5 Common Charisma Mistakes You’re Probably Making

25 nov 2019
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Paul Rudd is almost universally well-liked. And after watching his most recent Hot Ones interview, I realized he makes an excellent example of some of the most fundamental and easy to implement charisma principles, that nonetheless most people just skip.

So in this video we’ll be covering those 5 core principles and what you can do to make sure you’re not one of the people who are getting it wrong.

0:19 - #1: Don't skip the friendly touch when first meeting someone.
1:31 - #2: Joke about others in a positive manner.
3:19 - #3: Support other people's jokes.
5:23 - #4: Use direct and genuine compliments.
7:48 - #5: Turn the question back on the other person.

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  • Who's the actress at 6:00 ?

    dandanikdandanik7 ore fa
  • 1. Touch people in friendly 2. Joke positively about people 3. Supporting people's jokes 4. Use direct and genuine compliments 5. Turning question around Have a nice time

    Mohamed GelleMohamed Gelle3 giorni fa
  • Wow, I can not stop watching your videos every day and I think they are life-changing I feel I need to have a pen and paper to take notes of every video thanks to you so much, these are outstanding and magnificent

    zanyar baezzanyar baez7 giorni fa
  • Apparently Paul Rudd done charmed the hell out of Jeremy Renner, lol i'm taking notes :D lol loving this channel and has helped me so much so ty ty ty if i can get this far off this channel i would love to see how far the courses will take me. Again ty for all your up loads Charlie n Ben you guys are beyond awesome :D

    Kimberly RobertsKimberly Roberts14 giorni fa
  • Cant give hugs cuz of covid now :(

    Fabricio TarazonaFabricio Tarazona15 giorni fa
  • No handshake, coronaaaa.

    Joe ElyahchouchiJoe Elyahchouchi21 giorno fa
  • He genuinely is interested to other people's presence :)

    mamisonyasmamisonyas24 giorni fa
  • 1st point didn't age too well...

    Artur JaskólskiArtur Jaskólski24 giorni fa
  • Man I’m tired of these videos, different people find different things “charismatic” just be yourself, no hate thou, I love this channel

    Rania MRania M27 giorni fa
  • As a mid 30s Asian woman, I told myself to be Paul Rudd today.

    Nadia KNadia K28 giorni fa
  • 5:03 or RUDD of a joke. See what i did there? 😮

    growingoaks productionsgrowingoaks productionsMese fa
  • I wish I could afford the course. I love these video's, they alone have began to change my work and family life in positive ways. Every video I have seen, I am always saying the same thing, 'I have everyone’s of those bad habits'. Thank you, I am trying to save up and see if I can get my wife talked into giving this to me as a Christmas present.

    I AM BEOWULF 51275DI AM BEOWULF 51275DMese fa
  • I absolutely love these videos!!! There's a plug at the end of every one I watch, though, that takes up a big chunk...

    wrenasawrenasa2 mesi fa
  • “The best way is to complement them.” Shows clip of the Rock flipping off interviewer 😂😂

    Drummer SchmittleDrummer Schmittle2 mesi fa
  • Thanks i really needed this, you make good videos

    Camilo ManjarresCamilo Manjarres2 mesi fa
  • 5:08 Caught Captain Price in the video

    Merdog MCMerdog MC2 mesi fa
  • What a load of bollocks. Men don't hug: it's only something that's been pushed in the media. A handshake is fine

    Richard Du PlessisRichard Du Plessis2 mesi fa
  • After covid, touching may be seen as anti-charasmatic!

    September QSeptember Q2 mesi fa
  • Waitress: Did you enjoy your meal? Me: did you??

    TheAlarmGames 359TheAlarmGames 3592 mesi fa
  • imagine how likeable the guy who makes these videos is

    gracie gilmartingracie gilmartin2 mesi fa
  • I wouldn’t mind touching 5 months ago, 🦠helllllllllll nooo!!! 😂

    Hooperhooper HooperHooperhooper Hooper3 mesi fa
  • You nailed it!

    APoultryTaskAPoultryTask3 mesi fa
  • Stranger: hello Me: I am going to touch you now

    El MagoEl Mago3 mesi fa
  • He's so damn gorgeous 🤩I've been a big fan ever since Clueless and The object of my affection

    H PH P3 mesi fa
  • Your video so short that watching them back to back ur advert for all people who tryed ur corse is a bit much to have it in every advert take away from message I just learned pls could u try another approach I’m sure any one watching can see value of your course

    Cyn cCyn c3 mesi fa
  • How to be charismatic: Lean your head on Scarlett Johansen's shoulder. Man I sure would if I could

    RobRob3 mesi fa
  • I don't think physical contact is possible at these times :(

    MacbethMacbeth3 mesi fa
  • hug is a bit too intimiate in a lot of cultures

    kruakrua4 mesi fa
  • Me handshaking and touching everyone during the pandemic 😂😂😂

    nuketownnuketown4 mesi fa
  • This title scares people into watching it

    Bryan BreezyBryan Breezy4 mesi fa
  • Well, we can’t do #1 anymore

    AqwikaAqwika4 mesi fa
  • “Complement beautiful women for them being smart and smart girls for being beautiful”. I heard this somewhere. And it’s true. It means to look beyond the obvious, beyond what is on the service

    AndrewsAndrews4 mesi fa
  • When depersonalized is the rule, how can you talk about charisma?

    Dan MDan M4 mesi fa
  • Paul Rudd will be the new Tom hanks

    JohnhitboxJohnhitbox4 mesi fa
  • Am i the only one wondering,WHY is he on every movie i have been seeing lately??

    smelly catsmelly cat5 mesi fa
  • I really want to try the Charisma University, but I don't have money... 🙁 I guess I better start saving.

    IcchasakiIcchasaki5 mesi fa
  • Yeah I'll skip the hug for now

    NDK0NDK05 mesi fa
  • Whenever I have the money for it, I am signing up for the course. I love the purpose of this channel.

    Serge RomoSerge Romo5 mesi fa
  • Are you serious? He said and did socially akward things. He said beefier head. He made her uncomfertable. Dude, if he did that on a guy he would have provoked an argument about crossing the line.

    Hej EricsonHej Ericson5 mesi fa
  • My butthole is stinky.

    Joshua HammondJoshua Hammond5 mesi fa
  • Where you showing the pervy guy joke as a bad joke? ... because I thought it was hilarious given the context of who he is.

    DozyProductionsDozyProductions5 mesi fa
  • Small talk 5% listening 10% nodding my head 85% finding a way to escape the conversation.

    Ghost RiderGhost Rider5 mesi fa
  • Well it might be long before we dish out handshakes

  • Love all except I don’t like when people touch me, especially acquaintances that are guys

    Love KunisLove Kunis5 mesi fa
  • It’s 2020 right now and I think I’ll pass on the whole touching thing...

    App AppApp App5 mesi fa
  • He's just generally really charismatic. If you look at a lot of the roles he plays there's a lot of charm that some other actors just don't seen to have. If you want a really good example, look at his role as Bobby Newport in Parks and Recreation. Even if his character is the antagonist of a sort at a point, you still like him.

    nyangata gamingnyangata gaming5 mesi fa
  • Great video.

    Linda Beasley BrewerLinda Beasley Brewer6 mesi fa
  • I’m British so I was born with more charisma than most people.

    Phillipa Soo Cinnamon rollPhillipa Soo Cinnamon roll6 mesi fa
  • What it boils down to is that Paul Rudd is not just absolutely adorable, but he is a great person.

    njphamnjpham6 mesi fa
  • But what do we do now that we can’t touch? How do we compensate for that?

    thingsTheaterthingsTheater6 mesi fa
  • I feel like people don't complement Steve Carell's hair transplant enough...

    MegaSkillaMegaSkilla6 mesi fa
  • Can we stop touching each other even after this pandemic ends?

    Asad MarmashAsad Marmash6 mesi fa
  • It's possible that the "physical contact" end of things may have to be re-evaluated in a post-COVID world...

    Live with VigorLive with Vigor6 mesi fa
  • "The best way to make them feel good is to compliment them" *Shows The Rock giving the birdy

    AckoonAckoon6 mesi fa
  • It only works when you are dealing with nice people.

    IvetteIvette6 mesi fa
  • That is probably one of the flaws that I must work on, complementing. As an Aussie bloke it is kind of out of character for me to do it. I can see its benefits and I like making people feel more comfortable around me. I will consciously make more of an effort to do it. Thanks for the advice.

    Jake DugganJake Duggan6 mesi fa
  • When you're watching this during the pandemic...

    orchestralbunnyorchestralbunny6 mesi fa
  • i say a lot of bad things in front and at the back of my friends

    John Paul PaquibotJohn Paul Paquibot6 mesi fa
  • Is it just me, or is it hard to follow this video?

    Bluewave369Bluewave3696 mesi fa
  • life is hard af

    Master ProcrastinatorMaster Procrastinator6 mesi fa
  • I work on costumer aervice and whenever someone asks me how am i doing is like WHUT? one time i literaly said ARE YOU TALKING TO ME? :V it is very appreciated :)

    sheepgray08sheepgray086 mesi fa
  • Awww... the first one. Can't do that anymore.. :(

    Marilyn SparksMarilyn Sparks6 mesi fa
  • You make some really great points like when you said being/seeing ourselves as special is a zero sum game and getting competitive over that feeling.

    Madhav C BMadhav C B7 mesi fa
  • I have hard time on listening to you again after listening how you treated your ex girlfriend, you teach a lot about charisma but lack emotional intelligence, it’s not your fault but I don’t want to learn from you anymore.

    Melisa GonzalezMelisa Gonzalez7 mesi fa
  • That part at the end was so true. Gotta stop trying to feel special and lift others instead and then maybe it will all work out. Thanks for the great videos.

    Celeste NewtonCeleste Newton7 mesi fa
  • i tease but sometimes i feel it can come off a little bit harsh thanks for helping me with that

    Fc channelFc channel7 mesi fa
  • This is a brilliant video including some very useful points. Thank you for your good work.

    L. DAMMEL. DAMME7 mesi fa
  • can we pls have a vid on richard ayoate

    sarikatimmisarikatimmi7 mesi fa
  • Touch (friendly!) as many people as you can, while you can... you’re gonna miss it in quarantine (believe you me)

    Miguel Ángel Carrillo InfanteMiguel Ángel Carrillo Infante7 mesi fa
  • This channel is great, thank you

    Lara Anne PinterLara Anne Pinter8 mesi fa
  • How best to “touch” someone in the wake of the Corona Virus?

    Lovely TouchLovely Touch8 mesi fa
  • All I can say is, "No Homo, but"

    D KrappenschitzD Krappenschitz8 mesi fa
  • 6:15

    Best GamerBest Gamer8 mesi fa
  • 6:57

    Best GamerBest Gamer8 mesi fa
  • 1:11

    Best GamerBest Gamer8 mesi fa
  • Seems like the common rules you emphasize are Comfortability:the best way to do that is to make them feel good about themselves, to make them respect you and trust you, and to always invoke the one emotion you want them to feel around you every time you're around them. With a view from evidence in quantum physics and psychology, The more you do the same things with a person, the more they will like you, so make it something enjoyable, it has to do with aligning frequency. If you make a person laugh hard every time you see them, their subconscious mind will automatically release those endorphins every time they hang out with you again if you do it continuously.

    John PachkoskiJohn Pachkoski8 mesi fa
  • It's funny, one of the most charismatic guys I know does almost everything in your tip vids but genuinely and naturally, and the kicker, he was home-schooled all his life. I don't get how someone who was basically isolated his whole life can have better social skills than me lol EDIT: And, another crazy thing, he starts doing contracting IT work right out of homeschool? On a farm house? Like what? How do you learn IT when you deal with dial-up at home, pretty much lmao

    D KD K8 mesi fa
  • Positive touch doesn't work in my community. Its forbidden for literally ANY touch if they are of the opposite gender and then being the same gender is very awkward. What solution is there to this?

    Eli EgbertEli Egbert8 mesi fa
  • I feel like an alien trying to learn how to be a human watching these

    Jellly WenJellly Wen8 mesi fa
  • I’m British.... the first point is against my DNA

    J HadleyJ Hadley8 mesi fa
  • I ❤️ Paul Rudd

    Sħira yukiSħira yuki9 mesi fa
  • 10:27 i hope you don't have many portuguease speaking viewers because i personally can't stop laughing

    Sofia CavalcanteSofia Cavalcante9 mesi fa
  • once i analyze the joke i have in my mind, i get lost and miss the time window to actually tell the joke. So its all in awkwardness or no dice.

    Rhuan WilliamsonRhuan Williamson9 mesi fa
  • “ ppl universally like Paul Rudd” is funny cuz I don’t like this guy at all.

    Smoovy ChevySSSmoovy ChevySS9 mesi fa
  • Could someone tell me please what Paul Rudd said in the moment 4:27 till 4:31 ?

    best-choice4ubest-choice4u9 mesi fa
  • If you're ugly, or a nobody, somebody might call the police.

    JV TVJV TV9 mesi fa
  • I work with individuals with autism. Your videos are always great for breaking down social scenarios. Thank you.

    CosmosGamingCosmosGaming10 mesi fa
  • People walk over you and don't appreciate you when you act this way, you shouldn't strive to be liked, it just ends in disappointment

    Fuckin A JaredFuckin A Jared10 mesi fa

    judged by timejudged by time10 mesi fa
  • where can I find the clip at 0:33?

    Zayan SadathZayan Sadath10 mesi fa
  • Just adding comment because current number is 666 (You don't need to thank me).

    Przemysław ZającPrzemysław Zając10 mesi fa
  • Nice, a real person this time

    Jan WintersJan Winters10 mesi fa
  • To sum this up. Paul is a sweetheart. Be a sweetheart

    67maxfield67maxfield10 mesi fa
  • Dude makes me feel good about life yo

    BrandonBrandon10 mesi fa
  • I feel like there's a negative stigma attached to extroversion, and some of it is true. Alot of it is superficial and selfish. But I'm lucky to have found you, I am more effective at turning my energy into kindness/support in my relationships. I have been complimenting people alot more over the past year and have found that my own and their confidence is better.

    Jack McCabeJack McCabe10 mesi fa
  • I would love to know this stuff completely, the greatest thing is to master one self.

    philos4rphilos4r10 mesi fa
  • I wonder if you would be interested including other cultures' habbits in your analysis ? In French we kiss on the cheeks when we arrive at work.

    Mo ohMo oh10 mesi fa
  • I find Paul Rud to be very over rated.

    Mark WrightMark Wright10 mesi fa
  • Learnt a lot in this video. Thank you

    Jay HaddadJay Haddad10 mesi fa
  • You should do Craig Ferguson

    Manit AminManit Amin10 mesi fa