How To Be Charming Without Trying

15 apr 2019
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While watching clips from the previous Game of Thrones breakdown, I came across some cast interview clips, and I could not help but notice how effortlessly charming Emilia Clarke was. Emilia displays a number of charismatic habits, though, while seemingly simple, are extremely powerful.
In this video, we are going to break down 4 of Emilia’s habits that make her so charming. These might seem very simple at first, but there are nuances that take them from ordinary basic advice to habits that can make you extremely charismatic if you hit the nuance.

0:38 - Habit #1: ”Smile frequently (and genuinely)”
2:59 - Habit #2: “Build other people up”
5:29 - Habit #3: “Raise the energy in your interactions”
7:21 - Habit #4: “Be an active listener”
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  • You say these are powerful ‘habits’ like a learned behavior. It’s actually WHO SHE IS. She’s the real deal! Most people can’t be as genuine as she is because she’s free to be who she really is.

    EstherAnnEstherAnn23 ore fa
  • She still was the wrong fit to the Sarah Connor role

    Steam_bighSteam_bighGiorno fa
  • They say... You learn a new thing everyday! Today's lesson was from this charming lady... What a gem of a human being 👍👍👍

    Arunoday BirareArunoday Birare2 giorni fa
  • Alternate title: How to be Emilia Clarke Author: Game of Thrones fanatic

    Mon MonMon Mon2 giorni fa
  • Me: Smiles like Emilia Clarke People at funeral: "Ey yo wtf"

    Emil RBEmil RB3 giorni fa
  • this video genuinely made me feel better about myself and taught me so much I'm really glad this came up on my recommended

    Nessa-Saurus RexNessa-Saurus Rex3 giorni fa
  • If you're watching this video, then you're trying lol.

    Cody BonnetCody Bonnet3 giorni fa
  • 2:09 2:43 3:10 3:44

    Pelvatube AnhPelvatube Anh4 giorni fa
  • It’s good if you’re a celebrity or another famous person but in real life if you repeat people’s words back to them they get annoyed almost in a “yes I just said that now let me finishing talking” kind of way. Or some ppl hate it so much they think you’re just trying to finish their sentences for them or I’ve even heard “ no you don’t know what it’s like so just shut up and let me talk “

    Shar QureshiShar Qureshi5 giorni fa
  • Has the thumbnail been changed

    BLASTBLAST5 giorni fa
  • First tip.. stop being ugly become beautiful..

    mjay josephmjay joseph5 giorni fa
  • Brie should take lessons from Emilia

    Ianes GréciaIanes Grécia6 giorni fa
  • Yesterday I went to a gathering and employed these tactics. Got a really great response, people I don't usually talk to I had a blast with, no lulls in the conversation. 😁

    SaneKittensSaneKittens6 giorni fa
  • not me thinking I’m the most attractive person to live bcuz I’ve been doing this my whole life lmaoo

    Emily131004 PerezEmily131004 Perez6 giorni fa
  • Her smile is contagious 😁 , my lips are stuck😁😆.

    AleenAleen7 giorni fa
  • In order to be charismatic, you have to be rich, handsome and wearing costly clothes and smiling like her.

    Jenil PatelJenil Patel8 giorni fa
  • People wear masks now. I can't see anyone's smiles!

    Hanisu-chanHanisu-chan8 giorni fa
  • I think she's just high all the time

    Ahmed AlyAhmed Aly10 giorni fa
  • My question is how can you be so happy all the time

    CaptvCaptv10 giorni fa
  • she's a ray of sunshine

    cristy icarocristy icaro11 giorni fa
  • imagine her constantly laughing at a funeral

    Hans AlvaradoHans Alvarado11 giorni fa
  • If a person strives to one-up the emotional tone of people around them, is that not fake though? 🤔

    Not a Complete Idiot...Not a Complete Idiot...12 giorni fa
  • I love it It was so so so good🤩👍🏻

    Almaa AsadiiAlmaa Asadii13 giorni fa
  • Ok but I'm sad like all the time. I can't smile this often

    Hannah BarreHannah Barre14 giorni fa
  • Please do one on Joe Keery.

    ThemackmanThemackman14 giorni fa
  • her interviews make me feel like playing the sims again lol

    NAMLAZNAMLAZ14 giorni fa
  • Guys ... don't try to be normal okay... that will make you charming

    Khushi RaizadaKhushi Raizada15 giorni fa
  • Be a woman the end

    Star Wars ExaminedStar Wars Examined15 giorni fa
  • I am in space

    Asimo CloudAsimo Cloud16 giorni fa
  • first step: don't watch this video

    Maria ClaraMaria Clara17 giorni fa
  • I didnt realize she was so cute, and I watched the whole GOT series.

    Tatted 1969Tatted 196918 giorni fa
  • 0:39 Have a beaming and frequent smile (a genuine smile comes from finding humor in things) 3:10 Build other people up (You can tease your friends if you tie up with a compliment) 5:32 Raise he energy in the room 7:24 Be in active listening

    Dr. Jon Tam - Career Clarity CoachDr. Jon Tam - Career Clarity Coach18 giorni fa
  • *so it has come to this...*

    IamNotAnOrange !IamNotAnOrange !19 giorni fa
  • Thing is... if you’re watching this video about how to be charming without trying then technically aren’t you trying to be charming by watching this

    e33ue33u19 giorni fa
  • Genuine laughter and allowing oneself to feel the humour are being subtly killed by SJWs and their everything-I don't-agree-with-is-offensive attitude.

    Vesna SunriderVesna Sunrider20 giorni fa
  • I was dead when I saw Kanye make this face 0:50

    GHASTIFYGHASTIFY20 giorni fa
  • She's Libra. Libra people are peoplepleasers. 5hey are generally likeable people.

    palacinkasmarmeladoupalacinkasmarmeladou21 giorno fa
  • You speak so fast and your example clips are too fast to capture as well. Tough for a non-native speaker to catch whats going on

    ji yaji ya22 giorni fa
  • I lost it at kanye's expression.

    Sradhanjali DebSradhanjali Deb22 giorni fa
  • What about when people feel uneasy when you smile like Emilia? lol When I smile genuinely a lot of people look at me like they are scared. lmao She had serious brain surgery and I think instead of being sad about it or super fearful she is grateful for every moment alive and wants others to feel the same.

    Mike StarklyMike Starkly23 giorni fa
  • My introvert headass, Watching this at 5am trying to remember how get be like-able and charming again as i’m going into sales again after a year of doing nothing

    SlazerFisSlazerFis25 giorni fa
  • The fact that I have to click on a video telling me how to be charming without trying, means I failed by default.

    Hans KarpsHans Karps26 giorni fa
  • My eyebrows turn upside down too when I lough and I hate it 😂

    Icy MikeIcy Mike26 giorni fa
  • Love it! 💗

    Story Time with TiaStory Time with Tia28 giorni fa
  • Emilia is great as a person but she really isn't that great of an actress nor is she really a commanding star performer. Someone should give her a talk show to host. I'd watch that easily.

    irlfc9irlfc928 giorni fa
  • How to be charming: Step 1: Smile Step 2: Be insanely attractive

    RozzRozz28 giorni fa
  • She is cute and attractive.I like her

    Cyrus JohnCyrus John29 giorni fa
  • i dont find her charming? i dont even know her and i dont care about hollywood stars

    Plippy :pPlippy :pMese fa
  • Be authentic that's all

    HritikHritikMese fa
  • Perfect example of how to be successful in your career by simply being confident and positive.

    Ana SAna SMese fa
  • You know these traits remind of an article on Jennifer Aniston of friends. Kind of similar traits.

    Pete SanderPete SanderMese fa
  • She’s just so amazing

    Chesca SeastarChesca SeastarMese fa
  • bro I thought charming means sexy facial expressions.

    TahsinTKTahsinTKMese fa
  • Will SMith would've been the perfect example of this

    Graciela MontanoGraciela MontanoMese fa
  • Not to brag or anything, but I've seen her naked

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  • Great video as always thank you.

    Alex TaylorAlex TaylorMese fa
  • I'd do it .. if I could make payments

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  • Her smiling made me smile lol

    jin Is bestjin Is bestMese fa
  • During the entire run of the show, I really thought that Emilia’s acting for Daenerys Targaryen was such a flat character. She played the character so stoic, which just made her seem without emotion and no sense of humor. I was always surprised at her bubbly and lovable personality. In interviews. Too bad they didn’t let a bit of that shine through while playing Dany?. I say “they”, because I believe it was the directors that made her drop all of her real personality and charm for the role. She is so lovable every time I see her interviews. When Dan tells the story of how she got the role, it is exactly the traits they had her drop when playing Daenerys? As evil as they made her turn in a single episode, that would have been more creepy had she been using this charm you see here. We would all feel fooled by an outward personality which was hiding such a demon inside. Emilia is so charming in person, I just don’t see why she can’t get some of that into her acting? Her role as Sarah Conners in that Terminator movie was as flat as Daenerys Targaryen. I know that Linda Hamilton is a tough acto follow, but at least get a little of her own lovable personality in there. Why is everything played so stoic with her? You can be a strong leader and still have a lovable personality. In fact, that’s more realistic. Most politicians are very good at charming people,Megan tyrants could be charming when they need too. Look at Bill Clinton? Hollywood has no actor as harming and polished as he is. It’s all part of the game. Such a stoic leader appears more like a tyrant, which was what D&D decided to make her the end with that third reich setup, the bat wings behind her and all of the unsullied locked-step, standing at attention for her Führer-seque speech, they wanted her to look like a tyrant... I hope she gets a role, finally, that will let her natural personality shine.

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  • And being incredibly hot helps her alot.

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  • Great!

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  • pink

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  • I didn’t realize it was that easy!! I’ve always been like this, but I’ve also been very depressed. Ive always felt secretly distrustful if people who like me bc I feel they’re trying to take advantage of me which had happened before in a few long term situations but I think I was just shy back then while also displaying these traits which did attract a lot of friends in high school with bpd (3 friends had and gone with bpd peeps) or depression. During months of depression I would avoid people completely but they’d still hit me up and I didn’t understand it. It caused me to feel enormous levels of guilt. I guess when someone likes me I suddenly feel obligated. I couldn’t figure out why some people would ask me out or gravitate to me when I felt like I wasn’t funny enough, all though I can be at moments, I see humor easily at least. I’m not the best story telling either, which I thought was more essential to being a charismatic person but maybe just telling the story like it’s interesting works. Never felt I had anything to really offer someone bc I feel like I live a boring life. But BEING NICE AND smiling and laughing at others jokes and bringing other up and listening is all it takes ??? I thought I was lame... I don’t really know how to tease someone properly ( lonely only child also no cousins) without going over the line which I’ve always thought was ultimately lame about myself in gen z . ... also I’ve been told I’m pretty but it’s not in a perfect way, I have crooked teeth and a crooked nose but and overall unique face bc I’m mixed race. Apparently good enough! I thought you had to be perfect like a celebrity to be liked or be found attractive but the world is made up of normal people lmao. I guess my genuine fascination in others lives works. After this vid it clicked with me why I attract people sometimes, and why I’ve been told I have an amazing personality when it doesn’t feel that way. Kindness > all .

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  • Uhm......I'm not Emilia Clarke

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  • Step 1, be pretty like her

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  • Most of these people are higher than a racehorse before it makes a race

    Tony GoodTony GoodMese fa
  • I am doomed... she appears 99% forced/phony to me.

    Chris KingChris KingMese fa
  • I definitely got charmed by her

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  • _I love Emilia_

    Jane DoeJane DoeMese fa
  • The Talented Mr. Ripley must’ve subscribed to this channel

    Olivier R. CantadaOlivier R. CantadaMese fa
  • I’m only here because my mental doctors say that eating people is "mean”? I guess It’s only like 1% rude but apparently it’s 100% rude, they deserve to be in a mental hospital,

    CevericeCevericeMese fa
  • I watched this video to gain insight on how to charm people in my pageant videos and then Chris Evans showed up. What a bonus

    Mary KeleherMary KeleherMese fa
  • No one Me.. Looking for a personality change during quarantine.

    whereare _theavocadoswhereare _theavocadosMese fa
    • Relatable

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  • I'd like to see a charm breakdown of Simon Cowell

    Noah BakeNoah BakeMese fa
  • I genuinely smile and laugh and this video comforts me 🤣😂

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  • alternative title, "explaining why I have a crush on Emilia Clarke in the most lowkey way possible"

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  • be yourself... III

    Melvin Carlton Johnson IIIMelvin Carlton Johnson IIIMese fa
  • Emilia is charming & heart warming😊

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  • Thanks for the great video! Godspeed to all who read this!

    Catholic Chroma ChannelCatholic Chroma ChannelMese fa
  • she is NOT a stuck up PHONEY..but seems warm hearted and genuine.... happy

    DavidDavidMese fa
  • It's not something you DO or not do, it's something you ARE

    WEBAZE LabsWEBAZE Labs2 mesi fa
  • She is a tiger woman, that explains everything ;)

    Reniu TuIterazReniu TuIteraz2 mesi fa
  • Honestly, I find it annoying that she laughs so much at everything. I dont think I could hang out with someone like that.

    Jimmy RJimmy R2 mesi fa
  • if you want to be charming without trying as the title says.... It's too late because you are trying just by watching this video.

    Sofia MartinezSofia Martinez2 mesi fa
  • I want to be the one to say its okay to not be okay. Be yourself. Be kind. Be whatever YOU feel comfortable with.

    Northern RoamNorthern Roam2 mesi fa
  • smiling so hard like that all the time does make you seem more likable but imagine all the premature wrinkles

    Natalia de Carvalho P.Natalia de Carvalho P.2 mesi fa
  • "How to be charming without trying" > be a pretty girl Ah, Y E S .

    JimmyJimmy2 mesi fa
    • I personally think personality matters more. I know, it sounds cliché but trust me I know this girl who's considered a beauty queen but I don't find her beautiful at all because her personality is ugly. And then there are a few guys I know who I'm not gonna lie, I thought were quite ugly at first, but their hearts are so pure now I find them Super attractive. I used to think beauty was really just about looks, but I've found first hand that it's not. Being a bubble, polite person genuinely makes you so attractive and so beautiful to the people around you even if you can't see it😊❤️

      베어제이미베어제이미4 giorni fa
  • What if I have really bad teeth

    Maya KylnnMaya Kylnn2 mesi fa
  • easy phycology degree at 15

    HavikHavik2 mesi fa
  • Genuine smile? Nope I lose it since my mom told me I’m ugly when i laughing

    F A ZF A Z2 mesi fa
  • Someone recently compared my personality to Emilia Clarke and now I feel intensely flattered. She is one charming lady. 😏😍

    Maddy HarveyMaddy Harvey2 mesi fa
  • First rule, be good looking

    Herng TsuiHerng Tsui2 mesi fa
  • This works for women. Not realy for men. Us men have to keep a masculine frame, most of the time. Got this from alpha male strategies. Look him up.

    pedro GUNZ ceballospedro GUNZ ceballos2 mesi fa
  • Eye squinting isn't charismatic. Its a sign that the person doesnt want to be a part of the conversation/party/group.

    KazekageNathanielKazekageNathaniel2 mesi fa
  • she reminds me of melissa benoist. watch some interviews of melissa and you will see how similar they act.

    alexa rayealexa raye2 mesi fa
  • Emilia is the sweetest. And very realistic too. I remember the time she followed me back on instagram by mistake 😂 I love her.

    Fariha LubabaFariha Lubaba2 mesi fa
  • Приветствую друзья. Деловое предложение. Тема Золото самая актуальная. Я даю Вам место, оплачиваю а Вы на него трафик гоните, Работаем вместе получаете свои комиссионные и от всей команды навсегда Риск потерять деньги сводится к нолю По всем вопросам на моей странице инфо под видео о Золоте регистрируйся и я свяжусь с Вами

    Ирина ШульгаИрина Шульга2 mesi fa
  • My smile is way to ugly :/

    The unknownThe unknown2 mesi fa
  • When she laughs, she doesn’t have eyes

    2oo8Mehta2oo8Mehta2 mesi fa