5 Easy Ways To Make Small Talk With Anyone

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We’ve all had conversations that feel forced or boring, or are filled with awkward silences. It can be almost painful. That’s why in this video we're going to go over 5 steps to make small talk with anyone. We’ll do so by breaking down some tricks that Joe Rogan uses on his podcast to connect with everyone from academics to athletes to celebrities.  

The goal of each of these is to either get the person to like you more OR get you off small talk and into a real conversation that lets you form a genuine connection. Some will be mindsets and some will be word for word questions you can steal. They’re all easy to do, but most people don’t do them.


0:00 - Intro.
0:54 - #1: Grease the wheels early with a compliment.
2:17 - #2: Transition between topics using “reminds me of” thinking.
4:07 - #3: Ping for topics of mutual interest.
4:31 - #4: Get other people excited about the conversation.
6:27 - #5: Create a connection with people while listening.

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  • Well one way joe laughs at everything is that he’s high all the time

    Ravens RuleRavens Rule2 ore fa
  • I have to do a lot of small talk for my job and sometimes it’s so awkward💀I’ve gotten better at small talk but I can really do much better. I like how this was actionable advice!

    Bianca GurleyBianca Gurley5 ore fa
  • Is a 4-hour conversation "small talk"?

    Elliot BeerlineElliot Beerline6 ore fa
  • The top thing you can do is pull something back from earlier in the conversation. This makes a person realize you're not just hearing them you're listening. Like "oh so you love the nightlife, that explains why you moved to boring old Fresno". You get a laugh and they realize you actually care about the conversation.

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  • Superb.

    Pan FamPan Fam13 ore fa
  • I just want to learn how ti manipulate people

    Jesus PGJesus PGGiorno fa
  • BTW, if I were on his podcast I feel like he'd make me interesting and I like my job.

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  • So now I'm going to use DMT as a euphemism for a conversational tool.

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  • DMT!

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  • Big missing piece in this advice is that Joe is a comedian, and habitually thinks about things for the sake of making comedy. Though he is speaking off the cuff, it is not completely spontaneous. Some of the connections he makes may be in the moment, some of them may have been established before. Being a comedian prepares you for making small talk in this way, because you are regularly thinking about things that you can communicate to strangers for the sake of your product.

    Calvin SomethingCalvin SomethingGiorno fa
  • Talking Topic to topic is not my idea of a good conversation when the mic is off. People don't normally talk like that .

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  • Have you done tmd backwards?

    Natalia E.Natalia E.Giorno fa
  • 4:46 Who is that hottie?

    Marvin NashMarvin NashGiorno fa
    • And don't answer "David Letterman" ;)

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  • Only commenting bc comments are at 666. Tryna be 667

    Brayden JohnsonBrayden JohnsonGiorno fa
  • I watched this video around 2 months ago maybe, and I’ve come back to it maybe once or twice. I’m not kidding, my conversational confidence has sky-rocketed and after some practice I’m now able to carry on a conversation for ever. This video isn’t magic, you actually have to apply these skills and practice them, but if you really develop an understanding about what’s in this video. It 100% works.

    Parker MeredithParker Meredith2 giorni fa
  • What is the name of that perfect 10 talking to Ryan Reynolds at 1:58?

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  • Best way to be funny get high on weed maybe joe is high

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  • Joe rogan is also always on drugs

    jooreuablejooreuable2 giorni fa
  • Hey good tips just paused the video and trued the why? She chose that school and it worked really well crazy thing is I've never been too socially awkward and haven't thought about this sort of thing before but I have to say anyone can be helped by this sort of thing who doesn't want to have more meaningful conversations.

    JTientJTient2 giorni fa
  • who narrated this video??

    ChicoMillionChicoMillion2 giorni fa
  • I used to be so bad at small talk. Then I started watching Joe Rogan and came to enjoy making other people have fun with small talk.

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  • Haven't watched your channel in a while. In fact I was surlrise this was your channel lol content has improved 100x

  • some of this stuff used to be common..people used to do this out of habit..we've forgotten this stuff with the new different ways of communicating

    Dwight HudsonDwight Hudson2 giorni fa
  • Of course this is an ad

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  • Him/her: how are you today Me: hey how ya doin

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  • My DMT would be modern dating. Everyone has so much to say about dating

    Tiyan NewmanTiyan Newman3 giorni fa
  • what about Alpha Male strategies saying never to compliment a girl unless she deserves it

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  • Stephen Colbert scaring Aubrey plaza at 08:41 is priceless

    Zaid ThabitZaid Thabit3 giorni fa
  • DMT.

    Bhavesh GadagBhavesh Gadag4 giorni fa
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  • Small talk isn’t necessarily the problem. I just don’t want to talk anymore and get the hell out of there.

    Al ElectricAl Electric4 giorni fa
  • I really liked WHAT IF question because you can use it to avoid awkward silence when you run out of ideas and the other partner have nothing to say

    الإخبارية تيوبالإخبارية تيوب5 giorni fa
  • Laughing is a good tip, unless it's a small talk with Tyson 😬

  • awesome video

    JediGeekBikerJediGeekBiker5 giorni fa
  • My ping is gonna be the joe rogan podcast

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  • So uh, you ever tried DMT?

    Junrei WangJunrei Wang7 giorni fa
  • Write that down... Write that down.

    ShivamShivam9 giorni fa
  • I have not met with my friends for so long, or strangers, i forgot how it was like to make a small talk. Thanks for the amazing video!

    Destiny JamesDestiny James9 giorni fa
  • Please do a video on Dan Pena of Quantum Leap Advantage

    Robert McLellanRobert McLellan9 giorni fa
  • +charisma on command Will you please do a video on communication and building relationships after you’ve experienced trauma? I find the need to hide so much of myself which makes me feel very inauthentic, but I know that opening up can make people uncomfortable. At this point, I’ve lost a lot of relationships that I really care for and it would be a huge help. Thank you.

    E BentonE Benton9 giorni fa
  • This was def helpful. My job involve communication and still sone tips i never thought of

    TheShadowTheShadow10 giorni fa
  • Your videos are the best on ITworlds period. After each video, I find myself connecting tens of dots about things in life. For example, when i feel bad or groggy, i noticed myself feeling better when i read writings or messages or comments ( social situations) that i was confident in, where I accomplished my goal in delivering a point. Now i understand why people love having their comments liked, boosting their self-esteem even if the comment is just a joke or a notice. I also understood why success in my morning routine usually sets me up for better mood. Another thing i understood is why praying pre dawn prayer with the group is far more better than alone at home. (Group exercise) I also understood why my elder brother used to feel kinda depressed around me, as I was usually the one with the more knowledge about random topics while he was focused on his medicine studies, ehich made me win lots of social arguments around him, leaving him feeling in someway defeated. And finally it made it clear of to why i used to feel depressed after hanging out with some toxic friends even though we'd have fun, but because they don't often let me speak or express my thoughts on what they talk about, also leaving me feeling defeated, even though we respect one another and help one another. And in this made have more respect towards the prophet Mohammad, he used to listen to people jntil they finish, shake the hand until the other would stop, never yelling or shouting at wrong doers, as that would deminish their social status, but rather he built them up, even though he was the alpha of the whole islamic community at it's beginning. Another thing is that now i can understand more why people like those who obey them, for instance in our Islamic teaching we are guided to do good to parents, obeying them in what they order (as long as it's a good order, or one that doesn't harm me or someone else), I can see this now as it makes them feel their social status as parents, rather than being defeated by the ones under them in the social hierarchy. Also the obedience of the wife to her husband, making him feel like the man he is, and especially that his orders are almost always are for the sake of the family. And here it became clear to me why islam favors justice over equality, in equality you do injustice to those with wisdom and knowledge who are usually high in the hierarchy, making their words and decisions feel the same as the ones without any of that. Also a woman with low testosterone should accommodate that woth higher estrogen, making her the care giver she is better at, but a man with lower testosterone feels less like a man and therefore not as motivated to live. To correct that we have the high ones in the hierarchy giving orders to lessers, and the lessers with less testosterone fixing their lack of that with the handy labor. Building homes or carrying heavy goods, (Physical exercise for T treatment) I can go on and on .. and I would still wouldn't have scratched the surface. God's creation with the simple complexity. And thse are just

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  • I love this channel

    Ameerun Imi SairiAmeerun Imi Sairi11 giorni fa
  • How to make small talk? Take big talk and put it into several packages 📦

    HVYContentHVYContent11 giorni fa
  • Thanks to your extensive and sometimes unnecessary featuring of Jordan Peterson, I'm unsubscribing. I know it doesn't matter to you but I thought I'll let you know that because otherwise this channel is a pretty great one.

    Basundhara PaulBasundhara Paul11 giorni fa
  • Me talking to black girl Hi why are you black

    L ML M11 giorni fa
  • so bring up DMT?

    CjCj11 giorni fa
  • I did all this naturally but thats because I like talking to strangers and im actually curious about how people think and what actions they take. Somehow being interested naturally and doing it a lot built my intelligence of doing all this naturally all the time. Keep in mind some people dont respond and dont like sharing things about themselves, always dropping the conversation. this can be a tough one.

    Comment WarriorComment Warrior12 giorni fa
  • Joes new 'DMT' is Salmon

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  • We want to be truly seen

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  • This channel always asks money

    Yohani TadeleYohani Tadele13 giorni fa
  • Cant afford CU :(

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  • That segway tho

    G4merbobG4merbob13 giorni fa
  • Do you know how many podcasts you have to watch to make this video?

    Nadir YoungNadir Young14 giorni fa
  • The first 20 seconds is how small talk goes with me

    General DreamGeneral Dream14 giorni fa
  • i'm not so much sure as joe talks about dmt as if it's a mutual topic but more so that he wants it to be every ones mutual topic. Which i am ok with.

    Steve JobsSteve Jobs14 giorni fa
  • You did a good job of identifying conversation techniques used by good orators, but these abilities come naturally to only those who have a wide and varied knowledge base and a sharp mind that is able to access them quickly and seemlessly. This cannot be taught for the simple fact that the moment one tries to do these things, one will fail because their mind is fixed on the idea of trying and they will either mentally freeze or come across fake or forced. Further more they won't be listening because they will be planning. Again though bravo on identifying these techniques.

    michael jordanmichael jordan15 giorni fa
  • "Hi how are you?" "High, how are you?"

    CrewsCrews15 giorni fa
  • Joe rogan making convo method; just keep talking about what you think about everything you've ever thought about.

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  • While I think I understand what you're going for here, perhaps the trick is to watch this a few times so as to undertand clearly. I am so very much an introvert but I am no Joe. He doean't seem to be an introvert at all. I wish I was so lucky as to be a Joe. I never will be so I'm just not sure how to learn from this.

    tintookatintooka16 giorni fa
  • I'm so bad at conversations

    JJ16 giorni fa
  • Joe went to Charisma U 🤣

    Rejalla DesuseRejalla Desuse16 giorni fa
  • Why was everyone else given a book on how to act as a normal human and I wasn't lol

    JackJack16 giorni fa
  • Me: great okay be like Joe Rogan Me: Did you see that guy accidentally hit that moose?

    grimey catgrimey cat17 giorni fa
  • 101 on being manipulative. 😺

    Maria GråMaria Grå19 giorni fa
  • Compliments kinda put my guard up. You gonna do it right.

    Giancarlos RosalesGiancarlos Rosales27 giorni fa
  • All females Master this early in life, EYE contact, What are you doing? WHY?

    SFC TapiaSFC Tapia29 giorni fa
  • This channel is sooo good!

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    Yasser BerrehailYasser BerrehailMese fa
  • Mike Tyson: "Hey hey hey! I'm serious!"

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  • Why can be effective, but can also make people defensive

    The Average JoeThe Average JoeMese fa
  • Worst conversation question is “what do you for work” don’t ask. Ask them “what do you do when you’re not working?” If you have to know. People will tell you what they do for work and fun in one question.

    john breenjohn breenMese fa
  • joe rogan is so genuine you just have to like him :)

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  • One good trick I learnt is to say the name of the person you are talking to a little bit more than you usually would. This is especially good when talking in a small group as it makes them feel more heard and included. No matter how much of an ego they have, there isn't a sweeter sound to someone's ears than the sound of their own name.

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  • I can’t believe this generation became so antisocial that they now have to make “methods” on how to socialize.

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  • You can see it in Elon's face: "...Omg I'm funny?!"

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  • Read...How To When Friends and Influence People. The book that inspired Charles Manson.

    Chris Sr.Chris Sr.Mese fa
  • I'm tired of being the dude who carries the conversation.

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  • 7:39 ok I will watch Scott sterling soccer shootout before I meet this girl tomorrow

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  • Watched the whole vid only to find out at the end that it's just a commercial trying to sell you something

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  • “I don’t know many people from Delaware” *Thank you*

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  • I got you. Bye!!!

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  • This is a great video!

    Ron HatfieldRon Hatfield2 mesi fa
  • Phucking 21st century Dale Carnegie

    Lee Van CleefLee Van Cleef2 mesi fa
  • Why would I make small talk lol.

    wolfgangouillewolfgangouille2 mesi fa
  • Lol this is just how stoners communicate (extroverted stoners)

    NightsChapterSevenNightsChapterSeven2 mesi fa
  • As a white dude in America in the year 2020, I almost feel like I need to ask for consent to give someone a compliment.

    Nunya BizNunya Biz2 mesi fa
  • Hi, can you please do a video on Tekashi 69 and how to be charming when people want to hate you (something like that ). His interviews are very interesting.

    Rocking RondaRocking Ronda2 mesi fa
  • This is very helpful! 💯💯💯

    Titomo DanielTitomo Daniel2 mesi fa
  • Interesting, i'd always held back on 'that reminds me of' because i feel/learnt that it detracts from the attention/empathy of what theyve said. 🤔 makes sense though, to keep the conversation flowing

    dappiduckdappiduck2 mesi fa
  • Slick stuff there bud

    Itm Marl3auItm Marl3au2 mesi fa
  • who was that girl, from wilmingotn de. I'm from there and literally sont know anyone famous from there

    Jack WilkinsonJack Wilkinson2 mesi fa
  • Umm smoke weed. Joe does. Makes you more sociable.

    Juan GutierrezJuan Gutierrez2 mesi fa
  • "How are you?" "Good you?" "I'm Good" "Good" "Goodbye" "Bye"

    SBee GamingSBee Gaming2 mesi fa
    • That’s hilarious 🤣 I’m guilty of having that conversation more than I’d like to admit. 😬

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    • at my job we have to constantly greet costumers and sometimes all i hear is “hi ma’am how are you?” “good, how are you?” “good, and you?” “good” “that’s good”

      First Name Last NameFirst Name Last Name16 giorni fa
  • I cannot stand small talk .. awkward

    Social RejectzSocial Rejectz2 mesi fa
  • For those of us who might find it difficult to emulate Joe or adopt the techniques he so effortlessly uses to improve the quality of content in his shows, you might try and be genuinely interested in the other person (nervousness included). It might just work.

    Imran MoonisImran Moonis2 mesi fa