How To ACTUALLY Change Someone’s Mind

30 dic 2019
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Changing someone’s mind is hard. I believe a huge part of the reason boils down to the fact that we often trigger one another’s emotional defenses before the content of our arguments can be evaluated.
That’s why in this video I want to give you 5 do’s and don’ts to actually change someones mind and we’ll be using Steven Crowder’s “Change My Mind” segment to do it .

0:48 - #1: When persuading someone, go slow.
2:10 - #2: Build rapport.
4:08 - #3: Don't use insults.
5:49 - #4: Concisely summarize how the other person feels.
7:45 - #5: Make it clear that you're speaking from your individual perception of reality.
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  • Crowder is a shill and has very little intellectual honesty

    Wick JohnWick John11 ore fa
  • You couldn’t find anyone other than Steven? Seriously ? A Trump sycophant.

  • hE’s NoT tRyInG tO cHaNgE ThEiR mInDs He’S iNvItInG tHeM tO tRy To cHaNgE hIs

    Emily GrieseEmily Griese4 giorni fa
  • I really like Steven Crowder but don't always agree with his tactics. Good you pointed out both. Thanks for this video. Great content.

    Beth CoddingtonBeth Coddington4 giorni fa
  • Steven definitely changes from person to person. If he knows that he can't he convince a person within the time he has, or how they come at him then he leans into dunking on them.

    Ethan S.Ethan S.5 giorni fa
  • What a load

    yegfreethinkeryegfreethinker6 giorni fa
  • Steven crouder isn't all that he just talks with people who aren't that intelligent and skilled like college students.

    Underdog 378Underdog 3786 giorni fa
  • Whaaaaaatttt? Steven is a human and does well and makes mistakes as well?????

    Joshua HawleyJoshua Hawley6 giorni fa
  • You can't change someone's mind unless they let you. The end. Video shortened.

    KuraidoKuraido6 giorni fa
  • Yousuf killed crowder!

    BlackFyrBlackFyr7 giorni fa
  • It's time for Charisma on Command to reveal themselves as a right wing news source. They fail to hide their biases

    Peter Van osdolPeter Van osdol8 giorni fa
  • You talk so quickly it’s hard to follow. I went to an Ivy League school I have a hard time keeping up.

    pennfootballpennfootball8 giorni fa
  • I'm excited to learn this skill, do you cover similar content in other videos with different examples? This one makes me reactive and I'm having trouble learning

    kitkatliz1495kitkatliz14959 giorni fa
  • 10:15 apropos video clip here! Hit in the Ball previously under his own control

    Jeremy HelmJeremy Helm10 giorni fa
  • Unsafe Space channel is good

    Miki DewberryMiki Dewberry11 giorni fa
  • Some of the clips he includes are just random and hilarious. Like the guy who misdribbled and crashed

    Blake WelchBlake Welch12 giorni fa
  • Sometimes you are trying to change the minds of the crowd or audience, thus making "dunks" effective. I wouldn't say it works every time, but it's a good tool to use in debate.

    Fortune MashaFortune Masha12 giorni fa
  • Hitchens is fun to watch and has fantastic wit but he is a poor debater and overall his stance only wins through overwhelming any sort of understanding that may be made. A clip i once saw had him debating a religious man (as it often goes), a crowd member asked a question of him and he flat out did not answer and instead went off on tangents and personal attacks on his opponent. The crowd loved it and it was fun to watch but he never definitively answered the question. His answer was less sure then the reason the crowd asked in the first place. But he won simply because he overwhelmed the guy actually trying to argue points. Hitchens is poor on many fronts but his charisma and wit make him a great person to watch and listen too.

    Toby O'NeilToby O'Neil13 giorni fa
  • easy; giving counterfacts or counterarguments. If you don't change its mind, you will blow it.

    OverxpossedOverxpossed13 giorni fa
  • Do you have any videos on William Lane Craig?

    Diego TobaskiDiego Tobaski14 giorni fa
  • on the segments that you show crowder getting mad. Some times it was just he got mad, but others from what i see he is using the insult tactic to win over the crowd gathering instead.

    Steve JobsSteve Jobs14 giorni fa
  • 2:48 the legend says he was only 9 years old

    Feli JacoboFeli Jacobo15 giorni fa
  • You really like the alt right don’t you?

    Robert CantspellRobert Cantspell16 giorni fa
    • Does he? Logical discussion, illogical discussion, persuasive verbatim, political rhetoric and personal opinion are not subject to just one side but it turns out that one side is a better conduit of those things and displays it in more abundance. Crowder covers everything the video says, both positive and negative. Is there any left speakers who encompasses all of that and also has a ready archive available to use? Is their a left leaning speaker who can match what Jorden Peterson puts out across the board? These alt right guys are perfect examples to highlight persuasion and discussion tactics. And using them as an example signifies nothing except an acceptance of their ability to persuade and debate and through that a way for breakdowns of what they do. It is not 'liking' them that gets them on the show.

      Toby O'NeilToby O'Neil13 giorni fa
  • Bash it with a hammer.

    IIIRattleHeadIIIIIIRattleHeadIII16 giorni fa
  • I'd like to see someone retaliate on Steven's domination of space in these segments. He's always leaning into the other person's space in a way that's aggressive and borderline physically threatening. Just once, someone should match his posture and lean into him the way he leans into others, going literally nose to nose with him, rather than meekly leaning back and conceding the space, as the subjects in this video do. It wouldn't change anyone's mind, but it would underscore on an obvious bullying tactic.

    Digby BainesDigby Baines17 giorni fa
  • Crowder never wants to debate a peer in the ITworlds community like Dave Pakman, Sam Seder or Kyle Kulinski. He only wants to bring his massive binder and preprepared arguments to lecture unprepared students. He is a coward.

    Horatio HuskissonHoratio Huskisson17 giorni fa
  • Steven is a joke

    thepap 000thepap 00017 giorni fa
  • Shoutout to everyone commenting about how the show is meant to change HIS mind. You missed the point because that ain’t it.

    Mauricette ElizabethMauricette Elizabeth17 giorni fa
  • 4:22 This guy 100% deserved it that's not Steven's fault at all!

    Kourosh Rm7Kourosh Rm718 giorni fa
  • Stevens wife must be a banshee to go to bat with. Or he just controls the hell outta her by using manipulative persuasion and reason 😂 love this stuff.

    Sancho SanchezSancho Sanchez23 giorni fa
  • Steven isn't there to change his mind, he's just there to make money off the right wing cucks who watch them, as they type in his comment section "HUEHUE HE OWN DA LIBS"

    darkyperv34darkyperv34Mese fa
  • Do a video on Hitchens, please

    Jesse RJesse RMese fa
  • The point of change my mind isn't always to change minds. Sometimes it does but the focus is to rationalize opinions on controversial topics

    Payton AxtellPayton AxtellMese fa
  • you do realize this how people get shot in public,by trying to force people to change there mind

    Charles DeLiberisCharles DeLiberisMese fa
  • Yeah i would love to debate someone in person i think it would be cool.

    Hard Core GamerHard Core Gamer2 mesi fa
  • Since a lot of people are talking about this, I always thought the "Change My Mind" thing was more to have his opponent clearly articulate and defend their opinions rather than just screaming profanities and insults, and repeating memes, jokes, and skewed statistics from social media.

    SFxTAGG3SFxTAGG32 mesi fa
  • This is a useless video

    The Time NinjaThe Time Ninja2 mesi fa
  • To a magician rapport is useless? I’m professional magician and the first thing I do is establishing rapport. You can get people amazed or laughing if they dislike you.

    Pedro AmaralPedro Amaral2 mesi fa
    • _Logician_ not magician. I heard magician at first, too, but I listened to it again, and I remembered the word logician from my freshmen year philosophy professor. This even makes more sense: To a _logic-ian_ only logic matters, to a Magic-ian, as I'm sure you (a fellow man of mystery) already know this, the real magic is done before you ever start the sleight of hand.

      The BandogThe Bandog17 giorni fa
  • Thanks

    Lucelio RodriguesLucelio Rodrigues2 mesi fa
  • Be the change that you want to see. People will follow if they feel that you are sincere.

    Samson the NaziriteSamson the Nazirite2 mesi fa
  • The point of change my mind is to change Steven crowders mind not for Him to change they’re minds even though he does change minds some time

    Anime lover HAVENAnime lover HAVEN2 mesi fa
  • Steven says it over and over and maybe the name should reflect it, but those videos are less for him to have his mind cancer and more for a discussion to take place where both sides can have their viewpoints discussed and be put out in the open for people to see without it devolving into a screaming match and I think to that end he’s done pretty well.

    Judah RiningerJudah Rininger3 mesi fa
  • Of your videos that I have watched, this is definitely the best.

    descentplayerdescentplayer3 mesi fa
  • Hip hop wave? I don't belive that is a thing. Lmfao

    CMF1727CMF17273 mesi fa
  • As good as your points are, about 60% of the population seems to be incapable of honesty.

    Cannonball BearCannonball Bear3 mesi fa
  • This misses the entire point

    Ian NavarroIan Navarro3 mesi fa
  • sub 2 pewdiepie 😂😂😂

    Panda girlPanda girl3 mesi fa
  • It's so strange to hear crowder shoot down any argument used against him that is based on feeling, when he is literally a christian, which is founded on faith (aka the belief without proof)

    Cryptic CobraCryptic Cobra3 mesi fa
  • if that blue shirt guy really changed his mind, that's the first time I've seen a debate have any value in 30 years

    PrawPraw3 mesi fa
  • I think Stevens fair I think your weak.

    Fiacra DoyleFiacra Doyle3 mesi fa
  • I like how your videos are apolitical and unbiased no matter who you talk about

    Genesis RailGenesis Rail3 mesi fa
  • I didn't realise that you've showed me on your advert that I am already that man...Thank you so have changed my thinking and my mind set...bless you for your inspiration....

    Steve ClarkeSteve Clarke3 mesi fa
  • That is a very strange clip at 7:42. Crowder has long sleeves on, pantsless and has about a dozen heat lamps on him and Ben. Very strange.

    Daniel VoylesDaniel Voyles3 mesi fa
  • You missed the whole point of "Change My Mind".....

    TheFunnyguy9000TheFunnyguy90003 mesi fa
  • I think u missed the point, the segment of change my mind is not for Steven crowder to change their mind but for them to Change Steven’s mind.

    Rachel G.Rachel G.3 mesi fa
  • Ummm.... the point of his segment isn't to actually have his kind changed..... it's the his "hook" when talking about controversial topics. Also I think the main point is to remind people to have a civil and respectful discussion. IE, not belittleing or throwing jabs at the other side.

    Joel ZabikJoel Zabik3 mesi fa
  • The thumbnail makes Steven look like Tom Hanks in "Burbs"

    Meme Rights ActivistMeme Rights Activist3 mesi fa
  • Did you just use a clip from a PureFlix movie? Oh my god is dead, I love this.

    Gay BowserGay Bowser3 mesi fa
  • Truth is the guy is NEVER going to change his mind and the program is designed to change others minds. It’s best to analyze the statement your given to change is mind about, it’s a bit of a trap

    Nicholas HaleyNicholas Haley3 mesi fa
  • I see whachu did there. Built, concept, pitch, quote, appeal. Nice try Mr.

    GabbaGabba3 mesi fa
  • Russell Brand is a rude bully, and not even slightly funny.

    SJDSJD3 mesi fa
  • 4:50 Crowder starts being a snowflake because he was losing the socialism “debate”. That’s what happens when he makes the videos Live.

    GKs SPYGKs SPY3 mesi fa
  • I like change my mind. You get to find out what both sides actually think without relying on the media to tell you what both sides think.

    Stephan JoubertStephan Joubert3 mesi fa
  • This showed up in my recommended (I'm subscribed to the channel) and I was pleasantly surprised. I hate Crowder a little less now. Still think his views are generally atrocious, but eh. Love your work!

    Taylor BessTaylor Bess3 mesi fa
  • I don’t agree with most of his stands but I watch cuz he is a great debater and he is so damn funny

    vincent sheinvincent shein3 mesi fa
  • Good film to watch about this topic is “12 angry men”

    Sascha BlumenstielSascha Blumenstiel3 mesi fa
  • Movie? 1:42

    Komail SayedKomail Sayed3 mesi fa
  • Often times in debates it's not about changing the mind of the opponent, but rather the audience. Hence the reason many debates try to get as large an audience as possible. If it really was just about the 2 arguers, they could do that in private and in private, there's actually more possibility of a change of mind due to less pressure in being proven wrong by one person in private vs being proved wrong in front of many people.

    aussj4linkaussj4link3 mesi fa
  • I think the whole point of change my mind is for the audience watching to start thinking.

    ChaimChaim3 mesi fa
  • Someone’s a little butthurt over Crowder

    SymphonicAnarchySymphonicAnarchy3 mesi fa
  • I will say you are misrepresenting Steven crowder. His segment is about some one changing his mind.

    clwillie2000clwillie20003 mesi fa
  • Shut up, we all know we watch Steven to watch Sjw etc react being triggered

    Jashua MartinezJashua Martinez3 mesi fa
  • The whole point if change my mind is to give people an opportunity to change HIS mind

    Zach LehkyiZach Lehkyi4 mesi fa
  • The dude that makes these videos is the most dangerous man in the world

    Tal RoyalTal Royal4 mesi fa
  • This has nothing to do with the ourpose of the video ( which is great) but i just want to say that actually changing the mind of his oponents might not be the main goal of steven, but to show hiw wrong gheir arhuments are so other people will change their mind. Probably

    Ana Lucia CamachoAna Lucia Camacho4 mesi fa
  • so what you are saying is, you will never change someone's mind online in the comments! Well that will save me a few hours per week.

    shouldsleep1shouldsleep14 mesi fa
  • most people are too prideful to have their minds changed

    stickystick105stickystick1054 mesi fa
  • I think it's sad we need a tutorial on how to change someone's mind. In the perfect world, saying the truth and clearly showing evidence and proof for it, should be all that's necessary.

    CapyBoi-7CapyBoi-74 mesi fa
  • Your title is flawed though. His title is change MY mind. He is going out to hear other beliefs and rationalize them through convos. He not doing it to directly change the minds of the ones he sits with.

    Dakota JamesDakota James4 mesi fa
  • That girl that had balls was kinda cute lol I do notice Crowded brings the "punch line" later. It's usually unsuspected.

    Clarence MClarence M4 mesi fa
  • Where I come from, it's very common to ask where people we just met are from. Then we tell them what we know about the place even the language that they speak sometimes. I just realized it serve to build rapport with the strangers.

    April YaniApril Yani4 mesi fa
  • 4:22 Steven did that because the white shirt guy was acting disrespectful and uncivil since the beginning of the conversation

    Cups EditsCups Edits4 mesi fa
  • If 2 in a debate "go slow" on each other?

    SamarSamar4 mesi fa
  • Steven does not say he wants to change minds, he wants other people to change his is unfair to try to show that he is not that good at changing minds when that is not his real goal...

    Luis SerranoLuis Serrano4 mesi fa
  • What i dont like about Crowder, is how invasive he is physically while talking to people.

    Gmail AccountGmail Account4 mesi fa
  • Change my mind (but I actually won't change my mind lol)

    A very handsome ChileanA very handsome Chilean4 mesi fa
  • step 1. Look opponent in the eyes step 2. Remove pants step 3 *assert dominance* 7:35

    ZeenixZeenix4 mesi fa
  • Debates don't exist to change your oponents mind. They exist to present your point of view and that you are able to defend it. Crowder usually just shows you how the "I have two semesters of gender studies I know everything" crowd melts when you put them in situation when they have to defend ideas instead of repeating them.

    Nazael RahlNazael Rahl4 mesi fa
  • hes more so doing it for discussion, but i still like the video

    Aiden NelsonAiden Nelson4 mesi fa
  • I very strongly believe that in order to change someone's position, you need to give them the same respect that you are demanding they give you. This is unconditional. This means that if you are arguing with a flat earther, you need to be actually willing to change your mind given the right evidence and arguments. If you are LGBT, which i fully support, you need to be willing to change your mind in order to win a supporter.

    TafellappenTafellappen4 mesi fa
  • 2:45 bruh

    John Donrick ZernaJohn Donrick Zerna4 mesi fa
  • How to change conservatives' mind: use logics, facts, and stats. How to change liberals': nah, you can't. They are so open-minded that there is not enough facts and stats to fit in there.

    Minh VuMinh Vu4 mesi fa
  • I'd say 74% of the views here are husbands who try and win arguments with their wives. 23% are the wives training. 3% are like me, trying to get smart.

    somelamename how about mr.jukeboxsomelamename how about mr.jukebox4 mesi fa
  • For me, subjectively speaking, building rapport, if there is a political view behind that, is *DEMAGOGY*, especially if there is a depreciation of arguments with sometimes, false counterarguments.

    Gatos y té.Gatos y té.4 mesi fa
  • Awesome thank you so much for this video.

    Dio TitusDio Titus4 mesi fa
  • "Go Slow" *Smirks in ben shapiro*

    6969 Subscribers With No Videos Challenge6969 Subscribers With No Videos Challenge4 mesi fa
  • I tried all of this on my mom. Spoiler: it did not work.😂😃😂😃😂😃

    dasis terosdasis teros4 mesi fa
  • Great video and very much appreciate the time stamps for the different steps or tips

    NinjaNutz ForFunNinjaNutz ForFun4 mesi fa