8 TERRIBLE Dating Mistakes Movies Push You To Make

2 mar 2020
559 580 visualizzazioni

Check out Charisma University:
Subscribe to Charisma On Command’s ITworlds Account:

Almost all of our expectations about love and relationships have been set by Hollywood.
The problem is that these movies are putting absurd ideas into your mind about what love really looks like, which can lead to some boneheaded decision making, maybe even ruining what could have been a great relationship.
So in this video we’ll look at 8 ways Hollywood ruins your relationships.

0:32 - #1: Movies train us to substitute emotional intensity for emotional quality.
2:09 - #2: The perfect person will magically take interest because they see the real you deep inside.
3:20 - #3: Love at first sight
4:13 - #4: Love, in Hollywood, is proven by ignoring explicit rejection.
5:43 - #5: Giving large unrequested gifts as a way to make amends.
7:14 - #6: Pursuing someone who is currently in a relationship is romantic and not at all doomed to failure.
8:12 - #7: Suffering, dependence and self sacrifice are all treated as indicators of love.
9:22 - #8: A romantic relationship is the solution to the problem of life.
#CharismaOnCommand #DatingMistakes

Connect with us further:
Website: www.charismaoncommand.com
Facebook: facebook.com/charismaoncommand
Instagram: @CharismaOnCommand
Or if you want to see our personal stuff:
Instagram: @CharlieHoupert
Instagram: @IamBenAltman

  • Wait, saying "You complete me" is a sign of love ? Damn Joker must Really love batman then

    The Seeker of DanknessThe Seeker of Dankness9 ore fa
  • "Love is the delusion that one woman differs from another." - H.L. Mencken

    John HarrisonJohn Harrison10 ore fa
  • The fact life is not complete unless we have a romance, is the single worst lesson Hollywood teaches us. It causes so much pain and suffering. The work has to be done on our own, single. Not to be saved by someone else. Amen brother.

    雯倩蕭雯倩蕭Giorno fa
  • Hmmm grand gestures maybe Hollywood helped create narcissistic behavior of Love Bombing after treating someone like crap. Also mimicking the drama of the up and down intense emotions in Romance movies.

    Viviana SamakusafifiViviana SamakusafifiGiorno fa
  • Or you could stop living your life after the movies you watch? Who wants to watch a boring movie with no conflict? Wanna watch Predator where they go to the jungle and nothing happens and everyone gets along? Yeah i don't think so. Or maybe Batman where he ask the Joker "Batman: Hey man, could you please not terrorize gotham? Joker: Oh i wasent going to, wanna grab a beer?"

    kim8dkkim8dk2 giorni fa
  • Real life princes are narcissists

    Naota AkatsukiNaota Akatsuki3 giorni fa
  • Point 6. The Office: Jim and Pam relationship is one of the main plots of the series and the tension is built because she is dating,and supodsely marrying, with the other rude guy, but she is cheating on him with Jim. Interesting how the show presents Jim as the cool guy but he always run away when Roy is around and Roy is bad because he does not set up the wedding and Pam is the victim when in reality is the other way around.

    David ADavid A4 giorni fa
  • So basically, western romance movies take the redemption fantasies of losers who get rejected, then play them out on screen as though their strategy would be normal and successful.

    Robe RobisonRobe Robison4 giorni fa
  • No one has ever died from love, once you learn that you´ll start doing great on it

    Alberto RamosAlberto Ramos5 giorni fa
  • 👏👏👏 Yes!

    Juvena VeraJuvena Vera5 giorni fa
  • I love this company CU 😎😍😍

    Shankz - Clube dos Betas †Shankz - Clube dos Betas †6 giorni fa
  • Uh, now I know why I always hated the notebook!.

    melsis2785melsis27856 giorni fa
  • Reason and logic dictate that romance isn't love but obsession which in turn is a dangerous mental state or condition to be in or to have. Sentiments are unfiltered thought processes chemically created and emitted in the brain. The main filtering material is analytical thinking for which requirements are again reason and logic. I call it intellectual enquiry. As someone who does not trust people and view them as but pieces if a planet full of mindless and fanatical horde of slightly evolved conscious and aware barbarians when I put exceptions aside who are impossible to come by and thus to connect with, I see no point or reason to become lazy and make a habit of strengthening unfiltered thought processes as opposed to filtered ones. The former is you choose to not exercise your brain by not looking into experiences whether personal or external

    Roman KaiserRoman Kaiser6 giorni fa
  • Hollywood romance is actually the opposite what men and women should be doing. In Hollywood movies you see men bringing flowers and chasing the girl who rejected him, they also seem to make men that they are always at fault even if they hadn't done anything wrong. And this is what make men weak and rejected.

    AhabRawGamingAhabRawGaming7 giorni fa
  • I just watched this and I ended up with more hunger for a sick hollywood romance... 😂😂😂 All those romantic seen together 😍 😂😂😂

    Hanif Bozorgi MakraniHanif Bozorgi Makrani10 giorni fa
  • This video makes me think it would be nice to see a video about female charisma or factors other than being just pretty from Charisma on Command perspective. What do you think?

    JustJuditJustJudit11 giorni fa
  • Self-love and lessened relience on romantic relationships isn't as profitable.

    tads73tads7313 giorni fa
  • I love how at the end of each video he gives a little pep talk bout how amazing people are

    alec colesalec coles16 giorni fa
  • Give yourself the love you want from someone else

    Sidra KamalSidra Kamal23 giorni fa
  • Welcome you to Bollywood 😑

    Creative ClubCreative Club26 giorni fa
  • The entire romcom genre is basically confusing psychopathy with romance.

    Keeley HassanKeeley HassanMese fa
  • Question: Can your course teach you how to accomplish the opposite? Say for example, you're in a situation where you don't want people to gravitate towards you and you just wanna go do your own thing.

    Joseph BedwellJoseph BedwellMese fa
  • ppl think that movies represent life and present u with scientific knowdlege about life but... no honey

  • this worldd omg then ... theyll go to youtube to see a love tarot reading for their sign to see whats going on

  • 09:21 what movie does Rashilda Jones play also Ryan put me in so much drama

    Gamze KoruGamze KoruMese fa
  • Drama is bad ... that doesnt mean you should be boring and that way lose the affection of your partner etc

    Marus GorenMarus GorenMese fa
  • No 50 shades of gray is how to indoctrinate people aka brain washing look it up he goes through all 8 steps like when he gave her a muffin he said eat she refused and he left with no warning making her feel bad making her question her decision/self then he makes her eat from a specific list only whear what he wants and alienates her from friends and family it's a how to video on how to indoctrinate girls so in short no 50 shades of grey is a movie about abuse not love

    DR.Acula AndersonDR.Acula AndersonMese fa
  • Somebody’s been watching Coach Corey Wayne 👌🏾

    The Life Of SimbaThe Life Of SimbaMese fa
  • You were significantly more polite than After Hours was about just how toxic romcoms have been/are.

    Anon YmousAnon YmousMese fa
  • It's crazy, I literally believed all of those points

    Silvia Di MartinoSilvia Di Martino2 mesi fa
  • 1. Most women actually love emotional rollercoaster... 2. True but only for men. 3. Women decide almost at first sight... 4. In real life no, unfortunately doesn't mean no (if you're handsome) 5. True. 6. Man in relationship is way more attractive to other women. 7. Look 1. 8. True, never tell a woman she's your world. If you do relationship is over.

    nSanenSane2 mesi fa
  • very good analysis of one basic problem

    Human Lives Matter!Human Lives Matter!2 mesi fa
  • Romantic films and comedies is the way men become blue pilled and manipulated to pedastalise women. And eventually fail in relationships.

    Argento 777Argento 7772 mesi fa
  • Good point...stalking is promoted in 99% of love movies. Yet at the same time we are being told that it is wrong and harassment. Why is that so? And why do the feminazis not jump on those movies? Is it because the stalker is usually a Chad?

    Long JohnsonLong Johnson2 mesi fa
  • I find that disney princess movies brainwash little girls. Only a small few like Frozen and Mulan don't really, and Pixar ones like The Incredibles show a realistic relationship. I think the suffering thing is used to create drama and tension, which makes movies entertaining.

    Lava YukiLava Yuki2 mesi fa
  • 3:15 just like me

    Verne FitsVerne Fits2 mesi fa
  • Mila Kunis 🔥 🔥 🔥 🔥 🔥

    VoiceOfTheSoulVoiceOfTheSoul2 mesi fa
  • movies try to program you to be a simp

    TVBUUTVBUU2 mesi fa
  • Some side characters can help lmao

    GODAssasinGODAssasin2 mesi fa
  • No introvert magically transforms into an extravert, never take advice from someone who's incentivized to say what you want to hear... This is about one of the guys who commented and about the guy who made the video, you should ask this guy who made this video if he has a successful and long lasting relationship which he just can't have because of his age and therefore you shouldn't take advice from someone like him. For real relationship advice ask your grandma and grandpa if they have been together for 30 or 40 years, they always know what's best for you relation wise.

    Ricardo PendersRicardo Penders2 mesi fa
  • I believe Noah already had the house built before seeing Allie again and then she sees him in a picture while getting ready for her wedding. Allie see Noah first. Not the other way around.

    Joe TrouttJoe Troutt2 mesi fa
  • Hollywood is simp machine

    Mr. HelperMr. Helper2 mesi fa
  • God almighty .this brings back things i'd rather 4get smh

    Ahmed fuseini alhassanAhmed fuseini alhassan2 mesi fa
  • “Girls love guys that are stable, realistic, & take good care of themselves ....... that’s why all she watches are movies with serial killers, and prison inmates”

    Zareef TashfiqueZareef Tashfique2 mesi fa
  • These 8 things are what women want... from a desirable man

    E115E1152 mesi fa
  • The ending of La La Land is like a black pearl in an ocean filled with poison that is Hollywood.

    Merciful TorturerMerciful Torturer2 mesi fa
  • Way off the mark. There is nothing more pathetic than someone who is so secure and has such self confidence that they loudly proclaim how grand it is to be alone and friendless.

    Rich BarronRich Barron2 mesi fa
  • These was supper deep these is exactly what happened to me my life flashed in between the video

    Sergio MendezSergio Mendez2 mesi fa
  • yo, im just saying, we aint got time for these hoes in 2020. Get money son!

    Chiko TemboChiko Tembo2 mesi fa
  • It isnt stalking if you are a 7 or higher

    kagebunshinnnkagebunshinnn2 mesi fa
  • And girls who expect this are also destroying dating. Must be 6,0 or more fit body and good job and loyalty. Guys want under 200lbs, loyalty, and good housewife, then they claim too high of standards.

    The elephant In the roomThe elephant In the room2 mesi fa
  • Aww man this reminded me of honest trailer Lol

    Orrin RikerOrrin Riker2 mesi fa
  • Okay, I get what you are saying, but you need to acknowledge the use of symbolism and archetypes in storytelling. You might as well be seriously admonishing people to not fight wizards with swords, because walking around stabbing people is really anti-social and criminal. You complain about the dramatic license but don't acknowledge the greater truths that these stories tell. Especially the female heroes journeys of taming the beast. Give women (and people) a little more credit that they can tell the difference between the beast that is the shadow half of the human Psyche that must be tamed and incorporated, and some creep abusing them. The Notebook, on the other hand...I literally have no clue why anyone likes that.

    Rachel RasmussenRachel Rasmussen2 mesi fa
  • 273 people still believe in fairytales and how the perfect person will swoop them off their feet.....and will probably still be single in their 50s

    Git GudGit Gud2 mesi fa
  • Rick grimes

    Zein AlbasamZein Albasam2 mesi fa
  • Romeo and Juliet wasn’t about love, it was about two teenagers in “lust” not “love”.

    PFYT88PFYT882 mesi fa
  • Revolutionary Road is the only romance movie close to reality

    Milan PenkMilan Penk3 mesi fa
  • Hollywood love seems incredibly shallow.

    Kiri SeraphKiri Seraph3 mesi fa
  • Ah so good. Thank you for making that.

    jbecsablejbecsable3 mesi fa
  • Thank god you didnt put a scene of When Harry met Sally as an example

    Ivan Sanchez PenzovIvan Sanchez Penzov3 mesi fa
  • Charlie, I love you, your advice changed my life, but Romeo was 18, Juliet was the 13 year old.

    Ruben DurrandRuben Durrand3 mesi fa
  • This is one of the best videos I’ve seen in a long time🙌🏼 thank you

    Sbentsen27Sbentsen273 mesi fa
  • I just find it funny how he makes the point that our romatic partner can't complete us,that we need to be more confident and few seconds later goes to plug his shity $597.00 programme on how to become more confident.Basicly saying love cant help us but his grosly overpricesed course can.

    Ognjen PlamenacOgnjen Plamenac3 mesi fa
  • ro·man·ti·cize verb gerund or present participle: romanticizing deal with or describe in an idealized or unrealistic fashion; make (something) seem better or more appealing than it really is.

    PyrelaPyrela3 mesi fa
  • I forgot how terrible all those movies were. Hollywood needs to die in a fire.

    joe allenjoe allen3 mesi fa
  • Agreed.

    Gary SmithGary Smith3 mesi fa
  • Thank you. I actually feel like love has to be hard.

    David DavidsDavid Davids3 mesi fa
  • This video should be shown in primary schools 👏🏼👏🏾👏🏿

    PaulaPaula3 mesi fa
  • Yes. But, Groundhog’s day was a special circumstance.

    SJDSJD3 mesi fa
  • Love at first sight is 100% real. Sorry, you are wrong about that. My wife and I where love at first sight and we have celebrated our 10th anniversary last November. The feeling you get is far beyond surface level attraction. It's a recognition. It's a feeling of "hey, there you are. Finally". When it happens to you it is absolutely undeniable and impossible to ignore.

    Destra LDestra L3 mesi fa
  • Fantasies are only maintainable by highly intellectual thrill loving understanding partners.

    SansaraSansara3 mesi fa
  • Whenever I see a stalker standing outside with flowers: Turn off the TV. You have watch to much hollywood

    Morgan JonassonMorgan Jonasson3 mesi fa
  • Top tip; actors are emotional prostitutes and shallow, fake people. Never listen to them and never look to them for good examples.

    John SmithJohn Smith3 mesi fa
  • It would be nice to flash the movie titles at the bottom of the frame.

    George TsitsianiGeorge Tsitsiani3 mesi fa
  • Meredith Grey in Greys Anatomy put it quite good when fighting with Derek shortly before his character died: "I can live without you. But I don't want to" - in the end, she decided to be with him, not because she can't deal otherwise, but because she deems him worthy. Of course the whole tv-show is not a guide to a happy ending, but that scene was good.

    MsBetsyTMsBetsyT3 mesi fa
  • It would have been instructive if this video had commented on how Hollywood promotes violence against men as an element of romantic drama .

    DQ SkymagneDQ Skymagne3 mesi fa
  • I almost forgot something much important, perseverence leads to greater/happy ending. Man and woman in their love life, need to persevere challenges that comes in their romance journey.... Lastly, SENSE OF BALANCE is truly needed to stabilise the relationship. Man and woman need to be fair with each other and be MINDFUL of each other's authentic desires and when that happens, they both achieve a sense of balance leading to a happy love life....

    Edwin MuchiriEdwin Muchiri3 mesi fa
  • From my own view, women are so obsessed with romantic movies, series, or stories from social media thinking that such "magical" experiences will be the same for them. WRONG!!!! COMPLETE BS!!!!! Those actors and actresses do such roles in the filming scenes for money and promotion purposes not to teach us that that's how love supposed to be..... When it comes to love, it's all about how both man and woman have mutual understanding with each other and how both will be able to overcome challenges together no matter how big they are. Love truly works when man and woman participate together and be simple with each other, authentically....

    Edwin MuchiriEdwin Muchiri3 mesi fa
  • Oh, but this goes WAAAAY beyond mere charisma. This is about the future, and the terror that she could be a waste of a significant portion of your life

    QuartuvLarryQuartuvLarry3 mesi fa
  • I sit through the ActBlue ads just so they have to pay up.

    john magilljohn magill3 mesi fa
  • AMAZING, pure wisdom!!! Thanks for this logical analyse of such illogical behaviors and feelings. Many people will feel not as lost and clueless anymore in relationships. Great, great job Charlie and Ben! I vote for this episode as your best material, because no one summarized 'love' like this before and it's so essential!

    Joanna JayJoanna Jay3 mesi fa
  • Hollywood is feeding us ridiculous ideas about love??!?? Huh. Who woulda' thought? They are just so realistic about everything else.

    bleu waterbleu water3 mesi fa
  • I came here expecting to learn something, and all I've actually learned is that somebody out there actually needed to hear that these examples are unacceptable.

    TJ STJ S4 mesi fa
  • Y'all can tell all you want, we, the people, just nod and go on with falling in "love" with toxic people - because we are already the 3-rd generation, raised by single mothers in toxic environments and modern way of life thrive on forcing this whole toxic bipolar hedonistic, obsessive nature even further.

  • Movies are a good psycho filter though. If a woman e.g. loves "Notebook" she's to avoid like a plague, as a potential mate.

  • Thanks for the great tips!! Just letting you know that while I was going back to copy down each of the points, you wrote 'Giving large unrequested gits as the way as the way to make amends' for number 5 5:57

    Adonis NgAdonis Ng4 mesi fa
  • hi guys, i dont know if u have made a video about/with reference to the movie "P.s. I love you". after ive seen this video it popped up in my mind that it might be cool to analyse a movie that is concidered to be a romantic movie for women only.... have a nice one :)

    oMusic93oMusic934 mesi fa
  • Love is sacrifice, if you're not willing to make them; then you're not in love.

    Steven StirlingSteven Stirling4 mesi fa
  • I'd poke a point about self-sacrifice as being an unhealthy expression of love. This is patently untrue. Love is sacrifice, be it time, money, or even one's health. While sacrifice that does not receive sacrifice in return is unrequited love and would be an indicator of an unhealthy relationship, Christ Himself said that the greatest expression of love is to lay down your life in place of another. Even the part that you mention in a Knight's Tale, the point of the girl demanding that the guy repeatedly lose was to prove that he truly valued her over his own pride or wealth or even well-being, that he valued her as a person and not some object or trophy. Let's also remember the context. This was in a time when high-born women really often were objectified and treated as assets and bargaining chips for politics.

    Scott MartinScott Martin4 mesi fa
  • "No one is going to pick you if you are morose or uninteresting." - pretty much covers it - Hollywood has been the cause of much heartache when reality meets pre-conditioned expectations... And yeah, just try Noah's approach of not taking no for an answer and relentlessly pursue somebody who is vehemently rejecting you and see where that gets you... I guarantee it'll be a restraining order and not a date 😜

    Robert CroninRobert Cronin4 mesi fa
  • Wish I'd watched this when I was 15!

    Judith van DijkhuizenJudith van Dijkhuizen4 mesi fa
    • Definitely, my friend..definitely 🙁

      Robert CroninRobert Cronin4 mesi fa
  • you yanks are listining to this lad pml show me his girls before he had money

    colin john gilbertcolin john gilbert4 mesi fa
  • Yes... Self love is key... Don't need a girl... Until I get old enough to be the girls dad and have to swallow the black pill that dating a girl in her 20's gets harder and harder.

    Jaesung Edward LeeJaesung Edward Lee4 mesi fa
  • I rarely, if ever do anything with videos after watching them. I believe this video is something really wonderful and wish I had this as I was growing up. Being such an influential kid, I was trying to mimic the kind of love in movies and couldn't understand why it wasn't working. I'm glad that people growing up today can see videos like this and not go through the same unnecessary pain I did throughout my love life. Movies might try to mimic the feeling of life, but movies are not real life. I hope future generations will learn to realize that. You guys do wonderful work. I'm glad that you can shed some light on subjects like this and even give good examples with the various movies. Keep it up! I'll be rooting for you!

    PV DoggPV Dogg4 mesi fa
  • Definitely the most confusing video I have ever seen

    AdrianAdrian4 mesi fa
  • Kind of surprised you didn't reference Great Gatsby in this -- it hits several of these notes :)

    Cocktails & ConsolesCocktails & Consoles4 mesi fa
  • Don't take dating advice from any movie or tv show, their all the same rudimentary garbage of some simp pining over one woman or another. The most popular shows such as "How I Met Your Mother" is just ten seasons of Ted simping for Robin, "The Big Bang Theory" is twelve seasons of Leonard simping for Penny. I could write a thousand more, but suffice it to say if a woman doesn't want you MOVE THE F**K ON! There is always another woman around the corner who may say yes.

    michalynemichalyne4 mesi fa
  • Romantic movies are overrated . Most of them are creepy , if you ignore the romance .

    So what I was sayingSo what I was saying4 mesi fa
  • Pretty Woman made me think for years that you can turn a hoe into a house wife.

    Tony SnellTony Snell4 mesi fa
  • *Sees Romantic film* *Yells out "YALL NEED JESUS!"

    IamPabloIamPablo4 mesi fa