How To Turn Awkwardness Into Confidence

1 lug 2019
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Like it or not we have all been awkward at different points in our lives. Sometimes that awkwardness gets in the way of connecting with other people or even feeling confident in ourselves. Awkwardness doesn’t need to be the end of the line. In fact, if you handle yourself well you can turn awkwardness (whether it’s just a moment or a way of being) into confidence. Which is what we are covering in this video featuring Tom Holland.

⏰TIMESTAMPS⏰
0:27 - Point #1: Adjust your body language.
4:05 - Point #2: Handle friendly teasing.
6:39 - Point #3: Tell your own embarrassing stories.
9:37 - Point #4: Let go of managing people’s opinion of you.
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    Art Of ValorArt Of Valor2 giorni fa
  • Just own who you are. Don't ever be ashamed of that. You are awesome and that is that.

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  • hello awkward ppl

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  • Its very difficult for you to further insult yourself when someone insults you on your insecurities (perspective of a normal person)

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  • I'm sure I'd be a lot more confident If I was very handsome, ripped and a super successful movie star. Unfortunately, I am none of those things

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  • What movie is that at the start?

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  • INTERESTING VIDEO!!!

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  • How To Turn Awkwardness Into Confidence? 1. Be spiderman. 2. 1.

    Joseph CruseJoseph Cruse3 giorni fa
  • 1:52 I like how Mark Zuckerberg is used as the example of hiding things from people.

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    Jordan The River ManJordan The River Man6 giorni fa
  • What I even watching

    m _edham _edha6 giorni fa
  • Sometimes you gotta have the mindset when you’re speaking to someone, that there’s a million things to talk about. Just bring it in to the conversation smoothly and you’re golden.

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  • If your friends are making fun of you put your leg on top of one of them, got it!

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    egg sheeranegg sheeran6 giorni fa
  • I love how they start talking about awkwardness and shows vids of Tom holland

    Signe StråleSigne Stråle6 giorni fa
  • Mark Zuckerberg does have something to hide, his real identity.

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  • Before lockdown I was totally confident. How the tables have turned.

    ConcededCell717ConcededCell7177 giorni fa
  • just do not care too much about other people's thoughts. laugh it out . lol

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  • Just adapt

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  • wow! amazing video

    CELEBRITIES BEFORE AND AFTERCELEBRITIES BEFORE AND AFTER9 giorni fa
  • Whats worse? Being awkward or being boring?

    PanditaPandita9 giorni fa
  • Lol facebook dude

    Lars Rye JeppesenLars Rye Jeppesen9 giorni fa
  • Pressed on it cause of tom Holland 🥴

    stegobeareditsstegobearedits9 giorni fa
  • Show the palms and gesticulate frequently.... Um, I do that a lot and that's what makes me look awkward... Any solutions?

    Ram PrasathRam Prasath10 giorni fa
  • This would not work on normal people, Tom Holland is famous therefore anything he does will be considered "amazing"

    YHYH10 giorni fa
  • to understand 3 sec rule, takes 11'n'half mins.

    HimanshuHimanshu12 giorni fa
  • How is a celebrity, who is used to constant attention and flattery, a good example on how to handle awkwardness? Humans ARE awkward for a number of reasons, like being in a new situation, or just having a bad day. And we are all confident in other situations. I'm super confident when at work and with my close friends, but not with strangers or strange situations. Honestly, people who are somehow always confident can be equally off-putting as awkwardness if the timing is wrong.

    Pocket Sized SunPocket Sized Sun12 giorni fa
  • As someone who's autistic, the eye contact thing is really hard for me. I basically have to force it in certain situations, but it's exhausting to keep up for an extended period especially in high stress situations.

    The Autistic ProThe Autistic Pro12 giorni fa
  • How To Turn Awkwardness Into Confidence? 1. Be spiderman. 2. 1.

    Ada WhiteAda White13 giorni fa
  • Thank you Tom

    jeon soyeonjeon soyeon13 giorni fa
  • Of course he shows his palms. He’s Spider-Man dammit!!! Lol

    Peter GriffinsPeter Griffins13 giorni fa
  • Can any genius thinker explain to me; Why on earth do I normally tend to flow naturally in conversations especially when I don't plan that much on what to say than planning vastly to convince or put a point across. Need answer 🙏

    John OduntanJohn Oduntan14 giorni fa
  • Hey, who also learn from the comment section? Often seem to be an extra insight and awareness is passed across.

    John OduntanJohn Oduntan14 giorni fa
  • Pretty known to me, awkward people: after watching this at night, they become bothered and puzzled all through the morning.

    John OduntanJohn Oduntan14 giorni fa
  • Did I just see Tom Holland in that outfit?

    KunisakeKunisake14 giorni fa
  • 1:56 yes, ok, but you dont have to look at this mans hands to see he's keeping something form ya

    klaas de paas haas mr. haasklaas de paas haas mr. haas17 giorni fa
  • A quarter of the way in the video I just started to read the comments and kept reading for the rest of the video, it was pretty funny. I’ve actually been a quiet person all my life except around friends and some family but yeah in school mainly middle school and early high school apparently I was awkward but I just didn’t understand it, it was like they expect you to be energetic or something like perform something and if you don’t you’re just weird. I did feel some typa awkwardness or something uncomfortable whenever they would look at me during the “awkwardness” I supposedly caused. I would explain more but yeah I eventually got some character development and I’m pretty much immune to the awkward feeling and/or awkwardness with everything, like there’ll be times where the person or group I’m interacting with gets put into awkwardness from me just from me being silent or not saying much while having a straight face. And yeah I know I may seem weird for being like that but if I have no interest to speak to someone then I won’t and I’m not the type to try to make up some bit of personality to get someone to like me or whatever. So yeah it’s gotten me some great friends cuz ya know I observed and I was genuine and I guess I just got rewarded for staying true to me, and somewhat recently I’ve formed some typa way with strangers and unfamiliar people, like some slightly charismatic way and it feels cool, gets “those” eyes off me

    Benny TennyBenny Tenny17 giorni fa
  • How about stop watching vids on how to and starts practicing? :/

    Neo AmpNeo Amp17 giorni fa
  • no wonder everybody and their neighbour is in love with him

    lina h.lina h.18 giorni fa
  • Did someone say KFC?

    C MC M18 giorni fa
  • Takes 11 1/2 minutes to explain the three second rule.

    All Shook UpAll Shook Up18 giorni fa
  • You maybe keeping something.... Shows mark zukerberg as example😆😆😆

    Jazeb JazebJazeb Jazeb19 giorni fa
  • When you realize how cool Tom Holland actually is.

    ALEN SAM THOMASALEN SAM THOMAS19 giorni fa
  • His American accent is so convincing I didn't know he was a Brit

    Michael CMichael C20 giorni fa
  • So you now know more than 8 million people are awkward, so you're so not alone. 😹❤

    Porlite DhladhlaPorlite Dhladhla20 giorni fa
  • After watching this, I see the Eye contact timer in every conversion.

    Saim ShaikhSaim Shaikh21 giorno fa
  • Tom has a normal habit Media: See how tom manages akward situations

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  • that opening line...... it's not just one point in my life so far. its ALL parts

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  • Introverts : oh I see

    Shota ToriumiShota Toriumi23 giorni fa
  • 2:11 i’m straight but he looks attractive here 😳👌🏻😭

    LavaBoyLavaBoy23 giorni fa
  • I never realized how good he is at public speaking wow

    Jessica IancuJessica Iancu23 giorni fa
  • let me introduce conor McGregor

    LEGEND LEAGUELEGEND LEAGUE23 giorni fa
  • ○ Adjust your body language - Follow the 3 seconds rule of eye contact Give everyone in a group at least 3 seconds of eye contact before moving on - Show your palms and gesticulate as you speak - Commit to what you are expressing By embracing awkward situations fully, you show more confidence that every person on the sidelines ○ Have fun with friendly teasing - Take up more space - Laugh with the group ○ Tell your own embarrassing stories - Activate the confident body language tips - Choose high impact words - Embody the character in your story ○ Let go of managing peoples opinion of you

    Andrii TykhanAndrii Tykhan23 giorni fa
  • is this your Spider-man? 🤦🏽‍♂️

    Affirm NationAffirm Nation24 giorni fa
  • he really pulled a Zucc

    BaniBani24 giorni fa
  • How is it possible to already perform all of these tips and yet still feel awkward 90% of the time😅. Is that the definition of being an introvert? When everyone else says "your too hard on yourself" but your certain they're just trying to keep you from committing suicide so they have some one they can think of and say "well at least I'm not that guy, what's wrong with me?😅 (this is my genuine mentality please help)

    kieran o'connellkieran o'connell24 giorni fa
  • Good sheet!

    fcfdroidfcfdroid25 giorni fa
  • Don’t trust mark zuckerburg lol

    Bruce GardBruce Gard25 giorni fa
  • Stop watching videos about how to get confident. Just be yourself

    Pascal H.Pascal H.26 giorni fa
  • Just wanted to say, for someone like me who's autistic with mental health issues, these videos are really helpful, thank you for making them, just watching these makes me feel like I'm understanding social situation better, I look forward to seeing how I do after lock-down from these.

    Judy ThompsonJudy Thompson26 giorni fa
  • Well showing ur palm to gwt rid of akwardness is to much! Only should be use like him as he is on stage! But like in class or restaurant. No.

    Game MasterGame Master27 giorni fa
  • I learned I'm just like Tom Holland... But without the confidence..... I guess I'm just akward

    LafLaf29 giorni fa
  • Me: oh I think I could do that My autistic neurodivergent brain: no ❤️

    Esme TurnerEsme Turner29 giorni fa
  • There is no way i will remember this in a conversation

    Martin AndrecMartin Andrec29 giorni fa
  • HAAHAHAHAH HE PUT ZUCKERBURG FOR THE EXAMPLE OF UNTRUSTWORTHY

    Tomatoes iLLuminatoesTomatoes iLLuminatoes29 giorni fa
  • These tips are good however, it’s important to understand value and purpose. Value in that you have a sense of worth, purpose in that you know why you are in the social interaction. The reason why Tom Holland shines is that people already know his worth, and the interactions are mostly interviews of him talking about movies he acted in. Take Tom Holland to a science fair debate, I bet you he’ll struggle

    Olusegun OdufuwaOlusegun OdufuwaMese fa
  • Well, you know, Tom does it naturally. Its just the way he is. He was raised that way by intelligent, cultured and sociable people. He comes from a very good family. In an interview he said that his parents made the children had to tell stories at dinner. And I assume they, parents, told the stories too and his father is stand up comedian. Can you imagine how lucky this guy is? And besides, when he was a little boy, his parents always made him talk with other adults, their friends etc., to look in the eyes and talk. He said, therefore he had no problem working with adults. And he has been working since early childhood. Of course, Tom being comedian's son probably has an innate comic and presentation talent in him. Plus the observation his parents' behavior, plus the propper upbringing, plus a lot of experience. I repeat, he works in the industry - performs on stage, gives interviews, communicates with a variety of people from childhood. But still that is very good analysis, thank you. Many of us can use this advises, i guess. They are quite available. I think, the main thing is not to be too strict and demanding to yourself. Be kinder to yourself. But move constantly step by step, little by little and never lose hope.

    Erin BaileyErin BaileyMese fa
    • This sis such a true and perfect comment. His life experiences led him to be the person he is today and he’s lucky

      RubiessRubiess11 giorni fa
  • Wow so much truth here

    Calihan NeffCalihan NeffMese fa
  • I used to be an awkward person but entering highschool i seemed to be normal. After watching this video, I realize that I have been doing most of these things when talking to people already

    lmaohaverlmaohaverMese fa
  • All of a sudden, I’m finding myself more attracted to Tom Holland.

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  • how to turn awkwardness into confidence: laugh at everything that everyone else laughs at :)

    RainchiRainchiMese fa
  • Honestly I think the most one'll think about all this stuff the less they'll be able to act confidently. I think you just gotta be relaxed and enjoy the moment.

    Raffaele D'ambruosioRaffaele D'ambruosioMese fa
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    Guadalupe ZepedaGuadalupe ZepedaMese fa
  • This video made me realize that Tom Holland is a genius

    Keeley HassanKeeley HassanMese fa
  • Thanks! Now I can defeat my shampoo bottle

    BugBugMese fa
  • I’m not awkward around outgoing people but quiet ones, it’s hard to carry a conversation :/

    Illustrious ShadowIllustrious ShadowMese fa
    • Exactly.

      FO StoferFO Stofer29 giorni fa
  • True confidence comes from humility and faith

    Jose PerezJose PerezMese fa
  • "Or a way of being" Damn just call me out like that lmao

    Holly ButlerHolly ButlerMese fa
  • hah the mark zuckerberg clip, but man I feel sorry for him

    123458888888888888888123458888888888888888Mese fa
  • Damn that’s tuff for a lot of y’all in these comments😭 I’m only akward with body language sometimes but everything else I’m pretty good. I’m just a lil awkward or shy with new people when Im in a new school

    Dior SophhDior SophhMese fa
  • I got distracted by Tom, and forgot half of the things... so i have to rewatch... again

    Kata FazekasKata FazekasMese fa
  • How to turn Awkwardness Into Confidence: Step 1: Be the Joker.

    Scott HuScott HuMese fa
  • Say this and play the role..I'm donald trump's director of dirty tricks. You should be my woman!

    Maurice drewMaurice drewMese fa
  • Awarkwardness is only awkward when you think its awkward. Its all on your mind

    Idk123Idk123Mese fa
  • The only thing that this video taught me is that Tom Holland looks really good. Sorry, I couldnt really focus.

    Hatchy ThePatchHatchy ThePatchMese fa
  • My credit score was 571 and I couldn’t get approved for a loan, a car and a house... NOTHING! It was draining in every aspect of my life because I got kids I have to protect their future. A few weeks later, my score suddenly shot up 830, Hackergold02 on instagram he’s truly honest about what I want and what is expected of me to do. He told me it would take a few weeks to get it done approximately a week and he kept to his word. Now I can thank him enough. Get in touch with him today and make a bright future tomorrow. Hackergold02 on instagram, they are really the best trust me you can even message them on WhatsApp ‪+1 (551) 444‑9099‬

    Cheryl JonsonCheryl JonsonMese fa
  • Let's you know how much people can really see without knowing it

    No nameNo nameMese fa
  • I think these are good ideas. What makes me pause a bit is that the examples - in this case Tom Holland - work along the expectations of most people when engaging famous people. There are important variables there. And I commend you on talking about abuse and bullying separately, since those are hardly under the victims control.

    Sage2000Sage2000Mese fa
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