5 Common Phrases That Ruin First Impressions

25 mar 2019
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The first impressions that you make often hinge on the smallest of things. It can be a gesticulation or a choice of words. Your first impressions snap into place in just seven seconds. These judgments are influenced by a number of factors. Choosing the right things to say and do will affect your relationship with the person you are meeting with in a big way.
In this video, I want to share 5 phrases I hear all the time that can destroy your charisma. I will also give you some things that you can say instead, so that you can continue to make amazing first impressions, and become your most confident, charismatic self in the moments that matter the most!

0:23 - Phrase #1: ”Sorry for taking your time”
1:45 - Phrase #2: “Fine”
3:03 - Phrase #3: “Hey…”
4:06 - Phrase #4: “Nice to see you”
5:07 - Phrase #5: “Can I buy you a drink/coffee?”
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  • The thing that stuck out with me was the use of the word fine. Been a personal pev since the 80's...(in my 20's then).... "How are you?" "Fine. You?"... BS! GOTDANGIT YOU'RE NOT "FINE"! I gotdang know you're not fine because...gotdangit!...almost always none of us are! "Fine"...really? You're effing fine? Doubt it! I get that it was the "polite" and expected response but just damn i knew it wasn't true. Got to a point I just couldn't say it...had to be more honest even though I knew the efn question wasn't even sincere...just peeps being polite, (then later efn PC which is even more disingenuous!). So just started answering the "Hey, how are you?" with; "I'm complex. How are you?" Years later i decided to politely lie again and just told everyone I was fabulous. This went over bettet..🙄

    Mike NorrisMike Norris3 ore fa
  • I don't leave the house.

    Age of ReasonAge of Reason6 ore fa
  • Wearing a mask. What is your cold open?

    fenestrationprofenestrationpro10 ore fa
  • This comment section is pure gold.

    Barthvader HalloweenBarthvader Halloween11 ore fa
  • subliminal ad at 6:44

    BertallicaBertallica13 ore fa
  • You should do a video on Dunning Kruger and how millennials are no different than the rest of us, when we were in our 20s we thought we knew everything and all of the adults around us knew we were wrong.

    Tinfoilhatnutcase OneTinfoilhatnutcase OneGiorno fa
  • I just call like it is. If my day is going great, I'll say "great". If my day is average I'll say "average". If my day is is terrible "I'll say "terrible". What really annoys me is when people like this commentator and many people I've met try to put on a facade .

    Derek ArmitageDerek Armitage2 giorni fa
  • Did anyone else see that subliminal nike symbol

    Susan YabeSusan Yabe2 giorni fa
  • I’m so tired of hearing people say “amazing “.

    Charlie HookerCharlie Hooker3 giorni fa
  • Fun fact: "CU" (from Charisma University" is a slur for "butt" in Portuguese.

    David DionísioDavid Dionísio4 giorni fa
  • I love this channel but my targeted ads on every video are dating apps and flirting videos.

    Boro JugovicBoro Jugovic4 giorni fa
  • This dude has more porcelain then a men's room.

    Hung RamHung Ram4 giorni fa
  • Can we just acknowledge this is one take?! That means no bs and he’s being genuine (and he’s really good at this)

    L Faker sonL Faker son5 giorni fa
  • OMG "Nice to see you" how awkward do I feel when someone I don't know says this to me!

    Wibble ClarkeWibble Clarke6 giorni fa
  • there is no such thing as 'your time' or 'my time'. time is not owned by any human being. time owns us. i'm not sold on the 'dont use fine' tip 'hey how are you!' is also one of the most used phrases in this world. and ?

    Manny DeeManny Dee6 giorni fa
  • The 2d Question, or better the Answer to the 2nd Question wont ever come up to my mind if I am not feeling well. I reask if the person who asked want to get a straight answer and really care or is it just small talk. I know, they dont feel very comfortable about it, but that is the way I am . I dont like the potemkin villages where it is shown that everything is fine, but its all fake. If I am feeling having a crappy day, I want to say it - at least if I am asked about my day. And it is not about whining, its about being honest. It doenst mean that I cant be good at my job etc. Hope you know what I mean.

    Hook HookHook Hook6 giorni fa
  • "If you're gonna say hey, at least add anything to it" Me: "Hey... i like trains"

    Spencer LeBlancSpencer LeBlanc6 giorni fa
  • Sorry, #2 might make an impression, but it's annoying. Try the proper response, "I am well, thank you." Then actually naturally extend that into a short (!) exchange about yourself or the other person. For example, "I was admiring your necklace. It makes the outfit."

    CalLadyQEDCalLadyQED7 giorni fa
  • What a crock! These shallow people who are not human enough to give the time to know another human is insincere, can view the south end of my north bound side.

    James2:19James2:198 giorni fa
  • I think I disagree with all of these. These phrases are all legitimate

    Mark FennellMark Fennell8 giorni fa
  • are you an incel?

    Canadian PatriotCanadian Patriot9 giorni fa
  • Lol first impression when someone uses a word like Gesticulation to try to sound smarter than they are. oh the juxtaposition of it all.

    Canadian PatriotCanadian Patriot9 giorni fa
  • - How are you? - Im doing awful.

    CrimsonCrimson10 giorni fa
  • What about instead of “can I buy you a drink?” simply “what would you like to drink?”

    SomerandomguySomerandomguy14 giorni fa
  • Talking with your hands too much. Comes across as forced in this video. Great advice overall though.

    あなたの ははあなたの はは14 giorni fa
  • I always answer the "how are you doing?" With "living the dream" sarcastically ofc and it works really well showing people what kind of personality you have. I'm quite reserved, but I do know how to socialize when I need to. Many times I find I attract too much attention it gets tiring sometimes, but through the years it's gotten easier to be less reserved. The trick is simply to be yourself and not care if any one person will not like you.

    Doua ThaoDoua Thao14 giorni fa
  • Have you ever noticed when someone says they are fine there is always something negative going on in their life? when people say their fine, their really saying their not ok. Fine stands for Freaked out, insecure,neurotic and emotional

    Jason HeartJason Heart14 giorni fa
  • Why is his mouth so huge?

    Minecraft SteveMinecraft Steve15 giorni fa
  • Ive never seen or heard anyone say "sorry for taking your time." I've heard and even said "sorry to bother you, but..." and I've said " thank you for giving me some time today."

    thevoxdeusthevoxdeus15 giorni fa
  • A good friend of mine has a great response to people asking how are you. He’s in his 60’s and he’s British, so it sounds even better coming from him, but the response is “I’m vertical” - and I think this pretty much works for anyone any time as long as you say in a way that doesn’t sound like an innuendo lol.

    one wondersone wonders16 giorni fa
  • Wow, you call it charisma - I call it banality. Do you have a brain or just a tongue like a drunken parrot? Typical HR style loser filled with piffle and puke.

    Mark JonesMark Jones19 giorni fa
  • Girls will understand this one: F - Forgotten I - Insecure N - Not good enough E - Empty It made me want to cry when i first read this(it was someone else's comment.)

    Mz JJMz JJ19 giorni fa

    Max Cotter-HopeMax Cotter-Hope20 giorni fa
  • The comment section will help you make better first impressions... lol.

    EnthusiastEnthusiast23 giorni fa
  • 11-1-2020 - - - - Can't listen to this guy with him waving his hands all over the place.

    q7winq7q7winq723 giorni fa
  • I would appreciate your honestly and decency here!

    Maurice drewMaurice drew24 giorni fa
  • I usually respond to "How are you?" with "I am well." What's an upgrade for that?

    themadwizardthemadwizard25 giorni fa
  • Should be, "5 Common phrases that Americans use that ruin first impressions".

    john gunningjohn gunning29 giorni fa
  • “Hi, You’re going to hate me for this...” “But I already do.”

    Tadgh SmithTadgh Smith29 giorni fa
  • Try to say their name at least 3 times.

    Ballsdeep SinghBallsdeep SinghMese fa
  • Love these videos. Who is watching ? Lets support our oages

    Shadowfax ProductionsShadowfax ProductionsMese fa
  • No problem when I hear that I want to punch the person

    tlaqjrtlaqjrMese fa
  • This guys like 15? Wise guru is he?

    Jay VolnerJay VolnerMese fa
  • I am extraordinarily bad at recognizing people by face. When I was in sales I always made it a joke. I’d tell clients when they come back to see me I’m 100% not going to remember them, but as soon as they tell me their name I’d remember their life story. They thought it was funny and definitely helped the next time we saw each other.

    Sarah PryorSarah PryorMese fa
  • I have NEVER thought of someone wanting to "buy" my time when they're offering to buy me a drink or lunch or anything. My first thought is this person is interested in you (or whoever) and wants to get to know more about you. But, you know, everybody's different. These tips aren't going to work for everybody as a lot of the things he says to say or do, had someone gone about it this way they would come off as incredibly phony to me and make me either suspicious of them or just flat out dismissive because they appear to be a psychopath who learned how mimic human behavior from a ITworlds video. Wait...I'm sensing a pattern

    Graciela MontanoGraciela MontanoMese fa
  • I always make horrible first impressions when say, a new student starts in school and I become one of the few people they trust the most by time.

    J0K3RNJ0K3RNMese fa
  • As a tradesman if I can't make an appointment that's all I tell them, and if I'm late I tell them I'm running late with no excuses no white lies people don't care why.

    Paul ActionPaul ActionMese fa
  • Somehow, answering, "I'm excellent" or "I'm amazing" to the question, "How are you today?" sounds juvenile and egocentric. How about "I am doing well, thank you for asking."

    M2M2Mese fa
  • thank u bro that video was dope

    Chris IshidaChris IshidaMese fa
  • Whoo social brainwashing FOH!!

    Neo SmithNeo SmithMese fa
  • These days I feel less solid and more squishy. Time for a walk.

    GamerPoetsGamerPoetsMese fa
  • I just used the " you look familiar, have we met before" ...my wife wasn't amused.

    DXT61DXT61Mese fa
  • People should stop asking people they don't know "How are you/How are you doing?" It's such a bad question to strangers, they don't want to know the real answer they just want to say something without committing.

    Dominica GerardDominica GerardMese fa
  • Love i t bro 🔥

    fifi kukinufifi kukinuMese fa
  • My go to when someone asks how I am is, "short and ugly, but doing the best I can with what I got."

    Stumpy1Stumpy1Mese fa
  • Okay guys I need to appear absolutely mad. I am quite good at it but I need some more inspiration.

    Chuck NorrisChuck NorrisMese fa
  • 6:44 down&left

  • gotta say... I did the "sorry" thing for 20 years... and life started improving at work almost instantly when I managed to quit the habit.

    Chris KingChris KingMese fa
  • What if the gold digging bar wench asks (or demands): "Hey, you should buy ME a drink"

    Pumpkin FacePumpkin FaceMese fa
  • *I Hate the Question, HOW ARE YOU TODAY?????* *Many Times I say, My Hymroids are Giving me TrouBLe!!! Wanna Hear About it???*

    Justin MartyrJustin MartyrMese fa
  • Hello this is my first impression

    Harry MichaelHarry MichaelMese fa
  • I saw what you just did.

    histakes12histakes12Mese fa
  • I asked my father if we'd met before and now I'm homeless

    Youp_ DijkYoup_ DijkMese fa
  • Me: “What up ho?” Beautiful woman passing by: “Omg, what a unique way to inquire about my well being. This guy is obviously a true gentleman. I must marry him immediately.” Trust me, this totally works! At least once every 9,751 times. In todays dating scene, those are some damned good odds.

    Kyle KKyle KMese fa
    • Rune M You’re right! I never even thought of that. It would be much more time efficient. I’m putting it into immediate practice!

      Kyle KKyle KMese fa
    • To be more efficient and reach 11457 women in the same amount of time yo ucould also go with "Sup ho" or even "sup'o".

      Rune MRune MMese fa
  • Don't say solid. You will come across as a try hard.

    web2ytweb2ytMese fa
  • Here in Philippines, this is useless. First impressions are built from other people's judgments.

    Alexandra GrassiAlexandra GrassiMese fa
  • I went in with my instagram username once and that was the fastest I ever got a follower

    yourangryuncleyourangryuncleMese fa
  • This video came up in my feed. I am curious about your background. What do you base your advice on? Any specific training or education other than life itself?

    Christine HChristine HMese fa
  • A cool response to an enquiry about how one feels is: "I am as well as can be expected in the circumstances." That indicates a line of conversation, such as, "To what circumstances are you referring?"

    Eric GroschEric GroschMese fa
  • no 1 kinda smh

    olusegun adeleyeolusegun adeleyeMese fa
  • Often the phrase "Can I buy you a cup of coffee" occurs in an environment where the coffee on offer is actually free, like in an office break room. There, the context is different, and the meaning of that phrase then becomes "Let's stop by the coffee station first, but I'd like to have a word with you."

    Jordan MollerJordan MollerMese fa
  • Just a small point I wanna bring up, but I personally don't really agree with the "just buy them a cup of coffee, don't ask" statement near the end. Some people aren't comfortable with getting monetary 'favours' like that from someone they don't know well, and it might even make them feel uneasy because now they feel like they need to return the favour or that they owe the person something. If you two have already decided to spend time together and you want to get them a drink while you're out together, just ask to make sure they're ok with it and don't push it if they say no!

    SyncKronysytiSyncKronysyti2 mesi fa
  • lol oh, for the love of god. seriously? and how old is this kid? lol just kidding, knock yourself out, kid :)

    carl hawkinscarl hawkins2 mesi fa
  • Director: Hey, how are you doing? Me: Why? I'm now in senior management.

    Michael WallMichael Wall2 mesi fa
  • I used to have a friend when asked how he was would respond. "I'm fair to middlen better been worse" Usually with a smile on his face.

    Guy HarrisGuy Harris2 mesi fa
  • Let me add this... especially for the new generation... QUIT SAYING UH AND UM BEFORE EVERY GODDAMN SENTENCE. You sound like a moron with dribble on your chin. I utterly despise it. I own a restaurant and will not hire people who do this in interviews just because of the fact that if they have to UH and UM their way through a convo, I don't want to be around them all day. Know what you're saying. I agree with the rest of those on this list.

    Travis ShanTravis Shan2 mesi fa
  • It helps to use mental visuals to remember a persons name. For instance, a co workers name is Angel. Picture her with wings and a halo and it will be easy to remember. One of my co workers name is Ronald. I mistakenly called him Donald (which ticked him off) . I hated to use the visual of him in a Ronald McDonald outfit, but it helped me remember his name is Ronald, not Donald. Brittany, (imagine her singing Oops I did it again, wearning a schoolgirl outfit), Mark (a big splotch). Jim (a slim jim snack sausage with his face. I know it sounds absurd, but it works...and can be amusing.

    Wendy 1967Wendy 19672 mesi fa
  • Boss: Welcome to this job interview, my name is "future boss". Nice to meet you. Me: I only have a few minutes!

    John DoeJohn Doe2 mesi fa
  • Prior to 2020...Hugs, handshakes & lack of personal hygiene Paranoia 2020 - 😨 Stay your distance, I don't want your Germs. Do you have 😷 CV???? Legend has it...Personal hygiene is still secondary

    A CA C2 mesi fa
  • I wear a mask and avoid all one-on-one contact and socialization so that, eight or nine months from now I can hear the survivors complain about their massive medical bills or members of their family that died. And that is my key to success.

    Andrew_OwensAndrew_Owens2 mesi fa
  • Hey how you doing? Succulent!

    Charlo RivardCharlo Rivard2 mesi fa
  • This assumes you WANT to talk to someone. Otherwise you're going to get short answers.

    T MT M2 mesi fa
  • A lot of the times I am in those weird situations where a person comes to me and wants to have a conversation but we just dont really share the same goals and it's really we are quite different and live different lives. Classic introvert vs extrovert situation. I dont got out pretty much at all,it's not my thing and they only know about going out and other extrovert type activities. So yea sometimes we would have a common thing that happens like an event which results in a small chat but a lot of the times it's just an awkard silence after the initial approach of the person. I probably could somehow direct the conversation to whatever topic I am versed in,but I am just not really interested in talking since we are at work. Maybe I am just pushing people away idk.

    Black dragon storyBlack dragon story2 mesi fa
  • Me: Saw ths video Me again: click faster that the speed of light

    Kenneth IbunaKenneth Ibuna2 mesi fa
  • The more I look at his face, the more I notice he has a reallllly big mouth

    BatoastaBatoasta2 mesi fa
  • How are you? I can't complain!... nobody will listen! The usual response I get is Yea, Know the feeling

    Denis AllwordenDenis Allworden2 mesi fa
  • I’m a new SOLID fan of your channel and life forward tips! 🙌🏻⚡️💪🏻💥💯✌🏻

    TheWebStylistTheWebStylist2 mesi fa
  • How do I explain myself in a word other than fine? I don't really care about explaining how I feel at the moment. Usually meaning I'm fine. I'm not great, but I'm not bad either. Just fine.

    Carryn WeldeCarryn Welde2 mesi fa
  • Hey, How 'bout that local sports team ?

    Ken QKen Q2 mesi fa
  • 1.2 M people will not say fine no more

    Akankshya BaruaAkankshya Barua2 mesi fa
  • Title: 5 phrases that ruins your first impression dude wtf your video is 8 minutes lobd

    LemònBôîLemònBôî2 mesi fa
  • This guy has the widest mouth I’ve ever seen.

    Alessandra FredrikssonAlessandra Fredriksson2 mesi fa
  • If everyone starts replying with "I'm amazing/fantastic/excellent", then a) those words lose their meaning; b) people think you're showing off; and c) some people you meet may be having a tough time with something and hearing someone say "I'm amazing" could cause them to feel a bit down. Saying "I'm fine" is neutral. If saying "Nice to see you" to everyone is being insincere, then it doesn't matter what you replace it with because you are still being insincere. Isn't it a bit cynical to think that everyone who wants to buy you a cup of coffee etc. is wanting something from you?

    Tim GomolkaTim Gomolka2 mesi fa
  • I always say I’m awsome, how about yourself.

    Jesica MercadoJesica Mercado2 mesi fa
  • Stop saying ..............'No Problem'. Replace with ................. 'My Pleasure' or 'Thank You'.

    elli003elli0032 mesi fa
  • Girl : hey enjoy your food Me: thank you , you too

    El PatronEl Patron2 mesi fa
  • When you're buying something for new people, how do u know if they gonna like it or not since you don't ask them first?

    chronomechronome2 mesi fa
  • I like this channel but a lot of this stuff sounds an awful lot like the PUA mysterys rap

    kyle dufourkyle dufour3 mesi fa
  • -"sorry for taking your time...".."'higher is stature'-implies the other person is taller than the other. I think he meant 'higher in status'-implies one person has more importance than the other

    C StephensonC Stephenson3 mesi fa
  • Great advice. Fine and Nice are two words in the English language no one over the age of 10 should be using more than once a month. Besides being non-committal, this is an excellent indicator of a poor vocabulary from an insincere or insecure person.

    Wendy ZitzmanWendy Zitzman3 mesi fa