How To Flirt Without Being Creepy

26 ago 2019
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No one teaches you how to flirt, which is a shame, because it means that sometimes, even with the best of intentions, you can come across as creepy. In fact, it’s more common than you might think. If you like someone you do NOT want that to be the case.
In this video, you’re going to learn 4 common ways that you might be creeping your flirt out without even realizing it. You will also learn what you can do to adjust so that you come across as cool, confident and suave.

0:22 - Adjustment #1: Use the goldilocks rule when making eye contact.
1:14 - Adjustment #2: Combine sincere compliments with a joke.
2:07 - Adjustment #3: Your touch should not be too light or heavy.
3:05 - Adjustment #4: Don’t make them feel trapped.
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  • People call me weird

    Garion RamseyGarion Ramsey2 giorni fa
  • The animator needs to calm down. Reminds me of the special effects guy from monster bug wars. We get it my guy! No need to go to such extremes cause it can end up being UNeducational and distracting.

    AcidDomeAcidDome4 mesi fa
  • hahaha that animation though

    Proudly KenyanProudly Kenyan4 mesi fa
  • 2:47my siri is on danish and has voice recognition, and every time i get to this point, siri turns on for some reason

    ー ボイドジービー ボイドジービ5 mesi fa
  • It's a sad truth that women hold the power in these situations (90% of the time). Girls have way more options than men when it comes to securing a partner on a night out - and I never want to be just "another guy" queuing for that "hot" girl at the bar so I forever stay away from even trying to flirt. I daren't even make eye contact in case she quickly darts her eyes away from that "weirdo" trying to get her attention. I'm just not that guy. Is there a way to change my mindset here?

    SuperMisterKorySuperMisterKory5 mesi fa
    • @Divine Yeah, I've tried online dating too and even that's a chore. Don't get me wrong, it's still worked well for me once or twice in the past but I still feel it's very similar (if not exactly the same) as trying to chat someone up at a bar. Maybe even worse? Girls will still get bombarded with messages off guys queueing up to be at the front of the line to talk to them; and I've found that if the girl ever does message back then it's usually blunt and difficult to get a conversation unless they're actually interested in YOU. Not to mention that's IF you get a message back - SO many girls I've found simply ignore you. Which is straight up irritating. My dad even once told me you'll message bunch of girls and only maybe one or two will actually reply. It's just the way it is. Plus, getting to choose what pics you put up, everyone puts up their best pictures from their best angles and it's rarely an accurate portrayal of reality, so I find that side of it somewhat deceiving also. As you can see, I've had my fair share of failures and missed shots without being needy or a try-hard. Not to mention the heartbreak from certain girls in the past as well - honestly, I just can't be arsed with it any more. Hahah. Rather than try in all of these different social ways (bars, networking, etc.), I honestly think the best way to meet someone is to just go on with your daily life and not necessarily "pursue" looking for someone. Don't force or fake a personality and don't force yourself into someone's life either. The right person will come along naturally, they'll like you for you and it's easier to ask them out for a date if you see them and converse frequently enough. Like you say, it could be a friend of a friend, someone you see in a class you take, maybe even a work mate (within reason), either way I personally think chasing someone isn't worth the hassle. Maybe when I was a teenager and I didn't know any better, but now I'm slowly approaching 30 I think the right girl will eventually come along at the right time - and I'm not impatient enough to let that happen whenever it does. Sorry for the essay, I've evidently got a lot to say on this topic haha.

      SuperMisterKorySuperMisterKory3 mesi fa
    • We already have solutions for this queuing issue with online dating. I personally think the quality of partner at both bars and online dating is god awful. You're best looking for someone through an alumni network, through a friends friend or just straight up shooting your shot on Insta. Getting partners on nights out has gotten so bad that people literally relate to it with a negative preconceived notion, i.e. "Nothing good can come of this".

      DivineDivine3 mesi fa
  • Wtf are these animations

    Jaden DoddJaden Dodd6 mesi fa
  • Littlefinger needs to watch this

    Captain XiiooongCaptain Xiiooong7 mesi fa
  • 1:55 CoC know's what's up.

    John DoeJohn Doe7 mesi fa
  • Lol I’m here because I’m actually dating a guy that was super creepy when we 1st met. He was just staring at me hard core across the bar and being serious. He didn’t even smile back when I tried to smile at him (thought he was a bit creepy but also cute) I’m glad I was able to tell him in a joking way and he felt so bad he said he never realized he was being creepy. Lol. But idk I get a little weirded out by it still since he can get pretty serious and gets this scary look on his face 😬

    Miriam DavisMiriam Davis7 mesi fa
  • So no wall is better than a real wall

    Jeremy TheimerJeremy Theimer9 mesi fa
  • 03:11 I can confirm, it’s oddly annoying and creepy when someone who’s taller blocks me like that

    manaar منارmanaar منار9 mesi fa
  • some of this are straight out common sense, but when the nerve is struck and the tension is up I do it anyway. somehow.

    metalperslfxmetalperslfx9 mesi fa
  • loool look at dem huge titties

    hangukhiphophangukhiphop10 mesi fa
  • This is hilarious

    Take the red pillTake the red pill10 mesi fa
  • lol these animations are hilarious

    SlyyvieSlyyvie10 mesi fa
  • I know this art of flirting no big deal and I end up with a happy blocking by the girl

    Abhay BishtAbhay Bisht10 mesi fa
  • flirting needs to become extinct. just use your words and learn how to take rejection if you're that concerned with having a sexual partner. we're not in the wild.

    Some PersonSome Person10 mesi fa
  • Look dude, the object is to make her give you signals or signs that she is open to you talking to her. Or, how about making her pursue you.... it can happen, I have seen it.

    Marcus WittMarcus Witt10 mesi fa
  • 2:10 when i see a dog

    DD11 mesi fa
  • The part about the club reminded me of a funny situation that I had. I was pretty drunk and at the club with friends. My friend had a glow stick necklace, and dropped it. I picked it up and put it around this random girl. She turns around and I grab her hand and we started dancing. I let her go and turn around to my friends. My cousin said he knew I was messed up because she was tapping me trying to get my attention the whole night, but I kept ignoring her. It was also funny because I didn’t recall much of that night and realized afterwards. Long story short use a glow stick necklace to pick up girls at the club.

    Haitham YassenHaitham Yassen11 mesi fa
  • Honestly if someone just stares at me for even a few seconds and smiles I get creeped out-

    7 Rings7 Rings11 mesi fa
  • Feat. Kurzgesagt?

    Ian AlejandroIan AlejandroAnno fa
  • Your dad

    DGDGAnno fa
  • this whole animation is discomforting

    HonkBolHonkBolAnno fa
  • These graphics look like a Mortal Kombat guy performing fatalities or X-rays on a poor woman. 😂

    JoJo BaBokJoJo BaBokAnno fa
  • Lol just be single...........easy solve

    bernard koeybernard koeyAnno fa
  • this looks like a Kurzgesagt video

    AlessandroXVIAlessandroXVIAnno fa
  • Know if they want you around, if you think they don’t then leave it.

    afootineachworldafootineachworldAnno fa
  • Those boob physics are top notch

    Brandon MonroeBrandon MonroeAnno fa
  • Did you use Exurb1as song in this video? I didn't know you also were a fan!

    EBDEBDAnno fa
  • wish that this video had made its way to the kid who thought that randomly touching a girl on the shoulder from the shadows was a good thing. Hes now facing jail time.

    Action Figure LairAction Figure LairAnno fa
  • Flirt with the girl if you want to date her. Flirt with her dad if you want to marry her.

    Rock StylerRock StylerAnno fa

    EEAnno fa
  • #5: if she’s giving you cues that she isnt interested, dont keep pestering her over and over, respect it

    liz hliz hAnno fa
  • this animation is super creepy xD

    Emily JaneEmily JaneAnno fa
  • Awesome

    hsasmgablehsasmgableAnno fa
  • Some people here find the animation creepy. I found it was kinda cute

    Viktor NguyenViktor NguyenAnno fa
  • The animation is so great x')

    Mr StrangeCakeMr StrangeCakeAnno fa
  • Do Andrew Yang!

    MonkizakiMonkizakiAnno fa
  • Models is a great book

    Aniseoul TvAniseoul TvAnno fa
  • I hate TikTok. Have a nice day :)

    S.L. S.S.L. S.Anno fa
  • I always followed the advice not to approach girls from behind on the dancefloor. Until a few weeks ago I saw a guy basically hugging a really nice (but rather shy) girl from behind and starting to dance with her. I kept watching them and some 30 minutes later they were kissing right there.

    LoserDestinyLoserDestinyAnno fa
  • smile back?? man girls turn their eyes away from me in 0,00000000000001 sec

    Nikt NiewiemNikt NiewiemAnno fa
  • The animation and comments here are gold.

    Nagano YTNagano YTAnno fa
  • 3:10 any woman would be horrified if some guy danced like that

    King IsaacKing IsaacAnno fa
  • We need a book recommendation for women as well - how to successfully flirt for long term relationships, i.e. how to attract a good man with long-term intentions and not one-night-stand intentions.

    binbodabinbodaAnno fa
  • Don't forget to constantly dance with her.

    Tad StrangeTad StrangeAnno fa
  • Please, I've been myself for years and nothing ever worked out.

    badreligion1231badreligion1231Anno fa
  • Too bad you’re a Patriots fan we can never hang out again.

    Kenneth CruzKenneth CruzAnno fa
  • Honestly work on your looks and be more attractive, being ugly makes up the most of being creepy to women.

    Bonezius PilatuzBonezius PilatuzAnno fa
  • That's exurb1a's dog wrestler waltz. I hope you asked him first.

    Akarsh chaturvediAkarsh chaturvediAnno fa
  • Kurxheghsst animation style

    Zetsuke4Zetsuke4Anno fa
  • Those animations😂👍

    demoixdemoixAnno fa
  • 3:32 im friggin 5.8 what size? P.s. The animations look familiar ( you should do more)

    samsamAnno fa
  • I love exurb1a's music in the background

    Samuel GordonSamuel GordonAnno fa
  • How to do jokes?

    Sam JudgeSam JudgeAnno fa
  • I must just be really old or something, because I don't remember ever seeing dancing booths. I guess it's just what you crazy kids are doing these days?

    mobspeakmobspeakAnno fa
  • haha these animations are funkkyy

    Cape EnieerCape EnieerAnno fa
  • 3:29 this scene is nightmare fuel for me

    dethplaquedethplaqueAnno fa
  • So I am a man 😭😂😂😂

    rowan mohamedrowan mohamedAnno fa
  • That background Music... exurb1a. Solid choice.

    Caleb TuckerCaleb TuckerAnno fa
  • how to flirt 1 . start flirting.

    B FROM AB FROM AAnno fa
  • you speak spanish?

    Jaximus ACT NJaximus ACT NAnno fa
  • The way makes have to court females makes me feel sick

    row0111row0111Anno fa
  • If they like you, be yourself. If they don't, you're a creep. Move on.

    E.P. ManneE.P. ManneAnno fa
  • But what about the implications

    MaraxusofkMaraxusofkAnno fa
  • Good video but i find the animations too over the top, they distract me from what you're trying to say

    JohannesJohannesAnno fa
  • I went on a date and did that weird dance while she was pinned against the wall. It worked! Thanks!

    johndavies115johndavies115Anno fa
  • I want to know how to be creepy without having to flirt

    Bastian RiveroBastian RiveroAnno fa
  • 1:06 pls someone caption this

    Black styfyBlack styfyAnno fa
  • These animations.....

    MicoolaMicoolaAnno fa
  • Double standards amirite

    Absent MindedAbsent MindedAnno fa
  • Jokes on the women, I'm terrified of them.

    NarxesNarxesAnno fa
  • The man portrayed in the video is on crack

    KabutoesKabutoesAnno fa
  • Am I the only one who noticed the "exurb1a" music in the background?

    Bojidar StoykovBojidar StoykovAnno fa
  • not going to cite Our Lord and Saviour exurb1a as the author of the music even if its free to use?

    Ivo AndričićIvo AndričićAnno fa
  • That excurb1a music tho

    B. BlokzijlB. BlokzijlAnno fa
  • Any advise

    seven love luckyseven love luckyAnno fa
  • If you're interested in flirting you should take a look at attractiongym! Usefull tips with real life video examples

    RiecoRiecoAnno fa
  • Ya know, this is a pretty high quality video. It has a sort of educational tone to it, so it’s interesting to think about all the viewers coming out here to learn... everyone here has been creepy at least on accident at least once

    Austin SargeantAustin SargeantAnno fa
  • How to flirt without being creepy: 1. Be attractive. 2. Don't be not attractive.

    Tim Mosso's N95 MaskTim Mosso's N95 MaskAnno fa
  • I was *JUST* reading Models. It's an excellent book.

    youssarian91youssarian91Anno fa
  • thx dude ❤️

    Night Fury 24Night Fury 24Anno fa
  • The one thing I learned during my dating life: If the girl likes you, you can be creepy as and the girls still thinks it is cute. But for the first contacts the video is pretty accurate.

    MMAnno fa
  • Step 1: Be attractive

    Royce BunceRoyce BunceAnno fa
  • Could you make a video on how to be comfortable not being comfortable? How to address it in a funny way rather than coming across as awkward?

    HaniHaniAnno fa
  • Hey this is all well and good but you got any tips for the LGBT community? As a Lez I find it impossible to know if I'm being flirted with or am flirting properly

    AmeAmeAnno fa
  • Is this kurzgesagt artwork?

    Roland VirágRoland VirágAnno fa
  • Agreeeeeeeeee. Holly heck.

    Average CAverage CAnno fa
  • In otherwords you have to be a perfect robot and wake around on eggshells

    identity Europaidentity EuropaAnno fa
  • what no one tells you it that in 90% it depends on how good you look and that is based un some studies that put women in the a situation where 1 ugly guy said the same thing as the hot guy but 1 was creepy and the other not XD Mans either u go to the gym and improve or just go mgtow or do both :v

    Gabriel AnghelGabriel AnghelAnno fa
    • also never listen to any advice women give you in dating becasue most of them have no clue what it feels like to make the first step..

      Gabriel AnghelGabriel AnghelAnno fa
  • Alpha M copycat ?

    skyouskyouAnno fa
  • I was wondering why just pulling my pants down wasn't working.

    J TJ TAnno fa
  • This seems to be specific to men. Would you give the same advice to women?

    Seelen SturmSeelen SturmAnno fa
  • These animations are so obnoxiously disturbing and funny lol

    SancLunaticSancLunaticAnno fa
  • What a very strange, creepy video - radical feminist makes demands and gives commands to men. What self-respecting man is going to obey this person? Just so weird and super creepy

    myfavsmyfavsAnno fa
  • These illustrations were so creepy...

    Erin WentzErin WentzAnno fa
  • This must be new because usually the closer you are the stronger you look

    Zer0theher0Zer0theher0Anno fa
  • what if I’m a girl and wanna make some first moves too? can you make a video for us as well please :D

    Ana HerreraAna HerreraAnno fa
    • Don't. Just stay single and spare an innocent soul

      terrible deedterrible deedAnno fa
  • i just got the book.

    Visa-Schengen WFVisa-Schengen WFAnno fa