How To Turn Awkwardness Into Attraction

23 set 2019
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Aubrey Plaza is pretty well known for her awkward moments. Despite and even because of her awkwardness she is extremely popular, successful and attractive to a lot of people.
Which is why in this video we’re going to break down how to turn YOUR awkward moments into ones that actually make people more drawn towards you.

1:03 - 1A: Introduce yourself with some form of physical touch.
1:19 - 1B: Call out awkward moments when they happen.
2:27 - 2A: Lean into the awkwardness even further.
3:09 - 2B: Call out when you see someone making these social mistakes.
3:59 - 3: Add a sentence to your one word answer.
5:03 - 4A: Flat deliveries work best when what you are saying is outlandish.
5:25 - 4B: Laugh at yourself or simply explain yourself.
6:34 - 5: Introduce a “hard pivot”- Do/say something even more awkward than the situation itself.
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  • 3:25 wait, your not supposed to do that?

    Jazoink Last nameJazoink Last name3 ore fa
  • the starting premise here is absolutely hilarious. aubrey plaza could walk around quoting mein kampf and still be attractive.

    mobeymobey3 ore fa
  • Yeah... she's super hot..

    Gospon StrojevarGospon StrojevarGiorno fa
  • I can’t stand her

    DD2 giorni fa
  • I’m so unbelievably attracted to her, it’s ridiculous...

    Jesse SpikaJesse Spika4 giorni fa
  • It helps a lot if most people find you very attractive.

    Tom WoodTom Wood5 giorni fa
  • The course is too expensive

    Harald SchubertHarald Schubert6 giorni fa
    • I agree, just go out and speak to people and be fun and positive, yet still be serious when the situation calls for it.

      Reuben SearlReuben Searl6 giorni fa
  • Weird video lol

    The HandProjectThe HandProject6 giorni fa
  • She’s actually really weird lol

    SonSon7 giorni fa
  • Has no one in this comments section ever met someone attractive and then they’re so awkward you just NEED to get away? No? Well, it happens. Attractiveness is superficial. The awkwardness will be the deal breaker unless it can be charismatically awkward, too. Writing these examples off as just her being attractive to make up for it is pure laziness. Edit- obviously, I need to take this course. I’m too analytical, and deadpan things too often but bounce (so not smoothly) towards being really friendly (cos I suddenly belatedly realize I’m being awkward/prickly/cold, etc) succeeding in making people feel off balance. Sigh.

    MorganlefayMorganlefay7 giorni fa
  • Pretty sure she’s my spirit animal...

    MorganlefayMorganlefay7 giorni fa
  • I don't know : she looks like she's on downers most of the time.

    MottaheadMottahead10 giorni fa
  • great video as always. a little minor feedback: the commercials come at very awkward times, often in the middle of a sentence.

    shannon kshannon k10 giorni fa
  • What’s this? A guide on how to pretend to be awkward? What a sad, sad world

    LovesTheGashLovesTheGash14 giorni fa
    • @LovesTheGash do what?!?

      Reuben SearlReuben Searl6 giorni fa
    • @Reuben Searl kill me

      LovesTheGashLovesTheGash6 giorni fa
    • Ahahaha yes this is the sad reality we live in.

      Reuben SearlReuben Searl7 giorni fa
  • Conan-- "Thanks for being here". Aubrey-- "Yep". Well.....Yes _IS_ positive, right?

    CL8ON JCL8ON J14 giorni fa
  • Nah fam just b atractivee

    An RaAn Ra17 giorni fa
  • I don't think my awkwardness can be helped...

    ShareteaSharetea18 giorni fa
  • How to be attractive being awkward: 1- Be pretty 2- Be a woman

    Tricolorrr533Tricolorrr53321 giorno fa
  • Trying to understand or deconstuck Audrey is already missing the point.

    Marc WampachMarc Wampach24 giorni fa
  • i think its interesting to examine the psychology behind why people come across as charismatic. however, i think the key thing missing from such an exercise is understanding that above all her awkwardness comes across as authentic, its not gonna land if its forced. you gotta cultivate your authentic self above all else.

    Zaven EmbreeZaven Embree25 giorni fa
  • she's like the goth gf you see in cartoons

    unCrownedunCrowned27 giorni fa
    • Oh yeahh true

      Reuben SearlReuben Searl7 giorni fa
  • I think I used to be charasmatic, but I haven't been around people in so long that I don't really know anymore 😂

    M.G. HopkinsM.G. Hopkins27 giorni fa
  • Who is this?

    Matthew DevMatthew DevMese fa
  • Physical contact is dangerous now

    Malta Network ResourcesMalta Network ResourcesMese fa
  • Then again you can just avoid awkwardness by not talking at all.

    Maciej WMaciej WMese fa
  • I've heard the name Aubrey Plaza before. Obviously she's famous. But what does she do?

    adipsousadipsousMese fa
  • Who are you and what is your education to provide analysis on this subject? Or is this just an opinion.

    Jeff SJeff SMese fa
  • The only thing about this video is that I think Aubrey plaza always knows exactly what she's doing. She has very purposefully concocted that awkward personality because it's hilarious

    Lauren JamesLauren JamesMese fa
  • My case is kind of different ‘cause I think and many people find me very funny but in spanish(I’m from mexico n im going to move to the us for college), and a big part of my funniness is because of the relatableness of how I say the words (I speak like a dad but in an awkward funny kind of way) and all the words i use dont have a direct translation so what are youre suggestions 👁👄👁

    Perry TerryPerry TerryMese fa
    • PS: For the record i dont even know if the word funniness exists PS 2: kudos if anybody understands my first comment

      Perry TerryPerry TerryMese fa
  • No one: Me: clicks video... Then jumps bc i forgot that i clicked the video

    Dusty WalkerDusty WalkerMese fa
  • Sarcasm is a woman

    João MendesJoão MendesMese fa
  • I don't think she is a good example in this case. She is trying to confuse in order to "charm"

    Kristen CorleyKristen CorleyMese fa
  • she makes me feel better about being socially awkward😂

    palmer491palmer491Mese fa
  • You said that "we listen to someones emotional.expression as much as we listen to their words" I respectfully disagree. Studies have shown that words actually dont matter itln conversations. Only 5% words and 95% body language. This is why us intelligent men often have trouble with women because we have a harder time displaying energetic body language because we see risks much clearer than others

    How mathematicians create mathsHow mathematicians create mathsMese fa
  • She is just annoying

    Hadeer MuHadeer MuMese fa
  • does this works for men?

    PatmandPatmand2 mesi fa
  • pog

    ChairioChairio2 mesi fa
  • 1:04 ... Good luck with that 🍀👍

    Tara WhittingtonTara Whittington2 mesi fa
  • Everyone else saying to be attractive, but I think it's about being ✨confident✨

    민Chirushi민Chirushi2 mesi fa

      Rohanna BendiolaRohanna Bendiola2 mesi fa
    • YES THANK YOU i hate how everyone keeps saying that its because she's attractive and whatever. obviously being good looking is something that always helps but you can't just invalidate someone's abilities because "sHeS jUsT aTtrAcTivE"

      isabellaisabella2 mesi fa
  • 1:13 Howie Mendel is a famous germaphobe, who doesn’t like being touch

    Fry PhilipFry Philip2 mesi fa
  • I'd just like to add that sometimes when a person gives a short answer to a question or doesn't participate in small talk it's because THEY DON'T WANT TO. More people (extroverts) need to pick up on subtle cues that someone is trying to be polite while also trying to avoid getting into a conversation. I have this happen all the time and it's not because I'm awkward or don't understand social cues, it's because other people either don't understand or don't care about the cues I'm sending. The examples here are from interviews where having a conversation is the point, but the advice given here doesn't apply in every situation.

    R BR B2 mesi fa
  • the comments here tell all, when you ae mindblowingly absolutly HOT anything you say would be considered ATTRACTIVE !!

  • and that is her "character" so ya lol

    TheMitchman55TheMitchman552 mesi fa
  • I think she did that w Howie because he’s a germaphobe and hates shaking hands.

    Electro-Shock Blues 42Electro-Shock Blues 422 mesi fa
  • How many times has she been on the Conan O’brien show? There was probably close to 10 clips and she was wearing something different in most of them.

    Connor JBConnor JB2 mesi fa
  • shes doing everything on purpose, its cringy asf

    daniel motitadaniel motita2 mesi fa
  • If I master that I’ll be a black belt in social skills

    BradmakesgainsBradmakesgains2 mesi fa
  • Give some more examples of the hard pivot please

    BradmakesgainsBradmakesgains2 mesi fa
  • what a lady

    Believin KarmaBelievin Karma2 mesi fa
  • am i the only one who doesn’t find her that attractive

    AndreAndre2 mesi fa
  • fax. calling out awkwardness and just being open about it breaks the ice and always gives u something to say

    AndreAndre2 mesi fa
  • I thinke that is not the real aubrey plaza, she is playing a character

    FunnyChessFunnyChess2 mesi fa
  • 1:13 sorry but she respected the mans OCD. So she did the right thing. Howie does not shake hands, he has severe OCD.

    Samuel Lexi llSamuel Lexi ll2 mesi fa
  • Aubrey is good looking. When I do this crap, people genuinely think I’m ill

    sky peterssky peters2 mesi fa
  • I love Aubrey plaza she's great

    The King Of Cool DavidTaylorThe King Of Cool DavidTaylor2 mesi fa
  • Sssshhhh, stop talking and let me Soak in Aubrey's Luscious and Hilarious essence .

    Mac BMac B2 mesi fa
  • Pretty sure Aubrey Plaza is my spirit animal.

    Tiffany AllenTiffany Allen2 mesi fa
  • I wonder if anybody ever finishes her sentence. If this was a different time i think she would be friends with Alfred Hitchcock. :-)

    Don BerryDon Berry3 mesi fa
  • Tired of seeing “It’s because she’s attractive.” No. She’s comfortable with being awkward, not self conscious about it. When you own your own perceived insecurities, the energy shifts. When you’re free with yourself, you make other people feel like they are in a “no judgement” environment. I know a bunch of not traditionally attractive people who are awkward, and I love them because they are their own person. All of you are so bitter, maybe that’s your problem.

    Kloe AubriehKloe Aubrieh3 mesi fa
    • Lmao, such a load of bs. If she wasn't attractive, people would call her a creep and not think "it's kinda cute the way she acts". If you're socially awkward and bad looking, you wouldn't be acknowledged like Aubrey, that's facts. That's not bitterness, it's literally the real world

      Luc GermainLuc GermainMese fa
    • Being attractive does let you get away with things it's true, however you can still succeed with a good personality. Check out CoC's video on Adele - even when severely obese she charmed with her personality.

      Oliver FordOliver Ford2 mesi fa
    • thank you!

      isabellaisabella2 mesi fa
    • And also idk why you’re specifically offended, there was no reason to blow it up like that 😂

      Kloe AubriehKloe Aubrieh2 mesi fa
    • Nope, pronouns don’t bother me. And idk what generation you’re from but y’all need to step it up because the constantly offended, whiny baby snowflake safe space stuff is tired. However, People projecting their own insecurities is annoying

      Kloe AubriehKloe Aubrieh2 mesi fa
  • nah man shes just attractive

    maddie allenmaddie allen3 mesi fa
  • yellow dress, white dress, black dress. All are smokin!

    JayZoopJayZoop3 mesi fa
  • Try being an awkward guy, see how easy that is....

    Nelson GuedesNelson Guedes3 mesi fa
  • My god, she's kinda autistic. This is ALL very autistic XD

    Nelson GuedesNelson Guedes3 mesi fa
  • Step 1: be hot

    Mr. Shepherd's pieMr. Shepherd's pie3 mesi fa
  • She says LIKE so many times that ... sorry... not attractive.

    Diego PitbullDiego Pitbull3 mesi fa
  • Looking at the comments section, I'm glad that people now begin to realize and accept the importance of beautiful appearance and not pretend that it's something else. If you're born with attractive features life is on easy mode for you, and not all your "wisdom suggestions" will apply to other less fortunate.

    MaxMax3 mesi fa
  • When I’m awkward I just turn myself into a joke HAHAHHAHAA it takes some humour

    HEY KYUHEY KYU3 mesi fa
  • You forgot that time she got kicked out of MTV Movie Awards

    Ricardo BezerraRicardo Bezerra3 mesi fa
  • Aubrey needs a long hug. Me too

    I'm BoredI'm Bored3 mesi fa
  • I really don’t like her expressionless face. It’s like she is trying to keep a poker face.

    JoelJoel3 mesi fa
  • This overanalysis of Aubrey was awkward. Do Harmony Korine next. Go!

    2bin2bin3 mesi fa
  • Lack of social interaction,who?,me of course

    Supri YonoSupri Yono3 mesi fa
  • Only Aubrey can make Conan himself speechless

    Srishti MishraSrishti Mishra3 mesi fa
  • she is SO HOT

    Ezequiel PrimeraEzequiel Primera3 mesi fa
  • dude her being awkward somehow makes her more sexy XD lmao

    xXMc1ovinXxxXMc1ovinXx3 mesi fa
  • well she is attractive

    Lily WLily W3 mesi fa
  • Just be above a 7 Job done

    Julian PriceJulian Price3 mesi fa
  • Colbert coming back to my ITworlds?

    Robert LustRobert Lust3 mesi fa
  • My crush: hi Me: thank you

    dejoranmandejoranman3 mesi fa
  • I'd marry her in a heartbeat

    Jonathan LevesqueJonathan Levesque3 mesi fa
  • The part with Howie wasn't awkward. He has pretty extreme OCD and doesn't like to be touched. Also, it's 2020. Touching is no longer acceptable social behavior.

    RachelRachel3 mesi fa
  • Im a huge hard pivoter... Not a word .. Yeah alright tell your mom i said hey.

    John ForemanJohn Foreman3 mesi fa
  • Aubrey was the perfect choice for this!...she is such a beautiful, strange, interesting woman that it is simply impossible to guess what she is thinking.

    rod928s4rod928s43 mesi fa
  • When you awkward and not funny

    BTS DYNAMITE #1 HOT 100BTS DYNAMITE #1 HOT 1003 mesi fa
  • Wasn't that Howie Mandel? He doesn't like human contact so Aubrey was justified.

    Axton J CranstonAxton J Cranston3 mesi fa
  • Nice channel, right? Well, from personal experience, Charlie with Charisma on Command SPAMS with you’re own purchased personal info.

    TysoTyso3 mesi fa
  • I think this video is the less comprehensive one I've seen on this channel yet. Difficult to clearly assimilate the rules and apply them.

    JF LJF L3 mesi fa
  • I thought Howie mandel didn't like to be touched...which is why she didn't try to touch him in the greeting.

    Carlos DiazCarlos Diaz4 mesi fa
  • With works for cute girls and guys that are at least an 8. I'm a 4 on a good day

    nbalive2408nbalive24084 mesi fa
  • Nah its because she's hot

    Will StricklandWill Strickland4 mesi fa
  • It kind of helps if you're stunningly beautiful.

    Mike FontanelliMike Fontanelli4 mesi fa
  • Marry me is a good one... Lol

    Venkatesh PVenkatesh P4 mesi fa
  • This whole clip is actually an ad hidden as a clip using Aubrey to promote it.

    richard darmstadtrichard darmstadt4 mesi fa
    • Yeah, but it also provides value in itself. I mean, if you take out the sales pitch, it's still a useful video.

      Connor WardConnor Ward4 mesi fa
  • She has a very unique strong character. That could never bails her out of what they refer to as her awkwardness.

    richard darmstadtrichard darmstadt4 mesi fa
  • I like your content mate. Id like it more if i could hear it on the mobile. Its easy to turn it down when too loud, not so easy to turn it up, when youre already at full volume. Thanks

    RedEarthAARedEarthAA4 mesi fa
  • Her awkwardness is not attractive. She's attractive DESPITE being awkward.

    FantasticMrNickFantasticMrNick4 mesi fa
  • She's just herself

    Oceanic MayansOceanic Mayans4 mesi fa
  • all tose good tips!!! It also helps if you are gorgeous ...

    Helias FylactosHelias Fylactos4 mesi fa
  • Really like Aubrey but only a moron would say these are awkward moments (like they're genuine) . Aubrey is extremely funny but being "awkward" is her shtick

    Shane GShane G4 mesi fa
  • Not gonna lie she is adorably awkward

    Rodney PompeyRodney Pompey4 mesi fa