5 Common Habits That Make You Mentally Weak

13 gen 2020
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A sad irony of the Joker is that it’s only after his descent into madness that Arthur appears happy and confident
But of course turning on the world isn’t the only way to feel mentally strong, and that’s why in this video I want to use Arthur’s story to talk about 5 habits that kill your mental fortitude & confidence and what you can do instead to build mental toughness.


0:40 - #1: Arthur often engages in fantasy.
1:57 - #2: Arthur lacks self efficacy.
4:23 - #3: Arthur has no outlet where he can honestly express his emotions.
5:46 - #4: Arthur inadvertently disowns aspects of himself.
7:04 - #5: Everything we have discussed results in Arthur’s total hatred of the world.

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  • The only battle you need to face is the inner and outer man. Do some research on this. You will become who you want to be once you realize the power it has over you. God bless.

    aaron Raaron R9 ore fa
  • My biggest problem is gaslighting myself I talk myself out of things before I even do them

    Lee RiosLee Rios13 ore fa
  • This crap is so sick I can’t even watch to the middle of it...

    LMLMGiorno fa
  • My charisma: - Stop acting for eyes watching you! - Be weak when feeling weak - Examin laughter of others for what it is, and not let your emotion depend on it

    HomoTriSapienHomoTriSapienGiorno fa
  • My shadow was destroying me until I started steps to better myself.

    Aether OracleAether Oracle2 giorni fa

    Joseph BalachickJoseph Balachick3 giorni fa
  • I still take much more inspiration from Joker than I do from you. I feel you've missed the point and actually have nothing to say to the disaffected.

    Allan LandsboroughAllan Landsborough5 giorni fa
  • Arthur is a loser and a murderer. I just can’t fathom why people like this character.

    安安安安6 giorni fa
  • Please don't add Conor McGregor in your videos.

    Sabber AhmedSabber Ahmed7 giorni fa
  • I thought I was mentally sound until I watched this, now I realize I'm worthless

    azspotfreeazspotfree8 giorni fa
  • DAMN!! I actually had no interest in watching the latest Batman flick, and this video has SOLD me on it without trying!!

    Jebidiah McKoolJebidiah McKool8 giorni fa
  • It does not help to show examples like McGregor or the Avengers team. I often think on this when the example of David Goggins or Elon Musk are presented. If the only examples of success are the pinnacle success then it means everyone else is just another looser in comparison. If the guys who comes in 2nd or below that are treated like dirt why the hell even compete. Enjoy your shiny trophies, all the money and girls you like. I will enjoy my fantasies because that is all I have in a world where anything I could ever do wont amount to a pile of beans. Hows that for a shadow self?

    Jeramfel CorderoJeramfel Cordero9 giorni fa
  • If Charlie Houpert was Arthur's therapist, we wouldn't have gotten such an amazing movie.

    Real EngineReal Engine10 giorni fa
  • Mcgregor legend 🇮🇪 🇮🇪

    Epicurus _Epicurus _10 giorni fa
  • 2008 joker movie is Beter he stilt wanted Batman to Beat him up

    GamingwithkevGamingwithkev11 giorni fa
  • Yo,im watching this on friday 13 and there are 666 dislikes,holy macaronies.

    no talentno talent11 giorni fa
  • You disturb me!

    john mccartjohn mccart12 giorni fa
  • This was amazing....and made me like Heath Ledgers Joker even more

    Vantum NoirVantum Noir12 giorni fa
  • number 3 was very validating in a way; I play music and paint, and sometimes I think about painting deliberately violent, dark, disturbing images based on sketches I make when frustrated and stressed. I used to think these were unhealthy sketches, I always kept them hidden. Im going to go for it now, and paint some pictures I feel I need to paint, I paint other things, nicer things, more positive things. But if I ONLY paint those things, its somehow incomplete, and I know I'm not saying everything I feel compelled to say.

    Nyarlathotep13 Nyarlathotep13Nyarlathotep13 Nyarlathotep1314 giorni fa
  • if your happy with yourself, that's enough. people will always either hate or be jealous, what are you gonna do?

    shuhei mshuhei m15 giorni fa
  • Entitled MILLENNIALS. They love the the show but not the work it takes to be in it so. There sad, hollow motto, REAL POWER IS TAKEN, NOT EARNED.....my pain is so esoteric & harder than everyone elses 🤫

    Radix ReuelRadix Reuel15 giorni fa
  • its a fictional character dildo

    GENESIS420GENESIS42018 giorni fa
  • I’m not even gonna watch the rest of this video. If you using a fictional character as an example especially one as deranged as the joker then there’s nothing we could possibly learn from this video

    Mark FennellMark Fennell18 giorni fa
  • 5 habits that make you mentally strong - KHABIB VIDEO COMING SOON

    Taim MoorTaim Moor18 giorni fa
  • Masterbation is a big one also

    James BakerJames Baker19 giorni fa
  • for all the brazilians out there 9:29

    Renato Britto AraujoRenato Britto Araujo19 giorni fa
  • Pro tip drink fuckin water on god I swear your life will improve.

    Kelvin GivensKelvin Givens20 giorni fa
  • I think I needed to hear this

    It'sLegitIt'sLegit21 giorno fa
  • Arthur got high expectation on girls and doesn't care on attitude. But if the show is real. That means Arthur is Smart or just very lucky. Why would their family be rich.

    WotS Wung?WotS Wung?22 giorni fa
  • Surviving is the hardest thing

    Marissa BonesMarissa Bones23 giorni fa
  • I love step one

    Brendan McPikeBrendan McPike23 giorni fa
  • I’m more like William Defoe, in Spider-Man, especially the bit where auntie slaps his hand after he dips his finger in the pie.

    Jim HookJim Hook24 giorni fa
  • Charisma tip: Don’t kill people on live television

    Tom-WowTom-Wow25 giorni fa
  • Is CU free? (Chrisma university?)

    flower_ girlflower_ girl27 giorni fa
  • Mhm

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  • ITworlds keeps shoving TikTok down my throat.

    Issy B. On AirIssy B. On AirMese fa
  • 1. I think I might be in the minority. I hated this movie. I thought it was awful. 2. I don't think anything we saw actually happened. I think he was in the psychiatric hospital the whole time.

    Kris OllerKris OllerMese fa
  • I agree

    aleksandra kettneraleksandra kettnerMese fa
  • I feel like it takes away from the videos by putting the fill in the blank answers in the beginning

    Jamal NetflixJamal NetflixMese fa
  • Oh no why is his ribs like that-

    Romilda PearlRomilda PearlMese fa
  • what makes me sad about hits this is the third one he has no place to express himself there are times I have looked for professional help and it was a dismal failure For example one day I used the expression 'if you lay down with dogs you are going to get fleas' I just used it as a general statement to say I need to watch out who I associate with counselor jumped in with 'or doggie kisses because of your experiences you see flea I see doggie kisses" wow really dude someone I knew growing up lured a guy to a secluded spot and killed him so no I will stay with hmm maybe I shouldn't associate with these people

    Fatelvis2Fatelvis2Mese fa
  • I think the reason this movie pissed so many people off is because they saw themselves in Arthur. They didn't like what they saw, interpreted it as a threat and lashed out.

    somepigsneverlearnsomepigsneverlearnMese fa
  • i stop doing drugs now i have confidence....but im depressed

    Aware WolfAware WolfMese fa
  • Never knew what intigrating the shadow means until this video.... thnx

    Taha El HajTaha El HajMese fa
  • This movie made me break my spree of not watching movies for years... Also the night i watched it i was loking for another joker film, but stumbled on this instead, read the description and boom! I watched One of the best movies ever made ❤️

    Moozy SanMoozy SanMese fa
  • Thank you young Peterson

    Quinlan PlukasQuinlan PlukasMese fa
  • While your program looks good, it looks good at $99.00 not 5x $99. :(

    Bryan FoersterBryan FoersterMese fa
  • I like your use of Jungian Psychology here.

    Antony DrossosAntony DrossosMese fa
  • And things on the bed …Read more

    Balkis HassanBalkis HassanMese fa
  • 7. Don’t do drugs bullying or killing and don’t put your mother clothes and bed sheet on the floor

    Balkis HassanBalkis HassanMese fa
  • Just as a note, you can view things from someone else's perspective and still see that they're acting selfishly. Arthur's coworker lied about the gun to save his own job, but still did so at Arthur's expense. Just because you're called to empathize with why someone's doing doesn't mean you necessarily have to respect that reason. You don't have to conclude that when a mugger is stealing your money and threatening your life that it's because they're just trying to survive and that it's ok. What they're doing is still very much not ok.

    Anon YmousAnon YmousMese fa
  • Everyone should have helped Arthur, especially Arthur.

    Michael PriceMichael PriceMese fa
  • nixxiom

    Ryan MercandoRyan MercandoMese fa
  • This movie looks slightly more pleasant than than running my knuckles over a cheese grater.

    Gary SmithGary SmithMese fa
  • About the part where you mentioned standing up for oneself. I can definitely attest to it seeing that i was pushed around constantly as a kid, late teens, and early 20s.

    Rob1PercentRob1PercentMese fa
  • Man you have no idea how much I needed this right now, I’ve been fantasizing about my dream more than actually applying myself towards it. Thank you for this video bro 🙏🏽

    Your ManzYour ManzMese fa
  • You know what I hate more than laughing uncontrollably... liberals

  • I think this stuff is true. But I feel like it doesn't capture the point of the film. Which is that his mother's abuse and socioeconomic circumstances explain his outcome. This video feels quite victim blamey

    Dean AbeleDean Abele2 mesi fa
  • Oh my god, did, Did u just save me from being a psycho?

    Eigo KanisEigo Kanis2 mesi fa
  • this video saved my mind. love you you guys for the work you do .

    Jaspreet SinghJaspreet Singh2 mesi fa
  • Absolutely love this video. Great points!

    Jay JarvisJay Jarvis2 mesi fa
  • I didn't think Arthur's mother was "disturbed."

    George TurnerGeorge Turner2 mesi fa
  • It scares me that I have some of these habits

    Purple RaiderPurple Raider3 mesi fa
    • i have all of them, i honestly have felt this way all my life, i want to start a yt sometimes just so i can have an outlet. good to know that someone can relate

      Dumb OnionDumb Onion3 mesi fa
  • Mcgregor is On Another level of character.

    TalentTalent3 mesi fa
  • I have Asperger Syndrome and at times it makes me feel like I am going mad.

    Daniel WilliamsonDaniel Williamson3 mesi fa
  • It's up to each and everyone of us to stop living in our own shadows and enbrace the opportunites of life!

    Rasmus RågstadRasmus Rågstad3 mesi fa
  • ohoh. I have the Joker personality and it is not good, people romanticize it but it is not good.

    Juanita BalanzaJuanita Balanza3 mesi fa
  • Everybody wants to be a teacher...

    Trevor PageTrevor Page3 mesi fa
  • Remember the old meme of growing up wanting to be Batman, but find yourself as the Joker...?😕 I sure as hell can.

    Raheam XRaheam X3 mesi fa
  • You get what you fuckin deserve!

    Alexis VaracolacciAlexis Varacolacci3 mesi fa
  • 6:47 he flicks his tongue out, which reminds me of Heath Ledger. If that was a tribute, it was a damn good one.

    Mr. CorakyhlopsopussyMr. Corakyhlopsopussy4 mesi fa
  • Some kill animals to release this inner turmoil is it bad

    Saint DenisSaint Denis4 mesi fa
  • Have any of you tried the university course? If so, did it help?

    Robin FRobin F4 mesi fa
  • You should do a video on the friendship between Eddie Brock and venom. Mostly from the movie but also just the characters.

    Robert GreenRobert Green4 mesi fa
  • You can't be confident if you don't look confident aka decient looking and that cost money

    Kallus GarnetKallus Garnet4 mesi fa
  • I definitely relate to the point about Arthur not being able to feel he can take steps to changing his life and is always waiting for something big to happen in order feel he can move forward. For me, I feel so jaded and hate myself because of my constant mistakes caused due to behaviours or lack of awareness because of my disability. I'm so full of habits that really die hard and feel there is no point in trying to change because nothing good will ever come my way if I do. People will always use your past against you whenever they notice the slightest bit of change i.e. in behaviour or lifestyle. After the life I've had whenever I get to any success point I immediately feel I don't deserve to be in that position because I knew what it is was like when I first began, and I hate it when people notice it. I've never had a girlfriend in my 27 years on this earth and feel I may as well flush all hope of it happening down the toilet. Late 30s/early 40s is really late to have the first ever romantic relationship in your life. I guess it would always be tough for me because I feel I have to do everything another way or the most difficult way.

    Alex SmithAlex Smith4 mesi fa
  • I can relate to the joker and the hulk on a level that disturbs me.

    the mandalorianthe mandalorian4 mesi fa
  • This was good take on the Joker that I hadn't heard.

    EdubbplateEdubbplate4 mesi fa
  • That wasn't homicide. It was self defense. At least the first two guys were.

    EdubbplateEdubbplate4 mesi fa
  • You're actually quite insightful man.

    Moldy CarrotMoldy Carrot4 mesi fa
  • Oh my goodness! As you described some of Arthur’s emotional weaknesses I saw myself described in them!!!! 😰😰😰 this is scary!!!! Holy cow!

    Alpha NotmaleAlpha Notmale4 mesi fa
  • 5:06 I can't seem to find a healthy outlet for myself like i play the drums but I cannot seem to play well with a metronome or clicker so when it comes time to perform i often freak out which make me feel incompetent and adds more to the stress I was trying to alleviate. Then comes in the Visualization vs fantasizing part, when it comes to the work, I just don't enjoy it so I feel stuck like crazy

    OhsosaucyOhsosaucy4 mesi fa
    • You'll never learn to play well without a metronome unless you first learn to play badly without a metronome. I'm not good at playing the piano, and it's a different instrument anyway, but one thing my tutor taught me was that you use a metronome not to learn to play a piece, but to perfect playing the piece. It's a polishing tool, not a crutch. Don't know if that applies to the drums, though.

      Black HammerBlack Hammer4 mesi fa

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  • CARL JUNG!!!

    BestofBadmintonBestofBadminton4 mesi fa
  • I have a worse situation than Arthur

    GLOCKS 5468GLOCKS 54684 mesi fa
    • Ok :(

      RED REDRED RED4 mesi fa
  • he was so damn good in this movie

    Sahar KhanSahar Khan5 mesi fa
  • Or let go of mental brakes and embrace the "Shadow" and "Chaos" of your actions... and enjoy the ride 😂 sure it has it's negative effects... but as Sinatra said it... "That's life"

    ThePsydexThePsydex5 mesi fa
  • Arthur also has mental illness though... Something we must consider.

    Jesus is the Way the Truth the LIFEJesus is the Way the Truth the LIFE5 mesi fa
  • Funny, I knew empathy would be listed.

    Jesus is the Way the Truth the LIFEJesus is the Way the Truth the LIFE5 mesi fa
  • The reason why I like Batman is that he is completely opposite of the Joker. Everything you said here is the opposite of what Batman is. Arthur often engages in fantasy. -- Batman often engages in visualization and planning. Arthur lacks self efficacy. -- Batman makes the most of his situation and resources, to the point that he can stand toe to toe and shoulder to shoulder with superhumans. Arthur has no outlet where he can honestly express his emotions. -- Batman has Alfred. Arthur inadvertently disowns aspects of himself. -- Batman embraces everything, even his fears, to turn them into something positive, at least for the benefit of others. Everything we have discussed results in Arthur’s total hatred of the world. -- Batman feels indebted to Gotham, even to the point of sacrificing himself. That's love.

    Jericho LeonJericho Leon5 mesi fa
  • Spending hours watching pointless ITworlds videos?

    Dee JarvisDee Jarvis5 mesi fa
  • Glad to see the Jung reference.

    RRRR5 mesi fa
  • It's better to just kill everyone, because people=shit.

    Christopher ShipleyChristopher Shipley5 mesi fa
  • sad.

    Hakimi TahaHakimi Taha5 mesi fa
  • haha

    Hakimi TahaHakimi Taha5 mesi fa
  • this sux !@

    mtlicqmtlicq5 mesi fa
  • I feel so much like Arthur.

    Brian HallmondBrian Hallmond5 mesi fa
  • No. Not everyone deserve our empathy. They will take advantage of us of we do that. I am talking about Narcissist.

    Spax WillTrollGGSpax WillTrollGG5 mesi fa
  • Over the years, ive become more empathetic to things, to people. Its caused me to ignore the world. This video is food for thought.

    Ben RichardsBen Richards5 mesi fa
  • This helped me so much! I used to fantasize, now, my friends.... i got laid 🙌🏼

    Alok GrendolukrAlok Grendolukr5 mesi fa