How To Avoid Embarrassing Yourself In An Argument - Ben Shapiro

3 giu 2019
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A recent Ben Shapiro interview has gotten a lot of attention. In case you haven’t seen it, Ben Shapiro got into a heated argument with BBC’s Andrew Neil, and eventually walked out of the interview.
Now, Ben is no stranger to these kinds of arguments, so it was surprising to see how many people thought that he lost, or was even quote unquote “destroyed.” So in this video, we’re going to break down what went wrong for Ben and talk about four things you can do to avoid any embarrassment in an argument.

0:39 - #1: Body language & speech patterns
3:03 - #2: The way that you answer questions
7:32 - #3: Your mindset going into it
11:06 - #4: What matters is who acts like they are winning
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  • I think the key to "win" any argument or anything really is to keep calm no matter what, and not care about "winning".

    a sa sOra fa
  • Everyone here is just so sensitive gonna get mad over something petty online get off the internet children it's not made for the weak hearted everyone talking about how shapiro used harsh words such as "I never heard of you" quit being sensitive on god some people not built for this internet life

    They Call Me GuyThey Call Me Guy15 ore fa
  • I don't think ben lost the argument.....he walked away, bc obviously the host was hostile from the moment he started the interview.

    Akash JacobAkash JacobGiorno fa
  • I see the libtards are here in force after finishing finger painting

    joe blowjoe blowGiorno fa
  • is crazy cuz dude wasnt even tryna debate ben shabino. ben should stick to “owning” college students. he isn’t ready for the big leagues

    Joe BurgerJoe Burger3 giorni fa
  • Ben did not lose because of style or debate ability. He lost because he could not defend being a hypocrite.

    Jason WhiteJason White4 giorni fa
  • I loathe that "finger on the chin" move that Ben does. There is something very fake and arrogant at the same time about that move. And it's not just Ben, I don't like when anyone does that.

    M.BeeM.Bee5 giorni fa
  • 7:57 I'm on nobody's side because nobody is on my side

    Cradiak DrumzCradiak Drumz5 giorni fa
  • Blah blah blah

    AK 82AK 827 giorni fa
  • Very intelligent young man God bless him

    Roger CarsonRoger Carson7 giorni fa
  • It is just common sense that Ben Shapiro has 0 sense of humor. He doesn't laughs! At all!

    Nicolas Pineda SalazarNicolas Pineda Salazar8 giorni fa
  • I'd say there's a simpler explanation. Ben looks like the loser there because he's INITIATING and scaling verbal aggression that seems like it's "coming out of nowhere" against an opponent who appears civil, well intentioned, qualifying his takes with earnest, anti-arrogant prefaces like "It seems to me", "I'd say", "It's my impression". Making matters worse, his opponent will not bite and is graciously overlooking his irascible behavior. Ben looks like a bully, in a situation that simply didn't call for that petulant, aggressive stance, against a mild mannered man who won't be riled up.

    ScorpionWaspScorpionWasp9 giorni fa
  • i just want to say, the lady's laughing was so calm and relaxing but his face during the debate seems like he was having a fight in his mind. i think i can relate to this, sometimes we just feel like we need to fight this society to change this. through the time i have learned that fighting and yelling might give u an easy win but soon people will start to notice your faults and won't even consider your point. being clam makes people listen to u more.

    アニメさんアニメさん9 giorni fa
  • Same interviewer pissed off RJD and Tarantino.

    a3883ma3883m10 giorni fa
    • No, that's the indian bloke.

      Some BlobSome Blob7 giorni fa
  • Still waiting, for Ben Shapiro, to come out of the closet. 🤣

    Li MaroroLi Maroro11 giorni fa
  • Imagine the level of petulance an adult needs to lose an interview, not even a debate... He got destroyed in an interview for God's sake. Payback for him hurting facts' feelings.

    Basundhara PaulBasundhara Paul11 giorni fa
  • he left the show because it was endless bull.

    spacesphinx 117spacesphinx 11711 giorni fa
  • Ben sounds like a cartoon character.

    ekoi1995ekoi199512 giorni fa
  • Ben Shapiro couldn't destroy a gummy bear.

    331Grabber331Grabber12 giorni fa
  • The gnome that is ben shapiro, usually uses talking over people to ' win' debates

    jus dedjus ded13 giorni fa
  • Ben Shapiro is literally a paid neocon propagandist, no different from Fox news hosts. The fact that the unintelligent masses on the internet are so enamored with him is quite unnerving.

    Horny Fruit FliesHorny Fruit Flies13 giorni fa
  • Pitch Change? *Laughs in German.

    Adrian MüllerAdrian Müller13 giorni fa
  • Andrew Neil is a waste of time just like Piers Morgan. British anchors are bad plain and simple.

    Tristan InfantiTristan Infanti14 giorni fa
  • People in the comments love to hate on Ben just because he’s good at debating it’s pretty funny. Ben definitely lost his cool but that’s expected when these fake media bozos are always trying to rip him for his beliefs instead of having a conversation

    Tristan InfantiTristan Infanti14 giorni fa
  • Ben: Why do i hear Boss Music?

    M TemuulenM Temuulen15 giorni fa
  • Can't win all of them.

    EpicHypeEpicHype15 giorni fa
  • Ben will not change. His ideas are strong. He knows that. Trump will not change. For same reason. Who thinks different of them will not change their thougths even if this "video rules" are accomplished. Why? They don't want to.

    Luis HenriqueLuis Henrique16 giorni fa
  • I have to say I've watched Ben debate numerous times...this wasn't like him. I think under normal circumstances he would have kept his composure well...I think this was all intentional to send a message - the Left has no interest in real dialogue and that was was genuine disgust not defeat you witnessed. The BBC guy never answered a single question of his. I don't think either side fact it was clear they were just trying to set Ben up.

    David DoughtyDavid Doughty16 giorni fa
    • Ben was being interviewed. He doesn't ask questions, he's the interviewee.

      Hassan SyedHassan Syed13 giorni fa
  • "In Biden vs Trump. Yes I would vote for Mr. Trump because the damage he's done to this country on a character and rhetorical level..." See what happens when you talk fast? You contradict yourself and sound like an idiotic twatwaffle.

    ParadoxdelaPaladinoParadoxdelaPaladino16 giorni fa
  • New sub here. It’s a shame that Shapiro can’t control his mouth.

    D ClarkD Clark17 giorni fa
  • I hate smirks.

    Ahmar SaeedAhmar Saeed17 giorni fa
  • Ben Shapiro likes to tell himself and others that people disagree or dislike him because he is right winged, conservative or whatever but doesn't want to let himself or others see that as an individual, he is not agreeable or likeable. Frankly many people especially non Americans like me don't care about Ben Shapiro's group identity but can clearly see how ridiculous he can be from time to time.

    sayan roysayan roy17 giorni fa
  • Andrew Neil has been doing this for decades and Ben Shapiro is well out of his depth. Ben is only on top when speaking to camera or in discussion with the like minded. Andrew Neil is combatitive and relentless. Ben Shapiro should have done his homework before entering this ring.

    John KingJohn King18 giorni fa
  • My God. Ben is literally a nerd stereotype from a cartoon come to life.

    Derek K.Derek K.18 giorni fa
  • As another note, the interview was a waste of time so why play along with the interview. Ben's body language shows he's pissed at the waste of time the interview was. Not much analysis needed. Look no further than the substance. The entire purpose of the interview was 'hey look at thing you said a long time ago.' pointless

    Anthony ZukasAnthony Zukas20 giorni fa
  • Shapiro always leans forward. He does on in his own show while talking to a camera.

    Anthony ZukasAnthony Zukas20 giorni fa
  • Dude argues like it’s a reflex he probably didn’t mean to act like it’s a debate

    UND3AD RA1NB0WUND3AD RA1NB0W21 giorno fa
  • I’ll give credit to some of Ben’s intelligence but unfortunately his personality just does not have the capacity to be playful or to be calm and composed during an argument. This video does have great advice. But I truly believe the person must at least have a natural portion of this in their character in order for it to work. Some have it. Some don’t. Some just have to work a lot harder to get there.

    HausOfMontagueHausOfMontague22 giorni fa
  • Good points Love Ben tho

    Stefanie EvoyStefanie Evoy22 giorni fa
  • Dont be a pretentious Harvard lawyer conservative?

    Maurice drewMaurice drew23 giorni fa
  • A lot of it is just different styles of interview in different countries. Ben wasn't familiar that the style of interview is fairly common in Europe especially the old guys, and he made a fool of himself.

    Jambori ChamataJambori Chamata23 giorni fa
  • i enjoy this so much! Shapiro is what's wrong in the world!

    June LJune L23 giorni fa
  • I'm pretty sure Ben has a permanent smirk

    Stephen IrvineStephen Irvine24 giorni fa
  • Know it all on Command

    NyarlathotepNyarlathotep27 giorni fa
  • Atheist discussing about Right & Wrong Way What A Joke

    Action & FightAction & Fight27 giorni fa
  • I don't know how it's possible to lose an interview, but boy, Ben sure accomplished it.

    Insert name hereInsert name here27 giorni fa
  • This kind of proves how Ben Shapiro is so good at arguments, if trump did the same thing he wouldn't be judged for it because he does it all the time. Imagine being so good at arguing that all of the country is obsessed with you when you lose one.

    idan ofekidan ofek28 giorni fa
    • Lol country isn't obsessed but people find him really smug and usually debates university students which is how he got popular, but after that interview he wasn't seen as the same again. The video proves the opposite, as someone who's supposed to be a debater should not be so hostile and immature using arguments such as " is this so hard for you answer the question" - this is something you say against a university student as they're young not in a interview against a grown man lol who's a hard core right wing and saying "why don't you say you're on the left"= which is frustration again very immature. what does that have to do with anything? He's being interviewed for his statements Ironically if he answered simply with "yes I believe it's right because of so and so" and that's literally it instead he went on going "no I'm more popular that you" which is something kids usually say? Reason why this video was created, is showing a person who supposedly seem intellectual just seems like a fustrated man who gets quite irritated if you don't agree with his stand point of view. So no lol it's not "this proves how famous he is" it's more the first time arguably he's being questioned normally for his statements in a professional manner, he couldn't hold it up without turning into a university debate. This is more like those "exposed" videos.

      SuperCookie CookieSuperCookie Cookie21 giorno fa
  • That’s what happens when you debate little kids and then you debate someone with someone With 6 brain cells

    Abdullah OssailiAbdullah Ossaili28 giorni fa
  • I think it’s really funny how people will hate on somebody for a one time mal-performance. And to the same people saying I’m simping on Ben are those man childs who can’t control their temper because I’m defending someone who has a different political view.

    Yeeda QiuYeeda Qiu29 giorni fa
  • You say Ben was wrong because Neil said he wasn't on the left, but as editor of the Sunday Times Neil said the paper should be 'liberal on social matters'. Here is Neil's quote"neo-Keynesian in economic policy, radical right in industrial policy, LIBERAL ON SOCIAL MATTERS and European and Atlanticist on foreign policy".They were talking about abortion, which is a social matter.

    Jesus is LordJesus is LordMese fa
  • Shapiro is like trump in terms of his background. He doesn't like his past be used to question his present stand. It may be okey to some but its a basic goto place if you want to burn the person you are interviewing. If you want a solid interview don't have atupid background that can bite you in the arse 2nd stick to network or programs with same issue biased. 3rd don't get interviewed in other rich EU countries. They prefer logic than shoutie american.

    inconspicuous rider vloginconspicuous rider vlogMese fa
  • Ben Shapiro is a master debater, but in that interview, he came across as a bit of a wanker

    SparkBerrySparkBerryMese fa
  • One of the worst case scenarios, you lose the argument then they attack you.

    Emille EmilleEmille EmilleMese fa
  • Ben Shapiro went so out of character in this lmao

    GenosparkGenosparkMese fa
  • You win arguments by making good points with sincere emotions.

    Saitama KunSaitama KunMese fa
  • Well losing an argument is not a correct term , it was a debate ,.... right guys ?

    GALAXY LordGALAXY LordMese fa
  • Andrew Neil is a liberal BBC hack who doesnt try to hide his bias. Let the media act impartial again and then maybe people will give a crap about them

    Justin KorchokJustin KorchokMese fa
  • To be fair to Ben nearly ALL political tv is rude. They won't let each other speak.They talk over each other. It'# aggressive. It's about who can throw one under the bus quicker with questions, rebuttles and verbal attacks. Political tv is NOT the place for reasonable, respectful, and honest discussions. That's why Ben acts the way he does. Did it work on this show. Apparently not. But it's worked on others. Political tv is very cut-throat. Even this dude resulted in insults. Everyone who thinks Ben "lost" are just keeping their political spectrum glasses on. They want him to fail cuz they disagree with him. They don't see how the other guy is smirking and resorting to insults as well.

    yellowleafyellowleafMese fa
  • I love your videos!!!

    ladillalegosladillalegosMese fa
  • Oh he has never even had an interview like that before. He debates inexperienced kids and his interviews in america have just been people stroking his balls telling him how smart he is. He has not once been in a situation where he has had to defend his points to an experienced intellectual. Until this. And the outcome was very predictable.

    chester lestrangechester lestrangeMese fa
  • While in most cases the commentary is correct, in this particular case had Ben tried to be funny about issues that are extremely important and dead serious for his target audience with uncompromising stances on the same (abortion, Israeli-Arab conflict), "winning" the "debate" would have cost him far more than it did "losing" it since he would have lost a great deal of credibility and therefore audience that way. He lost because he did not have a meaningful fact-based answers to some of the questions asked, opted to go ad hominem and then left. Everything else is just makeup.

    VersusARCHVersusARCHMese fa
  • I saw that interview. Being a Brit I obviously know Andrew Neil, but I've also watched a whole heap of Ben Shapiro vids, so feel I pretty much know where he stands. Unfortunately it appears that Ben was totally unprepared for this interview. Didn't have a clue who Andrew Neil was. Didn't seem to understand the notion of playing "devils advocate" (which is what Andrew was doing). If he'd just done a bit of homework first, he'd have realised that Andrew was probably on the same team. Andrew Neil asking the hard questions was supposed to be a prompt for Ben to put his own case forward. Instead, Ben just got offended and felt insulted. That's when it all fell apart. Calling Andrew Neil a Leftie was also a big mistake, because anyone that knows Andrew realises how rediculous that is.

    Ken FullmanKen FullmanMese fa
  • Ben is a child at times- arguing, name calling, dismissive, insulting.

    diane DONOHUEdiane DONOHUEMese fa
  • Sure he lost this debate but have you seen the guy's track record? I'm pretty sure he knows what he's doing, one hiccup doesn't tell me he embarrassed himself.

    Masen BrownMasen BrownMese fa
  • Ben Shapiro is a classic Karen. Not even Todd. Just, Karen

    LaniakeaLaniakeaMese fa
  • What about being authentic and just answering the question truthfully? No wonder politics has become a huge turn off for the populace.

    SvendBosanvovskiSvendBosanvovskiMese fa
  • As a motivational speaker, i'm actually thinking that you've lost it

    Kevin Theil SørensenKevin Theil SørensenMese fa
  • I LOVE your channel, yet Ben says things you would never dare to say!!

    Kevin Theil SørensenKevin Theil SørensenMese fa
  • I don't understand; Ben owned it!

    Kevin Theil SørensenKevin Theil SørensenMese fa
    • Ben owned it? At the very end he boasted his popularity and had to outright say he was winning. It doesn't paint a picture of a very confident man.

      Bella SBella SMese fa
  • Do people really care about Ben Shapiro's embarrassment ? He's embarrassing period!

    andii doodeandii doodeMese fa
  • "lighthearted way" and "a genuine smile" are the things that are entirely alien to Ben.

    Mateusz LeszekMateusz LeszekMese fa
  • That’s why Ben shabino only „debates“ arguments he states himself or 19 yo college kids

    Emin KiracEmin KiracMese fa
  • Neil went home that night without even knowing he crushed a mans pride lol

    Filthy OgreFilthy OgreMese fa
  • Honestly, I think Ben is generally well composed, particularly for an orthodox Jewish man (I say this because he has discourse with a lot of people who don't believe as he does). I also believe he is becoming increasingly frustrated and impatient with people understandably so. This is his personality, and I can appreciate that he is consistent. Ben is trained professionally as a lawyer, and he is a social/ political commentator not a psychologist as Jordan Peterson. The media is hugely biased against Ben he has been refused jobs and experienced a great deal of bias and prejudice, he seems to be trying to play the game as the other side plays. Conservatives typically avoid this...

    Tira FaisonTira FaisonMese fa
  • Yeah, Joe Rogan, the guy that rapid fires a bunch of nonsensical "let's say" hypotheticals at you sure sounds smart to me.

    Văn-Hiếu VõVăn-Hiếu VõMese fa
    • ? He's doing a podcast and interviewing his guests. You want to keep asking questions and hypotheticals because it gives the interviewee a chance to further strengthen their position. Which ironically, is exactly what Andrew was doing to Ben and he thought that Andrew was attacking him and got his feeling hurts.

      Jeffrey IshmaelJeffrey IshmaelMese fa
  • No loss for Ben.

  • bruh how do u lose an INTERVIEW

    fionafionaMese fa
  • Admit it , you are just anti Ben. BTW I wont subscribe,you fast talking, little jittery neuro case

    aj kootsaj kootsMese fa
  • Can you make a video on how to not breakdown crying in an argument.

    Umberto CUmberto CMese fa
  • People who think that the person that is acting like is winning a verbal is actually winning are pretty unintelligent and proves that you don't know what real verbal insults are like, pretending to be winning is rookie strat that most people can see through

    AF57AF57Mese fa
  • Ben is autistic. Don't be autistic.

    ДесничарДесничарMese fa
  • What kind of nonsense is this?

    Matt ThomsonMatt ThomsonMese fa
  • Legend has that Ben Shapiro won an argument with his Wife.

    Mário RamosMário RamosMese fa
  • Ben dodged Andrews questions Andrew never answered of Ben's questions

    Patrick QuinnPatrick QuinnMese fa
    • Because it's an interview.... Ben is not in an position to ask questions there

      DundorilDundorilMese fa
  • Ben Shapiro ripped him apart he was talking rubbish BBC and all other types of British mainstream media are on the left so Ben said is right and he was trying to patronise Ben and Ben didn't have it

    Patrick QuinnPatrick QuinnMese fa
    • Wow. Do people in the American education system not learn basic grammar and punctuation?

      Bella SBella SMese fa
  • Oh come on. He's still young. He will come back stronger, I mean, better, if he learns.

    Eureka AdangEureka Adang2 mesi fa
  • i wouldn't say "destroyed" he didn't win, but He didn't lose either. the interviewers goal is to get a good interview, mr. Neil did not get a good interview.

    b-mb-m2 mesi fa
  • Does Ben Shapiro have a genuine smile?

    Ham FanHam Fan2 mesi fa
  • I think ben was having a bad day tbh

    meanmean2 mesi fa
  • This doesn't change the fact that Ben is one of the best debaters out there. He didn't have it in this interview.

    MAGA AaronMAGA Aaron2 mesi fa
    • To be honest he hasn't 'had it' in most of his debates these past few years. I used to really enjoy his debate style, but it slowly became riddled with personal insults and straw-man arguments.

      Bella SBella SMese fa
  • Good grief Trump was a three year old with a poopy diaper

    Adreinne CobbAdreinne Cobb2 mesi fa
  • He never lost the argument.

  • When Ben said " I am popular and you are not" I was like wow

    Trevor WilliamsTrevor Williams2 mesi fa
  • This was Ben's only memorable lost and it wasn't much of a loss since he didn't even argue.

    mike sanchezmike sanchez2 mesi fa
    • He didn't argue? Well that's interesting.

      Bella SBella SMese fa
  • Ben Shapiro isn't actually a good debater. He is just domineering, talks fast and spews his own opinions like rhetoric. He is incapable of truly thinking critically because he is constantly in the mind frame of "I'm always right."

    Claire TClaire T2 mesi fa
  • Ben is clueless...

    dulal miahdulal miah2 mesi fa
  • Ben is an idoit

    Don p HeathDon p Heath2 mesi fa
  • Are you truly comparing Ben Shapiro with a UK moron ???

    fran collinsfran collins2 mesi fa
  • Ben is entitled to smirk or be what he wants to be. Is he supposed to get permission to be how he feels comfortable. ??

    fran collinsfran collins2 mesi fa
    • Smirking makes Ben comfortable? That's concerning. I mean, walking around naked outside on a hot summer's day would make a comfortable, doesn't mean I should do it.

      Bella SBella SMese fa