. or say... "what can I say? No answer of mine would satisfy you be it the way you want to hear it - as your conviction has been made before this interview has started" dont add more. If she pressed you say "I did I've answered it"

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  • I wanna see her RED HAIR 🥀🌶️

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  • why did joseph gordon levitt go to shake that person's hand like that?? lmao

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  • I see Sophie Turner, I click

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  • She is not shy

    Cxx AnonymousCxx Anonymous5 mesi fa
  • What’s up

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  • Hi

    Nicholas CheapNicholas Cheap5 mesi fa
  • I’m watching this a year later and I feel like I’ve actually absorbed and practiced these?? I’m way better today for sure

    Carolina LimaCarolina Lima5 mesi fa
  • I tried to dislike Sophie because my ex boyfriend was really thirsty for her but it was so hard because of her charisma

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  • It helps when you're naturally gorgeous and have perfect hair and wardrobe. So I just need to get a personal stylist and then I can start trying to put all this into action.

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  • Me with severe social anxiety: 👁👄👁

    Ithinkiamgoing CrazyIthinkiamgoing Crazy5 mesi fa
  • Am I the only one who hates when other people repeat my last words? I mean it's ok if you do it sometimes but like in these clips... it drives me crazy😅

    JuliaJulia5 mesi fa
  • After so many videos about confident strong men, finally a video about... um... insecurity of women.... how about Meryl Streep in the next video

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  • Active listening is hard

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  • She's a doll ❤

    KC VeganaKC Vegana5 mesi fa
  • 2:46 was that clip used on purpose..because it always looks like he’s hiding something.. Such as a frog in his mouth

    Adrianne RossAdrianne Ross5 mesi fa
  • 2:15 and sometimes that bathfulnish can even crosh over

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  • I dont even know why I'm watching this.....I never talk to anyone in real life 😄😄

    Mrs KayMrs Kay5 mesi fa
  • How to turn vulnerability to charisma: First off, you gotta be at least 10/10.

    Green CurtainGreen Curtain6 mesi fa
  • If she has social anxiety then I am not even born.

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  • I'll just stick to Xanax

    AJaeAJae6 mesi fa
  • all celebrities r fake or reptiles or robots

    Jake HartmanJake Hartman6 mesi fa
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  • Step one: be attractive

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    • Step 2: be attractive

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  • For the people here with things like GAD, OCD, or basically whatever else, this is about general worry. The disorders are different. Though, these tips aren't necessarily useless, but will be harder to accomplish because your body/brain fights you.

    aztec.dragonaztec.dragon6 mesi fa
  • that part at 3:23 just absolutely melted me.....❤👋😶my heart, ma'am, take it it's yours

    Katherina LynKatherina Lyn6 mesi fa
  • I'm about to be charismatic as heckkk B)

    Aanya PrasadAanya Prasad6 mesi fa
  • Ahhhhhhhhh! I feel like I’m a psychopath taking lessons on how to fake my association to the world! Learn this! Be like this! However, really be like this, but still.... be yourself. What the frack?! Fuuuuuuuuuhcccck

    WhyUgot2doThat ?WhyUgot2doThat ?7 mesi fa
  • She looks freaking gorgeous in that red dress daym!

    lis4lis47 mesi fa
  • It helps her that she is beautiful. Try being like this and not being pretty

    Lisa WadhamsLisa Wadhams7 mesi fa
  • I can tell that she’s not faking and she’s just a very nice person

    Alice PikachuAlice Pikachu7 mesi fa
  • now I have a crush on her

    Thorstn BöhleThorstn Böhle7 mesi fa
  • It’s easy said but it’s soooo difficult in reality >.< especially with social anxiety

    Anne NevilleAnne Neville7 mesi fa
  • Nahh.. she is just a covert narc playing the shy girl..

    John HooperJohn Hooper7 mesi fa
  • anxiety isn’t shyness

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  • I enjoyed this video. My first time watching a video fr this channel.

    Lindsey PalmerLindsey Palmer8 mesi fa
  • She’s very much like Sansaa

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  • Timothee chalamet is the best example

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  • Me right now: memorizing these tips, rehearsing in my head Me tomorrow at work: "how do you do fellow kids?"

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  • I 100% agree with the self deprecating jokes

    Jaqueline V.Jaqueline V.8 mesi fa
  • 😆 I think I am already doing this and I have not been diagnosed with anxiety.

    Bettina OrevilBettina Orevil8 mesi fa
  • Nowadays getting depressed is so easy right...its not fair for people who actively are suffering from mental illness

    Priyanka ShankholiaPriyanka Shankholia8 mesi fa
  • Okay at 2:36 I felt that idk why

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