How To Stop A Bully Immediately

7 set 2020
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Amazon’s The Boys is full of personalities that are fun to watch but would be terrible to encounter in real life.

Superpowers aside, we’ve all encountered this type: tough guy bully who tries to push you around, make you uncomfortable, or get you to agree to something you don’t really want. So that’s why in this video we’ll cover 6 psychological tricks bullies use to control you and what you can do to avoid or stop those them in their tracks.
NB! Since we’re mainly using Billy Butcher and Homelander as examples of our tough guys, there will be light spoilers through season 1 of the Boys.

0:00 - Intro.
0:38 - #1: Mismatching friendly gestures with domineering physicality.
1:39 - #2: Forcing you to make decisions in a highly emotional state.
3:39 - #3: Listen for the insult.
5:21 - #4: Demands with personal threats attached.
7:01 - #5: Threaten you with their own harm or sadness.
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  • You're a bit annoying Charly.

    WarlockWarlock27 minuti fa
  • Homelander seems like he just needs a friend. I actually think he's a hero.

    As Pooped By Anakin SkywalkerAs Pooped By Anakin SkywalkerGiorno fa
  • Homelander is a sociopath, and In The Boys he can get away with a lot more because of his powers. As the child of a sociopath, completely removing myself from their orbit is the only solution I've found that works 100% of the time. That's because no matter what, if I am beholden to them in any way, they will exploit me. Some people are just too dangerous to be around.

    Geoffrey ZorefGeoffrey ZorefGiorno fa
  • Can these tactics be used against Donald Trump?

    Zahirul HossainZahirul Hossain2 giorni fa
  • Great vid 😜

    Che AnarchistChe Anarchist2 giorni fa
  • Where do you learn about all this psychopathic behavior?

    Jpenney mrcoinJpenney mrcoin3 giorni fa
  • luv you video's thanks

    yotubr08yotubr086 giorni fa
  • This advice isn't about stopping bullies, it's about resisting high pressure sales tactics. Aside from being cartoonish fictional characters, Butcher and Homelander aren't 'bullies', they're 'violent narcissistic psychopaths' who deliver on their threats. There is no way to 'stop' people with disordered, pathological personalities, your only effective option is eliminating all contact. As for the vid title, the only way to 'stop' an actual bully is to push back hard enough --- psychologically and/or physically --- that you establish dominance.

    Gregory ScottGregory Scott6 giorni fa
  • very interesting video^^ I work as a psychologist with victims of mobbing and bossing. Can you recommend some literature that your videos are based on?

    Haze VenturaHaze Ventura6 giorni fa
  • Bullies are basically narcissists. The other traits are psychopathy and Machiavellianism.

    Exposing Proxy Stalking Organized HarassmentExposing Proxy Stalking Organized Harassment6 giorni fa
  • I was cyber bullied by a guy at my school

    Phil RozicPhil Rozic7 giorni fa
  • One tip that is more for peer pressure than bullying is that if someone ever tries to get you to do something that you know you won’t want to do, just immediately put it out there that they won’t change your mind. However, you might want to pay attention some of the time because it could end up being something you wish you had done

    Wyatt HoranWyatt Horan7 giorni fa
  • I think you are mistaken about Butcher. He’s not trying to put other people down, he just wants to get the supes and unfortunately a lot of normal people are daft supe-admiring wankers who stand in his way.

    Sebastian BahnSebastian Bahn7 giorni fa
  • If you have any of these people in your life, welcome to the world of the narcissist. You need to research this now. The good news is that you will learn how to deal with this better. The bad news is that the narcissist is so much worse than you can imagine yet, and he feels that he owns you. Good luck!

    Old GoalieOld Goalie8 giorni fa
  • The most effective way to stop a bully is by putting a .45 between their eyes at high velocity.

    Mac NachtenMac Nachten8 giorni fa
  • I've found Americans in real life to be quite affable and quick witted with jokes. The TV and the movies may give a different impression.

    BeamRider100BeamRider1009 giorni fa
  • Of course none of these tips will work on a pyschopath.

    Joel KrysiakJoel Krysiak9 giorni fa
  • In India we face bullies with iron rods and baseball bats and a lot of blood.

    Sachin Kumar SamalSachin Kumar Samal9 giorni fa
  • And I thought the best way to stop a bully in his tracks was to take a Louisville Slugger to his knee caps! Goes to show what I know! LOL!

    RJC 72RJC 729 giorni fa
  • Let’s say I’m doing an activity, like playing a sport, and I’m bad at it. If someone who has a bully type personality calls me out for being bad at it, what am I supposed to react with? They are right about it and speaking the truth, so I really don’t know how to respond to save face. Any help?

    Harry TomatoHarry Tomato9 giorni fa
  • "use their tactics" I can confirm.

    Aerin VolkAerin Volk11 giorni fa
  • "The Official Book of Bullying" - by Donald J tRump

    senseisifusenseisifu12 giorni fa
  • What bullies need most of all?...... A strong whack to the tmj with an aluminum baseball bat.....from someone that knows how to swing a bat......let them eat their food through a straw for a few months and think about what they've done....and if that don't do it.....send them on to the next world. F'm! Life's too short for the good people who are just trying to get through it, be nice, and figure things out.....for some POS bully to make you miserable all the time..... f'm and feed to the fishes.

    Red RiverRed River12 giorni fa
  • 8:20 I think ill sleep on it for 24 hours

    Carter LutesCarter Lutes13 giorni fa
  • The title didn't really get across what the video ACTUALLY was about. It felt more like dealing with "FORCEFUL" people as opposed to bullies. Now, I know that these people are actually bullies but it isn't most people's interpretation of the term. The people you talk about in the video are people who have an end goal in the scenario. Salesmen, recruiters, employers, etc. A general bully, as most people understand it, is anyone that aims to offend or hurt you regularly in order to feel powerful, bring you down, or impress those around them, like a school bully.

    DrasticSkubaDrasticSkuba13 giorni fa
  • I clicked this expecting it to be good, but to my surprise it was great.

    A. C.A. C.14 giorni fa
  • I learned early to ask a bully why and demand answers. Also boxing but that's besides the point.

    Jacob SernaJacob Serna14 giorni fa
  • 1:28 I did this one time and the guy blew up on me an freaked out

    JccJJccJ14 giorni fa
  • How to stop bullies: Stop going to school with lunch money

    Thomas ToddThomas Todd14 giorni fa
  • 4:48 never do this guys.. You'll be known as the pus*y of the group

    The Egyptian GameDevThe Egyptian GameDev14 giorni fa
  • Dude: I don’t know where you grew up, but bullies don’t apologize.

    Inherent WisdomInherent Wisdom15 giorni fa
  • I've fallen for that market strategy you talked about. won't let it happen ever again.

  • No time to watch the video, does it involve a gun?

    MorkvonorkMorkvonork17 giorni fa
  • "No one is made whole or happy when they outsource emotional control of their life." Someone should tell Twitter.

    Masked BadassMasked Badass18 giorni fa
  • Have heat vision?

    Conservatives Singer Guitar JSCConservatives Singer Guitar JSC19 giorni fa
  • Another GREAT resource on bullying (office bullying) is a piece titled The Hatchet Man's Playbook - a LOT of eye-popping, non-obvious stuff! Can't recommend it highly enough!

    Mark SummersMark Summers19 giorni fa
  • I got that type of face that think they can bully me. Most I walk away from, but if they persist I tell them if I get into a fight with them it will be to the death. I MEAN IT!

    David ThomasDavid Thomas19 giorni fa
  • Your emotional mastery course looks really cool, but it’s way more than I would be willing to spend. Maybe more people would sign up if it was cheaper

    RoryRory20 giorni fa
  • hell yeah

    Xuan HienXuan Hien20 giorni fa
  • I could’ve used this in high school :/

    InfoJunkieInfoJunkie21 giorno fa
  • Long slow inhale through the nose, hold as long as possible, long slow exhale through the mouth (repeat)! Not giving them what they want, or a reaction. Be genuinely nice, non threatening and concerned for them! experiences Work with them, to better utilize their strengths in constructive ways. Show the benefits of being nice... DON'T BE THE (EXPLETIVE) INSTIGATOR!!! (SMUG, CONDESCENDING, ANTAGONISTIC... ) GET YOUR HEAD KICKED IN AND TRY TO PLAY THE (EXPLETIVE) "VICTIM!" -(REPEAT)- !(: I hope this helps, GOOD LUCK and BEST REGARDS TO ALL ;)!

    Moose BmeMoose Bme21 giorno fa
  • 4:50 "Where I come form that's very disrespectful" Isn't that the bully's intention?

    Make Romania great againMake Romania great again22 giorni fa
    • If it gives more ammo that's a cue to get more aggressive, if it doesn't, then it worked, depends who you're talking to

      Piano_Master_524Piano_Master_5249 giorni fa
    • This just gives more ammo

      AlldaylongAlldaylong17 giorni fa
  • Wish there were something like this back in high school

    Maxie Plays RPGsMaxie Plays RPGs22 giorni fa
  • I had a boss that tried to push me around. Yeah it didn't work. I still get that sometimes but people learn the hard way

    slaymaster999slaymaster99922 giorni fa
  • Punch the bully in the mouth to stop blabbing.

    Tommy CorderoTommy Cordero22 giorni fa
  • This is all too much work... Just elbow them in the face! It has never stopped working for me!

    costa200costa20023 giorni fa
  • BJJ . Yes.

    Andy MAndy M23 giorni fa
  • Ah the solution to all things - boundaries and discipline

    m.s. Russom.s. Russo23 giorni fa
  • SOLLY CHOLLY TRY some dfft price points

    Jerry EmmJerry Emm24 giorni fa
  • Billy Butcher more like Bully Butcher

    Mostakim KabirMostakim Kabir26 giorni fa
  • 0:15 Okay... pretty sure that guy is Haley Joel Osment

    Lance TschirhartLance Tschirhart26 giorni fa
  • Thanks alot, CHoC für this hugely important video! Bullies are the scum of the earth, bullies are on the same level as rapists and child molesters when it comes to damaging people and ruining lives. Chances are this video will save lives. Keep up the great work, bro!

    beautiful horsebeautiful horse28 giorni fa
  • I would rather take the butchers approach.seems like it's fine with me

  • Thanks to the spoilers, I have now finally decided to watch the show.

    Mariano BustosMariano BustosMese fa
  • I got bullied in school, until i started throwing fists

    LeroyLeroyMese fa
  • How about threaten them? Get them into an isolated area, put blade up their throat and remind them what will happen if they don't stop?

    Andy KhAndy KhMese fa
  • Your Channel IS gold

    czimano17czimano17Mese fa
  • C’mon, Butcher is cool🔥

    SomeBusySomeBusyMese fa
  • People watching this to learn how to combat bullies Me watching this to learn how to be a more effective bully

    Liam ShedLiam ShedMese fa
  • Did someone say carry a big gun and speak softly. A W

    Janice MurphyJanice MurphyMese fa
  • I'm not going to check out your recommended video until I've slept on it 😜

    onecoolcat 247onecoolcat 247Mese fa
  • my friend is a bully, im watching this to understand her lol

    Nafisa HeartNafisa HeartMese fa
  • i don't like my bullies they always wears masks and act differently around me, and they always making me a victim

    Zacharion TabZacharion TabMese fa
  • This video also teaches how to bully 😏😎

    styen dimpustyen dimpuMese fa
  • My go to response to an insult, "Do you think that's okay to say to someone?" Yes, this starts a very different conversation. But I'm almost always ready to have it. And that conversation is a dominance reversal if there ever was one. My empathy and sincerity might make me a friend out of that initial bully.

    Kye RaffertyKye RaffertyMese fa
  • "Where I come from that is really disrespectful"? Ummm, yeah that's kinda the point of them acting like a twat. They'll probably just respond with "you're not worthy of respect" or something if you say that

    Hank HillHank HillMese fa
  • But what if the scarcity is real? Should i always decline and actual scarce oportunity?

    Matheus SchutzMatheus SchutzMese fa
  • Appreciate how you showed both Billy and Homelander as bullies. Really gets to the heart of the show’s irony

    Shanon SnyderShanon SnyderMese fa
  • Victim bullying is another good one. "I'm a poor woman and you raised your voice, thats abuse! Now I get your job"

    Holy PikemanHoly PikemanMese fa
  • Hum, so I'm a bully in a psychological way The fact is I love cracking insult with joke or in a sarcastic way, also I think its a very good trick to strengten the relationship in the long-term, allowing everybody to be direct without remorse or fear to be judged. But, yeah, anyway, good vid'!

    khalis deroubaixkhalis deroubaixMese fa
  • 6:23 That is one way, but not the only way. ORGANIZE.

    Lou ZurrLou ZurrMese fa
  • My boss did this to me

    Aamir KhanAamir Khan2 mesi fa
  • Do Frank Underwood !!!!!

    Faris __Faris __2 mesi fa
  • Where I come from, some of the tips in this video just gonna get you bullied some more

    9525joe9525joe2 mesi fa
  • Hi, can you please do a video on Tekashi 69 and how to be charming when people want to hate you (something like that ). His interviews are very interesting.

    Rocking RondaRocking Ronda2 mesi fa
  • If someone tries to give you that "I am the boss" type of handshake, you grap their hand even tighter. If he (or she) is stronger than you, grap their shoulder and SHAKE them while you say hello. And if you get the chance, lean in and tell them that they need to learn how to shake hands.

    NDK0NDK02 mesi fa
  • No contacts

    yYstle IllzwillzyYstle Illzwillz2 mesi fa
  • 4:04 Oops, missed a bleep there.

    xeriouxixeriouxi2 mesi fa
  • A samurai is expected to make decisions within the space of 7 breaths. If you need a night to sleep on it, you are wishy washy and don't know yourself.

    curtis mcurtis m2 mesi fa
  • Good advices but tip #3. Telling a bully to stop since it is not polite won't really work, right?

    Armin XvsArmin Xvs2 mesi fa
  • I was never bullied in school, but for some reason as an adult, a former colleague and friend of mine thought i would make a perfect target for him and his overweight neckbeard buddies, so i kicked him out of my friend group. Mocking me because i go to the gym, am not fat and use deodorant? Seriously? Something went really, really wrong with those guys.

    Remco Schedel—the SKULLRemco Schedel—the SKULL2 mesi fa
  • I have this one dude i play with on console and he keeps saying “Wait who?.....cares haha” and everyone starts laughing. I play it cool and say “you care, shut up loser” .Any other counter comebacks?

    Josiah BJosiah B2 mesi fa
  • *does these things to my best friends* "Maybe I am the Bad Guy"

    MayMay2 mesi fa
    • “Are we the baddies?”

      Robert CantspellRobert CantspellMese fa
  • I hate it when my bully threatens me with his heat vision.

    Anon YmousAnon Ymous2 mesi fa
  • Shouldn't you ignore what they say for #3? They're obviously trying to get a reaction out of you. If you give them nothing they'll lose interest.

    MurkMurk2 mesi fa
  • Everything is about control. Bullying is just a way to get control.

    steviekeassteviekeas2 mesi fa
  • didnt think id be getting charisma examples from kano

    ChooseeazyChooseeazy2 mesi fa
  • 3:25 or "sorry, i am not the only person who has a vote/say on this" (gotta ask my significant other/parents/pastor/friend/teacher/sensei/other)

    Numantino312Numantino3122 mesi fa
  • Was specifically looking into 'the boys' as a case study. Glad you did a video specifically on it.

    Victor MuravievVictor Muraviev2 mesi fa
  • "Where I come from, that is really disrespectful. Don't ever call me that again" and then wait for them to apologise??? That is just awful advice, just terrible. You had me until that, did that come from the mormons play book or did you think of that one?

    FTSFTS2 mesi fa
    • @AK this kind of statement has probably started more fights than its ever avoided, Jus saying.

      FTSFTS16 giorni fa
    • I think it may work if you're Jocko Willink

      AKAK16 giorni fa
  • 00:38 I thought it was Eden Hazard😂💔

    Abdullah AftabAbdullah Aftab2 mesi fa
  • Hi charlie, please make a video on Agent Coulson of Agents of SHIELD. He is charismatic af.

    CosmosryCosmosry2 mesi fa
  • BAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA Professional victim training

    S GambleS Gamble2 mesi fa

    Applicable AppleApplicable Apple2 mesi fa
  • "They may threaten you with their own harm." *Give me your lunch money or I'll beat myself up!*

    Samuel Hunter-Gatherer from Spelunker CellSamuel Hunter-Gatherer from Spelunker Cell2 mesi fa
  • This is how some awkward people come off when they're trying to be charismatic.

    Amando AbreuAmando Abreu2 mesi fa
  • I was robbed by bullies yesterday. My tactic was to let them to me as much harm as they can. It's more reasons for the police to work on my case. I love my bicycle. Apart from dirty close that the only thing I've lost.

    Blender DumbassBlender Dumbass2 mesi fa
  • All I see is: Haley Joel Osment Nicolas Cage Simon Pegg Why isn't it a movie? Why I should sit through such a long series to watch it? I hate it.

    Blender DumbassBlender Dumbass2 mesi fa
  • I always just got in fist fights. But this is good advice also lol

    Norrin RaddNorrin Radd2 mesi fa
  • This advice doesn't not translate to social dynamics and the primal elements of the Human tribe. This should be "How to deal with passive-aggressive people who try to gaslight you". But aggressive bullying perpetrated by an aggressive personality, possibly one that suffers from a form Psychopathy or ASPD?...... "Hey that's mean don't say that to me you, where I come from we call people like you meanies" *everyone rolls their eyes perceiving weakness as the bully smiles* "Are you telling me what to do? You don't like that huh? Well here's round two. I look forward to your follow up PSA"

    P.D. SP.D. S2 mesi fa