3 Steps To Go From Shy To Confident

9 dic 2019
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Jumanji is back and once again, The Rock, Kevin Hart, and Jack Black are getting back together.
All three are super charismatic, we’ve covered them in previous breakdowns, but today I thought it’d be fun to combine their strengths to talk about how you can build rock-solid confidence from the ground up, going from shy to confident.

0:25 - #1: Command attention.
4:38 - #2: Share the spotlight (turn it back on the other person).
8:13 - #3: Fully commit to your actions.
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  • Easier said than done

    ramz .aramz .a6 giorni fa
  • I feel awkward with giving high fives though.. But I feel comfortable with the rest of what you suggested. lol

    Hannah L.Hannah L.22 giorni fa
  • *"High fives are an easy way to spread coronavirus..."*

    look at itlook at itMese fa
  • this guy actually really knows what he’s talking about

    dropwafflezdropwafflez2 mesi fa
  • With the repeating yourself, dont repeat a joke that no one laughed at, honestly its just annoying and screams that you dont know how to take rejection, because making a joke that no one laughs at is being rejected

    James MiddletonJames Middleton2 mesi fa
  • I absolutely hate when people scream in the middle of talking. This whole video was aggravating to watch.

    Strill XStrill X4 mesi fa
  • 1- loud ur voice To have attention 2- high 5 3 -praise

    عمر العوينيعمر العويني5 mesi fa
  • imagine practicing a really cool hi5 and then...covid19

    Rule CRule C5 mesi fa
  • "REESE WITHERSPOOOON" thats fuckin golden

    Porkbelly CutletsPorkbelly Cutlets5 mesi fa
  • I just tell myself "don't give off awkward vibes give calm vibes and calm vibes will be received"

    La chanclaLa chancla5 mesi fa
  • I watched this video 24 hours too late. Yesterday I went to play golf with a couple of relatively-close friends who are both excellent players and me - well, it was my first time. I sucked. And the more I played, the more I felt the pressure; the worse I got and the more my enthusiasm plummeted, my awkwardness and anxiety took over - I ended up feeling a mixture of suppressed anger, embarrassment and demotivation. Seeing JB play basketball in this tells me I took the complete wrong approach.

    SuperMisterKorySuperMisterKory5 mesi fa
  • 7:14 i thought he was about to say covid19. positivity. yes. lol

    Dale C.Dale C.5 mesi fa
  • I for real LOVE your channel! When I was younger, I wasn't that shy...but bullying took the confidence away from me. Now I'm learning to be the same old girl, what I used to be. And thanks to you! This channel has taught a lot!

    iam_sherlockediam_sherlocked5 mesi fa
  • I am a simple man I see blackjack I click

    Jim SkraJim Skra5 mesi fa
  • You see, I would try to command attention by telling folks why what im saying matters, but most of the time i dont even know. Im just talking so they dont forget im there

    SozeyTozeySozeyTozey5 mesi fa
  • Those aren’t high fives that’s a handshake lmao

    hullstar242hullstar2425 mesi fa
  • The rock + jack Black + Kevin heart = Harambe, I gonna like this video

    Roberto GarcíaRoberto García5 mesi fa
  • Jayden getting interrupted is basically a super power of mine 😣 New problem I face now is learning all these tips (and from other vids) and wanting to apply them... but I know I'll be thinking really hard on it all, obsess and probably end up overcorrecting or coming off even more awkward 😅😔

    Meghan WebberMeghan Webber5 mesi fa
  • 7:11 Reese Witherspoon

    Giel te MolderGiel te Molder5 mesi fa
  • Maybe I don’t want a lot of attention

    James CazierJames Cazier5 mesi fa
  • All I got from this is that I want to be fiends with the rock

    Lety CelesteLety Celeste5 mesi fa
  • This video comes over like how to be like the 3 main Jumanji members

    ZelayaZelaya5 mesi fa
  • I like how the rock is bigger than his security

    Edward BaleEdward Bale5 mesi fa
  • "the two minute rule" this video is 13minutes long hmm yes this makes perfect math sense

    Spacer GazerSpacer Gazer5 mesi fa
  • need to shake hands with a stranger asap...thanks coronavirus

    choudhury shadmanichoudhury shadmani5 mesi fa
  • The high 5 thing did not age well

    Alpha WolfAlpha Wolf6 mesi fa
  • Last time i tried to high 5 someone, I got Tazed.. No Covid high 5's i guess. What else ya' got?

    Monte Lee My P.O.VMonte Lee My P.O.V6 mesi fa
  • great stuff!! i'll definitely try one of these! 😮

    Big ElectronBig Electron6 mesi fa
  • I speak loudly on accident sometimes when I’m exited on the things I’m saying and it works people turn around and listen... some people do point it out but it ends up uplifting the mood and making other people more energized and awake

    II6 mesi fa
  • 7:07

    Best GamerBest Gamer6 mesi fa
  • Man i absolutly love your videos and your work definetly buying your course as soon as quarantine is over. Your a great guy. Charisma = being a better human being

    Mircea DochiaMircea Dochia6 mesi fa
  • Lol when you realize these celebrities are naturally like this.... while your trying to learn how to be human. Isn’t it kinda narcissistic I try and change yourself so others can like you? Idk I’m just tryna learn how to be more comfortable with who I am while also letting ppl be comfortable with me.

    Lone x MoLone x Mo6 mesi fa
    • Hows it narcissistic?

      Reuben SearlReuben Searl2 mesi fa
  • What if you have multiple personalities and some are confident but other are not? Steve

    Liam lllLiam lll6 mesi fa
  • They are all rich..

    John HooperJohn Hooper7 mesi fa
  • Love you Charlie

    PAPAIatDuskPAPAIatDusk7 mesi fa
  • Lol when people cut me off, I dont repeat myself. I go "EXCUSE ME I WAS TELLING A STORY". works like a charm

    QQ7 mesi fa
  • I’m the type of person who only talks when I have something to say as opposed to trying to fill the silence. Sometimes I feel people get so used to me not talking that they tune me out when I do. There was a time where no one was talking, I suggested something, and no one responded. I said it again and then two people in the group looked over and said that’s a great idea. Then the rest of the group asked what, and she repeated my idea, even though I said it twice without being interrupted.

    Amy SirawskyAmy Sirawsky7 mesi fa
  • Great Content thank You Coc Dem att Ene Fun Hi5 Repeat Loud Bod Smi Talk abt oth Prai

    Jason Ong HimselfJason Ong Himself7 mesi fa
  • thanx. these are great videos.

    Freddy NovemberFreddy November8 mesi fa
  • You should do a breakdown of how Kevin Smith tells a story. He tells extraordinarily long but immensely entertaining stories. I would love to see how you breakdown his storytelling skills and how he manages to keep the listener immersed in it.

    Mally GeeMally Gee8 mesi fa
  • Ah, the holy trinity of confident comedic charisma

    Cassandra AnneCassandra Anne8 mesi fa
  • I can't! i say NEVER BE LIKE KEVIN HEARTS!!

    afifa tariqafifa tariq8 mesi fa
  • I was confident until I quit my job and realized the only people I hung out with were my work friends and after I left, none of them cared to keep in contact with me. So now I just spend time with my family, husband and cats.

    SimmlySimmly8 mesi fa
  • Okay can somebody explain this to me: what do people really mean when they remark "you are so quiet" or even say to someone else right in front of me "she's quiet." 🤔 (Never said by people I know well, always by a stranger/someone I don't know very well.) Is this a compliment? An insult? An attempt to start a conversation? Trying to tell me that I'm making them uncomfortable? What exactly do they hope to accomplish by this remark? It doesn't make me uncomfortable that they say it; I'm just curious what they are trying to communicate by it.

    It's Just BreeIt's Just Bree8 mesi fa
  • Im not really shy. I have a tendency to destroy any given persons ideals about what they think is right/wrong. If I love you and I get the urge to tell you what I KNOW you dont want to hear, I put myself on mute. I need a video on how to stop loving people.

    The Forbidden OnesThe Forbidden Ones8 mesi fa
  • Damn... The Jaden clips were so cringe 🤣

    Michael GMichael G8 mesi fa
  • 5:59 how the heck do you that freaking handshake?! I've never gotten it right. I usually slide the hand and make it awkward so I just do a traditional firm handshake but the other person does that Fancy handshake and it's still awkward! I've looked ITworlds videos and haven't found a how to video! Please help!

    ArchangeldawnArchangeldawn9 mesi fa
  • I’m so glad I found this the day before I see my councilor. Gladly appreciate the mentorship!

    Fiona KyleeFiona Kylee9 mesi fa
  • I just think is a bit sad that almost all your videos are from guys or to guys. There are also some interested girls

    AlaskaAlaska9 mesi fa
  • Once again the author not grasping shy by telling those who are to just be the opposite with advice only extroverts use. Oh well, issue could be me expecting too much.

    Donald FrederickDonald Frederick9 mesi fa
  • Shy isn’t a personality FYI commenters... it is a defense mechanism triggered by a fear of rejection. You’re not “shy people” youre a person with a natural fear of rejection.. which can be overcome like any fear with things like immersion therapy 👍 keep your spirits up!

    D-Risky 49D-Risky 4910 mesi fa
  • Im Not a fan of Kevin hart

    Mattilda HubbardoMattilda Hubbardo10 mesi fa
  • I think you should make a video on Adam driver. Really love the he carries himself around inspite of having social anxiety

    VikashiniVikashini10 mesi fa
  • someone said happy birthday i said you too confidently wrong!

    VealTheMusicVealTheMusic10 mesi fa
  • *When you realize that people study professionally on interacting with humans*

    Maddy Is sadMaddy Is sad10 mesi fa
    • Aspie Chadlet yep lol

      Maddy Is sadMaddy Is sad10 mesi fa
    • Aspie Chadlet same, i havent made a new friend since kindergarten oof they both still go to my school tho 🤠

      Maddy Is sadMaddy Is sad10 mesi fa
  • Sick vids bro Xx

    Dale Morrey-pDale Morrey-p10 mesi fa
  • yet another video that just recycles previous points...

    Jason GrJason Gr10 mesi fa
  • Anybody realized he left the girl out No just me😂😂

    I love you’re comment butI love you’re comment but10 mesi fa
  • For me, who grew up painfully shy, its not about how to grab attention or get everyone to pay attention to me, it was about how to avoid all of that. So the issue I have is how to become comfortable wanting to grab the attention and not avoid it. I even find it hard to write about but, my face would turn red as a fire truck at the drop of a hat. That in itself was a very strong deterrent for me to even put myself in a situation where there was a chance I would be singled out. I would become embarrassed just because it was obvious to everyone that I was embarrassed. I always thought that if I could somehow block my face from turning red, it would allow me to at least begin to try and overcome my shyness. As I have grown older it has faded somewhat but, I have missed so much in my life because of it.

    Roger RogerRoger Roger10 mesi fa
  • How do you respond when people say something mean or rude to you? Specifically, What do you suggest when people are being derogatory towards you at work? What do you do if you are being blamed for something you didn't do at work? How do you respond when you are being written up at work?

    Ten MonkeysTen Monkeys10 mesi fa
  • Intp here, trying not to seem like an alien for once.

    Grace DengGrace Deng10 mesi fa
    • Intj. Try being an alien from another dimension.

      Coco The Spooky LibrarianCoco The Spooky Librarian8 mesi fa
  • How to be confident: Don't not be confident

    Sterling MSterling M10 mesi fa
  • How to be more confident 1. Have friends with you. 2. Don't have anxiety.

    danpauldanpaul10 mesi fa
    • @Solar Aqier gotcha 👍

      Ben O. VerbichBen O. Verbich6 mesi fa
    • meditate and delete social media and stop watching porn. That's how I went from social anxiety, panick attacks and depression to threesoms and girlfriending my crushes.

      Solar AqierSolar Aqier6 mesi fa
    • F

      Ben O. VerbichBen O. Verbich9 mesi fa
    • Both steps are too difficult for me

      RankenRanken9 mesi fa
  • ⏰TIMESTAMPS⏰ 0:25 - #1: Command attention. 4:38 - #2: Share the spotlight (turn it back on the other person). 8:13 - #3: Fully commit to your actions.

    Grammar Nazi PartyGrammar Nazi Party10 mesi fa
  • Is there Charisma University Masters program?

    Aleksey BaranovAleksey Baranov10 mesi fa
  • what got me out of my shell was watching videos like these then driving UBER. Helps a lot to just live in the moment, and have no hesitation in what you want to say

    R.I.PR.I.P10 mesi fa
  • Can you do an analysis on swaggersouls comedic voice

    Fish BoyFish Boy10 mesi fa
  • The Rock: "Take steroids."

    L SL S10 mesi fa
  • thank you for these video's you put up on your channel. i'v learned a lot from them. :)

    SwiftySwifty10 mesi fa
  • Huh, I never knew that if Kevin Hart, The Rock, and Jack Black fused it would make Harambe. The more you know.

    Sam ThalenSam Thalen10 mesi fa
  • Wish I could afford Charisma University 😩 like $600 bro

    BeccaBecca11 mesi fa
  • This is why I'm subscribed

    MorfikMorfik11 mesi fa
  • I am not shy i am just introvert.

    Omnipotent 000Omnipotent 00011 mesi fa
  • Do a video on Hassan Minhaj

    Ayokunle OniAyokunle Oni11 mesi fa
  • Hi guys! I’m not sure if you already covered this in your previous videos, but there is a character on The Office, Robert California. He has a very interesting personality around him. I figured, it would be interesting for you to analyze him. Sure, he’s a made up character, and his style is a bit hyperbolically enhanced, a magnetic character nonetheless.

    Artem TykhovArtem Tykhov11 mesi fa
  • Great video, yet again :D

    Aishwarya ThapliyalAishwarya Thapliyal11 mesi fa
  • That kids not wrong tho. 20 something and interviewing The Rock on a tropical island?? You ain’t going nothing but down after that

    Friendly Neighborhood CrackheadFriendly Neighborhood Crackhead11 mesi fa
  • "I need 7-8 hours of sleep. That's a lie"! ...

    SInghSIngh11 mesi fa
  • Jack Black is literally a National Treasure.

    Grey lGrey l11 mesi fa
  • 'the 2-minute rule' - 13 minute video

    Declan LambertDeclan Lambert11 mesi fa
  • So be a slap knee comedian aawww

    Barbara LeidenfrostBarbara Leidenfrost11 mesi fa
  • My one trick for going from shy to confident: a l c o h o l

    Awesum BearAwesum Bear11 mesi fa
    • @ProdByBubzuru What? xD, check with your doctor about the memory loss, alcohol is a legal drug, and I'm glad it is :)

      DevDreamsDevDreams4 mesi fa
    • @Dalen Bennett not weed , drugs only work for so long benzos are the best for confidence but you wont remember it hahah

      ProdByBubzuruProdByBubzuru4 mesi fa
    • Or weed

      Dalen BennettDalen Bennett5 mesi fa
    • T R U E

      Ben O. VerbichBen O. Verbich9 mesi fa
  • Whenever I'm nervous to introduce myself and talk to someone I always think to myself, "they're probably just as or even more nervous than me" and *believing* that I'll be leading the conversation always ends up with me *actually* leading it. When I started leading conversations I got more comfortable and secure with the people I talked to and my confidence level just kept going up.

    KillApolloKillApollo11 mesi fa
  • 00:50, wow little Kevin makes Jack Black look big.

    OPOP11 mesi fa
  • Dynamics, dynamics, remember DYNAMICS! Building and breaking tension is super effective in any aspect of communication or entertainment.

    Zion SZion S11 mesi fa
  • If you're an introverted person: Play around with the volume and tone of your voice. Get more into your characters as you tell a story. Speak as if you expect to be listened to.

    juan yorkjuan york11 mesi fa
    • 1 1 I’m introverted but your comment is why you are gonna stay shy.

      WindmillWindmill3 mesi fa
    • @Nayo Silver 1 You won't go far with this mindset, I'm super shy but I can manage to have some conversations and everything, these really work

      ahsatanvanlisahsatanvanlis4 mesi fa
    • 1 1 he’s just giving tips.... you don’t have to

      Nami ZNami Z10 mesi fa
    • Genaro Silvera chillll bro. he’s just trying to help 🥺

      Nami ZNami Z10 mesi fa
    • Genaro Silvera 😂😂

      Rod ERod E10 mesi fa
  • Please do a video on Harry’s Styles charisma he’s everywhere rn

    rachel acholarachel achola11 mesi fa
  • "the same approach that *JACK OF* ten does"

    Harm KotzeHarm Kotze11 mesi fa
  • It is really interesting how it varies what society appreciates or at least tolerates/sees as confident/positive based on culture/age/gender/looks. For example some of your suggestions would be viewed as attention-grabbing and bad style in many european places. Also I think some of it is only accepted in men, not in women or some gets strange/creepy when you are older.

    Bjula lulaBjula lula11 mesi fa
  • Well it's much easier to have charisma when your rich and famous.

    Ghost Ridah AK47Ghost Ridah AK4711 mesi fa
    • @Otto Echo Ah, good point. I never looked at it that way. Interesting.

      Ghost Ridah AK47Ghost Ridah AK4711 mesi fa
    • Ghost Ridah AK47 Charisma made them rich and famous

      Otto EchoOtto Echo11 mesi fa
  • My problem isn't drawing attention! It's knowing when to deflect and when to lean into my awkwardness. Being super awkward in every social situation is literally my thing.

    RichardRichard11 mesi fa

    Maria AyalaMaria Ayala11 mesi fa
  • okay, but I cannot high five to every girl

    jj jjj j11 mesi fa
  • What if you don't have anything good to say?

    David S.David S.11 mesi fa
  • Aw man, no love for Karen Gillan?

    V XXIIIV XXIII11 mesi fa
  • Lucifer Morningstar!!!!

    Уейд УилсонУейд Уилсон11 mesi fa
  • Lucifer Morningstar Serial “Lucifer” Tom Ellis Please

    Уейд УилсонУейд Уилсон11 mesi fa
  • I’ve never felt more alone than I do at this very moment. I’m too weird to be normal but too normal too be weird. I just got out of a two year relationship. I got my own spot but I’m currently sleeping on a one inch piece of memory foam on the floor. I was never good at making friends. Right now my confidence is shot. How do I not go crazy? I feel so worthless.

    girandspongegirandsponge11 mesi fa
  • How do i become better friends with more people when its already halfway intk my 3rd year with these people? Its too late to just, start conversations with "strangers". They know me, but i want them to know me different

    Buff NatsukiBuff Natsuki11 mesi fa
  • can you please look at Paul Walker - One of the most humble celebs to walk this planet and everyone liked him

    HopalongHopalong11 mesi fa