How To Permanently STOP Self Sabotage

7 gen 2019
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  • A grand a month to charity? I am charity and that would be such a blessing! CashApp $brandichavel

    Brandi HarveyBrandi Harvey14 giorni fa
  • You lost me at Bill Gates, someone who is deeply evil.

    Connecting The DotsConnecting The Dots2 mesi fa
  • Yeah, Bill Gates is very happy pretending to be a doctor and depopulating the planet!

    MightyMick77MightyMick773 mesi fa
  • So CBT?

    fr812 librafr812 libra3 mesi fa
  • Growth mindset.

    Hiroki MoodyHiroki Moody3 mesi fa
  • This really helped me I'm using this method every time I feel like I'm sabotaging myself

    mbay tekashi tvmbay tekashi tv4 mesi fa
  • Bill Gates is probably the worst example of a human being who actually is capable of the least if no amount of empathy that you could have given. We, who have done some research know what Mr. Gates is all about and none of it is good.

    Purple HazePurple Haze5 mesi fa
  • Thank you for making this.

    Michael GondiMichael Gondi5 mesi fa
  • I feel like I am undeserving of relationships and love and I don't fight for what I really want because of anxiety and feeling I'm not ready for better things

    Robbie C.Robbie C.5 mesi fa
  • Why is the app not available in South Africa? 🤨 I was so looking forward to it

    Nontokozo MbathaNontokozo Mbatha5 mesi fa
  • You can always donate 1,000 bucks to me too C:

    Runaway CatRunaway Cat5 mesi fa
  • I dont like procrasination, I find it difficult to have a proper timetable to carry out my daily tasks.

    C FernandesC Fernandes5 mesi fa
  • I am afraid to have friends, sincerly like I think if I show people my kind side, they will hurt me easily, that's because I used to have some friends and I kept losing them for this, I wish I can get rid of this fear because I started to be socially awkward

    Dou aaDou aa6 mesi fa
  • I can’t face the mornings. I need to stop.

    Cindy SkiCindy Ski7 mesi fa
  • Doesn’t help

    BlobsMan 12BlobsMan 127 mesi fa
  • Lost all my confidence due to a break up. Ever since been self sabotaging. Lord help me

    Rachel SarbengRachel Sarbeng8 mesi fa
  • What it you just like smoking weed

    bravo1oh1bravo1oh19 mesi fa
  • I self sabotage myself A LOT when it comes to crushes.

    LarkLark9 mesi fa
  • Same acts but different how to view it and how you put intensions and feelings and what is your goal😊

    Mariam SabryMariam Sabry9 mesi fa
  • I'm watching this instead of practicing singing haha. I'm terrified of failure and not doing well in my career

    tigergirl305tigergirl30511 mesi fa
  • Good talk at same time consider the Pareto Principle and The Hedonistic Treadmill and Intrinsic -Goals -vs-Extrinsic-Goals and Acceptance of Imperfections and Keeping Goals Realistic... Progress not Perfection ☯️ Mudskipper

    Mud SkipperMud SkipperAnno fa
  • The beginning part is some what true every time I want to go forward my mind stops & erases what I set out to do!?

    Mohammad AlakkadMohammad AlakkadAnno fa
  • How can we find your "CONFIDENCE MED" on the app? hopefully no cred card reqd?

    Ma D.Ma D.Anno fa
  • I thought self sabotage was putting up barriers that you know would be fulfilling to you and others by your fulfillment.

    William ScurryWilliam ScurryAnno fa
  • What’s up with the background music? It’s all over the place. Charlie’s voice over is soothing enough.

    Erick RodríguezErick RodríguezAnno fa
  • Can you please donate 1000 to me every month? Thanks.

    Chase PotterChase PotterAnno fa
  • this is BRILLIANT! I always figured fear of failure was the thing freezing, but I fail all the time and It's just a normal thing to me. It's actually when I'm doing good that I stop myself, I can't put into words how accurate this fits my situation. Thanks a lot for making this video, I'll get to working on improving these associations!

    Oridan1Oridan1Anno fa
  • Comment section I need help thinking of a good counter example to Procrastination: doing school work at home makes less free time Trying to improve please help 😃

    Rachel MRachel MAnno fa

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  • Nice ! :)

    AI JAI JAnno fa
  • Today once again I screwed up the best date of my life to keep myself safe. But this video and others alike gives hope that one day people will be free :)

    Louis BalaLouis BalaAnno fa
  • Bravery isnt not being scared. Bravery is being scared and doing it anyway. Get out there and chase your dreams!

    Youngboy KevYoungboy KevAnno fa
  • Your beautiful smile is so much more charming to watch than this animation :)

    Olga R. I.Olga R. I.Anno fa
  • What do you do when you self sabotage every area of your life?

    natalie beginnatalie beginAnno fa
    • natalie begin Stopping

      Mostafa SaadMostafa Saad10 mesi fa
  • I know that this is weird, so please bear with me. I'm really good at making friends (naturally, this has always been one of my best talents), but I'm bad at pickup because I'm worried that I'll be rejected. As someone who makes a lot of friends, this has always confused me. (I'm going to watch your Friend Zone Buster right after I do the fear list in this video)

    NeatherBen221NeatherBen221Anno fa
  • I self sabotage every time I try to vlog in public ://

    Ryan HurleyRyan HurleyAnno fa
    • Ryan Thomas sameee. Stopped making videos eventually

      Mostafa SaadMostafa Saad10 mesi fa
  • Wow. $1000 a month is half our income! o.O

    AFord 42AFord 42Anno fa
  • i just dont like the gym because its really uncomfortable and hard to lift heavy things. its exhausting, it stinks and its not fun at all. i dont think my self conscious is tricking me. i think its just really hard.

    Nega_WeebNega_WeebAnno fa
  • I self sabotage because its the easier way.

    Marko BogovićMarko BogovićAnno fa
  • It’s in my genes, I swear to god 😂🙃

    Katie BKatie BAnno fa
  • Help meeeeeeeeee!!!!!!!

    thehoneyeffectthehoneyeffectAnno fa
  • I don't get it

    Only One MITCH!Only One MITCH!Anno fa
  • so basically positive affirmations and use law of attraction principles.

    Arthur WithheldArthur WithheldAnno fa
  • Charlie, would it be a lot of trouble to make a video on Captain America? Captain America needs a breakdown because he's a great leader from whom you can help us learn from. And as a Marvel Fan yourself, I'm sure you'll have fun making it.

    DevamDevamAnno fa
  • What are your limiting beliefs ?

    AdoremejoyAdoremejoyAnno fa
  • Wow the first 60 secs of this video is the story of my life

    n3rds3y3vi3wn3rds3y3vi3wAnno fa
  • I self-sabotage because I’m lazy. That’s it

    N. GoldbergN. GoldbergAnno fa
  • Any advice for me. I self sabotage when it comes to being loved. I go into things with the mind set of being alone or having to always be in defense of things. I never let myself be loved or to love them. How do I teach myself to see things in a positive light?

    Morgan McKayMorgan McKayAnno fa
  • Great video but the music makes it so distracting

    Jared ByrneJared ByrneAnno fa
  • I self sabotage because my husband wants me to get into a career that I’m not interested in. He won’t change his mind no matter how miserable I tell him that I am.

    Mary DanielleMary DanielleAnno fa
  • Yeah I’d like to be healthy that sounds co- oh wait I have to do something? Never mind I am good

    diam0ndMiner64diam0ndMiner64Anno fa
  • Where is justin Y

    Samir Ahmad MirSamir Ahmad MirAnno fa
  • Hm idk I think I’m just lazy

    N. GoldbergN. GoldbergAnno fa

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  • I only have one thing to say: THANK YOU!

    YatshieYatshieAnno fa
  • Appreciate the hard work on the video and the content! The music is really distracting though-the music isn’t necessary.

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    • ~ Thanks for the feedback. :-)

      Charisma on CommandCharisma on CommandAnno fa
  • I usually end up giving up at the very last minute. I work hard at a goal, only to then walk away at the finish line.

    Afreen KAfreen KAnno fa
  • Nice animation 👍

    Dave ArroyoDave ArroyoAnno fa
  • pleass help me beat my own T-SERIES just do it yes u can! I just need help!98% people wont read this but for the 2% reading this I hope you become successful in life with everything you dream of and accomplish more than you imagined and I wouldnt mind a sub! I'm a small ytr

    007agentjm007agentjmAnno fa
  • Don’t think and write that you are sabotaging yourself and why, just write the second part.

    Armen AgaronianArmen AgaronianAnno fa
  • thank you

    Mr Slothbeast72Mr Slothbeast72Anno fa
  • Wow. I did the exercise: Success - if I get noticed, I will be a target How do I deal with this?

    Samantha MitchellSamantha MitchellAnno fa
  • Every fear is somehow trying to protect us! Being compassionate with it is super valuable!

    Alexandra ViolaAlexandra ViolaAnno fa
  • I am in this reality now

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  • Now that I am aware of having self sabotaging behavior, I refuse to watch this video as it may significantly help my situation and improve my quality of life

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  • I am single could someone help me to stop sabotaging myself

  • I feel like this is something a lot of people do without even realizing then just blame themselves and get stuck in a never ending cycle or rut of failure and "self-sabotaging" behaviors! It's hard to break but with a mindset shift it's totally doable and gets easier over time!

    Tara Wagner CoachingTara Wagner CoachingAnno fa
  • I’ve heard all this from Antony Robins.

    Giaiel PaceGiaiel PaceAnno fa
  • "Greetings female human!" made me laugh :D

    Toms PirktiņšToms PirktiņšAnno fa
  • donate a $1000 a month? That is SO much money!

    BenjannaBenjannaAnno fa
  • bad background music choice - its distracting. :P

    QuackerJack09QuackerJack09Anno fa
  • But what if I self-sabotage by being too lazy? Like I know I should be studying, and I'm running out of time, but man I just can't stay focused... I tried your suggestion, but I don't seem to find any "secret fear of success" for being employed and having a salary. Does that still count?

    Eskander XanderamaEskander XanderamaAnno fa
  • by winning

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  • The infographics show animation vibes

    Ray VillaflorRay VillaflorAnno fa
  • what is the song in in back?

    djx artdjx artAnno fa
  • Hey man. Outstanding channel. I'm curious about your animations. Custom and expensive, or generic and available to the public? I want to launch a channel of my own but the animations are my biggest hurdle. Thank you in advance.

    Stephen BrennanStephen BrennanAnno fa
  • Anyone know the background music?

    What the Uproar?What the Uproar?Anno fa
  • Donate to me this month._.

    A Random Introvert OnlineA Random Introvert OnlineAnno fa
  • Love your videos, but the animation and music feels really distracting in this one. Stop imitating The School of Life.

    Gries HeGries HeAnno fa
  • If you can afford to give as much a month to charity as i have to pay in rent each month, you're already doing better off than like 90% of humanity. Some of us don't have the opportunities you clearly were fortunate enough to be given;

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  • Bill Gates is an asshole

    Andrew FeistAndrew FeistAnno fa
  • The financial stakes video linked isn't the right one. Does anyone have the correct link?

    Scott SpaldingScott SpaldingAnno fa
  • checking the answered and handed it to the teacher. I knew I should do something about it. So when the teacher started collecting the papers from students I quickly went to his desk saw my paper and corrected the mistake. My body was filled with adrenaline that moment lol

    omar khamisomar khamisAnno fa
  • Thought it was Kurzgesagt

    Alexandré KotchAlexandré KotchAnno fa
  • Background music is annoying. Good content though.

    Pacific CoastPacific CoastAnno fa
  • Song

    Warren WillWarren WillAnno fa
  • The ITworlds channel julienhimself is really keen on stopping self sabotage and living life in abundance, check him out!

    Rajveer SinghRajveer SinghAnno fa
  • Nice video but I think there's too much happening visually.

    Bob BobbyBob BobbyAnno fa
  • kurzgesagt?

    XciziorXciziorAnno fa
  • Great content! May I ask what software you use to create animated lectures?

    Ali Reza TeymouriAli Reza TeymouriAnno fa
  • I have an another technique, when ever I am tensed or afraid I go completely dumb, then to solve this I think about my self as excited I constantly tell to myself that I am excited rather than afraid. This brings back the normal state of my brain

    Kiran GoudKiran GoudAnno fa
  • I am sabotaging myself right now by watching a ITworlds video, lmao

    Krzysztof WisKrzysztof WisAnno fa
  • ripped straight from school of life

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  • I take my failures and dwell on them, it’s hard for me not to tell myself stuff while I see myself failing and my co workers doing better. I try to do affirmations, have positive attitude, and do everything to focus on here and now but it helps only to a certain degree. This video is exactly what I needed, a compass TY. You da best

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  • I wonder what program they use to make the animations.

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  • Money is a multiplier. If you're caring and generous, it'll make you more so. If you're an asshole, it'll make you a bigger one. And if you have a hole in yourself that you wanna fill, it'll just make the hole more apparent.

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  • Yeah I kinda got an idea similar to what you explain in the video. Each time I try to do something new or something that makes me uncomfortable I feel like I will mess up big time. So the idea the I ended up with was that I should still try my hardest to archieve something or do the thing, so if I do and still fail at it, sure I would feel bad at the moment, but at the end of the day that becomes a new experience for me to learn from, wich would make it less scary for me to try again, and it could potentially become a funny or interesting story to tell my friends and family in the future.

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  • The biggest believe, the one I think it all boils down to, is "I don't deserve this." BUT yes: you are good enough, you can allow yourself to be happy!

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  • I think the most important thing for me about this video is that I actually believe that this will work.

    Lebo RapulengLebo RapulengAnno fa
  • Please stay in realty because they will reframe reality

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